What are you running away from?

In this series, we have three more episodes to talk about the five different degrees of self-sabotage. So far, we've covered people-pleasing and perfectionism. In this episode, we're going to talk about avoiding and distracting. If you're just tuning in to this series, I highly recommend you go back and make sure to listen to ending self-sabotage for real parts one and two. Often, when we find ourselves playing the game of procrastination, we identify ourselves as weak or something is wrong with us. However, that's not the case. Self-sabotage is just behavioral patterns that are playing out. Remember, they don't serve us anymore. When we can think of them in that way, they become less emotionally charged and easier to transform.

So, let's dive into avoiding. An avoider is a person who actively keeps away from not doing something. The keyword in this definition that I want to highlight is “actively.” An avoider is usually consciously aware that they're in avoidance. Now, that's important because there is a significant distinguishing difference between avoidance and procrastination. Procrastinators often aren't aware that they're procrastinating because they're stuck in a behavioral pattern. They're doing behaviors that will keep them away from something, whereas avoiders come from an emotional charge - it's more of a reaction. Tune as I reveal what you need to do to stop this self-sabotaging behavior and how you can embrace the pain and release the stress.

In this Episode:

• [ 2:45 ] Why should you sit in the corner every time you get cold?
• [ 3:55 ] The reason we find ourselves avoiding + procrastinating. 
• [ 4:55 ] The difference between avoiding + procrastinating  
• [ 8:10 ] It’s time to become aware of how you are avoiding 
• [ 13:40 ] Why you need to embrace the pain
• [ 20:35 ] How to release the anxiety + stress 

 

Joy Filling Quotes: 

• “Avoiders want to escape their thoughts and feelings.”
• “Ultimately, avoiders are trying to avoid feeling like a failure.”
• “When we avoid pain, we will get sucked into suffering.”
• “Your fear can no longer be the motive for why you are doing what you're doing.”
• “It is time to just give to yourself the same joy you wish upon your children.”

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Ending Self- Sabotage (for real): https://rebelsforjoy.com/sabotage/

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