In this episode of The Shit That Matters, Anamaria Velasquez breaks down the real meaning of boundaries — not the Pinterest-quote kind, but the soul-level kind that call you back to your power.

She dives into why “protecting your peace” isn’t about shutting people out — it’s about finally choosing yourself.
From her own healing journey to lessons inside her Discovering You program, Ana unpacks what happens when you stop people-pleasing, start communicating clearly, and trust that the version of you who sets boundaries is the version meant to lead.

If you’ve ever confused silence with peace or guilt with love, this episode will help you remember: your boundaries aren’t walls — they’re invitations to deeper connection and self-respect.

Grab Discovering You here! - https://www.lightoasis.co/discovering-you

The Rooted Boundaries Guide is included in there! 

Takeaways

• Boundaries aren’t about being mean — they’re about being real.
• Avoidance is not peace; it’s self-abandonment in disguise.
• Saying “no” doesn’t make you difficult; it makes you devoted to your well-being.
• Clear communication is love in action.
• Choosing yourself might disappoint others, but it liberates you.
• Your boundaries teach others how to love you.
• Healing sometimes means saying less and standing taller.
• It’s selfless to be “selfish” when your intention is to protect your energy.

00:00 – Welcome & the story behind this episode
02:00 – What boundaries really mean
06:15 – The loneliness that comes with choosing yourself
11:00 – Boundaries vs. avoidance
16:30 – Lessons from Discovering You & client breakthroughs
22:00 – The healing that happens when you stop over-explaining
27:00 – Closing reflections + call to action

Connect with me!
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/growwithana
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@growwithana_
Subscribe to my Newsletter: https://www.lightoasis.co/newsletter
Work With Me: https://www.lightoasis.co/