If you’re dating after 40 and you finally meet someone you genuinely like… and instead of feeling calm and excited, your body goes into panic mode, this episode is for you.

Anxiety means something matters.

When you’ve spent years loving emotionally unavailable men, your nervous system learns that connection equals risk. So when a kind, emotionally present man shows up, your body can interpret that as danger.

Nothing is wrong with you.
Your body is protecting you.

In this episode, I share what happened before my first date with my husband (shaking hands, spiralling thoughts, every instinct telling me to cancel) and the quiet inner voice that said, “Go.”

We’re unpacking how to stay grounded when old patterns activate… even when your body feels anything but calm.

• Why your anxiety might actually be a sign you’re stepping into something healthy
• The subtle difference between fear and intuition (and how to spot it in the moment)
• What your spiralling thoughts are really trying to protect you from
• Why the body is always the last to feel safe even after years of healing
• How to make steady, self-led decisions when you really like him
  

You can feel anxious… and still choose calmly.

And that changes everything.

🎧 Listen now to learn how to calm your nervous system, trust your intuition, and stay grounded when you finally meet someone who matters.

Links in the episode: Meditations + Courses https://stopchasingunavailableguys.com

If you’re dating after 40 and keep finding yourself trying to secure your place in someone’s life, by explaining yourself, being endlessly understanding and waiting for him to be ready, this episode is for you.

In Episode 51 of the Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys Podcast, we’re talking about one of the most subtle but powerful patterns in dating: the auditioning identity.

This is the pattern where you don’t think you’re chasing…
but you’re constantly positioning yourself to be chosen.
Where patience replaces discernment…
where emotional labour replaces partnership…
and where almost-relationships feel normal because proving has felt normal for a very long time.

What’s Inside This Episode:

• The quiet ways auditioning shows up in early dating (even for strong, self-aware women)
• Why over-explaining, over-texting, and over-accommodating drain your power
• The difference between waiting for him to decide and evaluating how you actually feel
• The identity shift from “Do you like me?” to “Do I like how this feels?”
• How discernment becomes natural when you stop trying to earn your place

This episode is part of Season 5: Embodiment, Identity & Lasting Love, where we stop trying to perform better in dating and start living from the identity of a woman who chooses.

✨ Integration prompt from the episode:
“Am I trying to be chosen… or am I choosing?”

🎧 Listen now and begin stepping out of auditioning and into calm, grounded self-leadership in love.

Links from the episode: https://stopchasingunavailableguys.com

Remember: You can’t make Mr. Unavailable love you, but you can choose someone who does. And love is closer than you think.

If you’re dating after 40 and keep finding yourself in the role of emotional caretaker, always understanding, always giving the benefit of the doubt, always staying longer than feels good, this episode is for you.

In Episode 50 of the Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys Podcast, we’re talking about one of the biggest hidden blocks to healthy love: the emotional caretaker identity.

This is the pattern where love gets confused with effort…
where overgiving feels like chemistry…
and where emotionally unavailable men keep showing up because you’ve been trained to manage, fix, and emotionally hold everyone but yourself.

What’s Inside This Episode:

• The real reason overgiving feels so automatic (and why it has nothing to do with being “needy”)
  
• What quietly happens to attraction when you become the emotional manager in dating
  
• The surprising truth about why calm, available men can trigger disinterest at first
  
• The identity shift that changes everything—from trying to make it work to simply choosing
  
• What “receiving love” actually looks and feels like when you’ve spent a lifetime earning it

This episode is part of Season 5: Embodiment, Identity & Lasting Love, where we stop trying to date differently and start being someone who dates differently.

✨ Integration prompt from the episode:
“Am I relating to him… or managing him?”

🎧 Listen now and begin releasing the belief that love requires effort, fixing, or emotional labour.

Magnetic Love Bundle: https://learn.trulyeleanor.com/magneticlove

Remember:You can’t make Mr. Unavailable love you, but you can choose someone who does. And love is closer than you think.

If you’re dating after 40 and keep feeling drawn to emotionally unavailable guys even though what you want is calm, secure love, this episode will help you understand why.

In the first episode of Season 5, we’re talking about something many women experience but rarely question: why healthy love can feel flat or even uncomfortable when your nervous system has been shaped by intensity, uncertainty, or chasing.

For a lot of women, what’s been labeled “chemistry” is actually adrenaline. And when connection feels calm, steady, or emotionally safe, it can be dismissed too quickly as boredom or a lack of attraction. In this episode, I break down how those patterns form, why they repeat, and what begins to shift when you stop chasing love and start choosing it.

We also explore the quieter identity shift that happens when you stop dating from hope, fear, or longing and begin trusting yourself. This isn’t about forcing yourself to like someone you don’t like. It’s about understanding why your body responds the way it does, and how that response can change over time.

• Why that intense pull toward someone can feel so convincing and what it’s actually signaling
  
• What’s really happening when calm connection feels unfamiliar
  
• The subtle difference between chasing someone and choosing a relationship
  
• How adrenaline gets mistaken for chemistry
  
• The identity shift that quietly changes who you’re drawn to

If your heart knows what it wants but your body hasn’t caught up yet, the Magnetic Love Bundle can help bridge that gap. Grab it here: https://learn.trulyeleanor.com/magneticlove

🎧 Listen to the full episode of Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys and begin the shift from chasing to choosing.

Remember love is closer than you think.

If you’re a single woman over 40 who’s tired of choosing emotionally unavailable guys, doubting yourself, or wondering why dating feels so exhausting, this episode gives you the roadmap you’ve been missing. In this season finale, you’ll learn the 3-step method designed to help you emotionally reset, trust yourself again, and finally attract the kind of healthy, deeply connected love you’ve been longing for.

Season 4 has been all about emotional healing, because healing is what creates clarity, confidence, and the ability to choose men who can actually show up for you. In today’s wrap-up, you’ll see how each part of this season fits together and how these pieces form a proven dating method that helps women over 40 break old patterns and step into the love they truly deserve.

Whether you're feeling stuck, burnt out, or secretly afraid it might be “too late,” this episode shows you why it isn’t and gives you the steps to move forward with intention, self-trust, and hope.

• The #1 reason emotional healing is non-negotiable for finding real love after 40
• The 3-step Method that helps you stop choosing unavailable guys
• Why “perfect on paper” relationships fall apart and how to avoid repeating that pattern
• The mindset shift that instantly saves you time, energy, and heartbreak in dating after 40
  

If you’re ready to understand why your dating patterns have repeated and how to finally break free, this finale episode will give you clarity, direction, and hope.

👉 Click now and listen to the Season 4 finale your path to lasting love begins right here.

If you’re dating after 40 and you feel like you are the thing getting in your own way, this episode is going to help you finally move forward. Today we’re unpacking the one pattern that kept me single for years and delayed meeting my husband until I was 44: self-doubt.

In this episode, I’ll walk you through:

• Why self-doubt is not a personality flaw, it’s a learned pattern
• The surprising connection between childhood conditioning and dating chaos
• The exact framework I used to break free
• A simple daily heart-expansion exercise that melts self-doubt and builds confidence
• The moment I finally stopped believing I was broken—and how everything changed
  

If you’ve ever gone back and forth on a decision… argued with yourself before a date… doubted every intuitive nudge… or felt like it’s too hard to start trusting yourself, this episode gives you a grounded path out of the mental maze.

You’ll learn how to reconnect with the most powerful guidance system you have: your heart + intuition.

👉 Click play now to learn how to silence self-doubt and step into confident, intuitive dating after 40. Don't forget to grab my free dating guide here: https://trulyeleanor.com/datingapps

If you’ve been dating after 40 and you’re starting to lose hope, this episode will feel like a deep exhale. Today, I’m pulling back the curtain and sharing the truth: feeling stuck isn’t a sign that love is passing you by, it’s actually the doorway to reconnecting to yourself, rebuilding confidence, and finding the kind of healthy love you truly want.

I’m sharing a personal story from one of the lowest points in my own dating journey when I was living on my mom’s couch, going through perimenopause, heartbroken, anxious, and convinced I had run out of time. That moment became the turning point that changed everything. And it can change everything for you, too.

Inside this episode, you’ll learn what to do when you're spiraling into doubt, how to reconnect with your heart instead of your fear, and how to shift from feeling hopeless to grounded, intuitive, and ready for the healthy love you’re meant for. These are the exact steps I used to rebuild my confidence and meet my husband in my 40s and they’re the same steps I now teach women all over the world.

What’s Inside This Episode: 

• The surprising reason losing hope can be a powerful turning point.
• The story of my rock-bottom moment and how it became the catalyst for love.
• How to reconnect to your intuition when your brain won’t stop spinning worst-case scenarios.
• The morning heart-expansion practice that instantly shifts your energy (and makes you more magnetic).

I hope you enjoyed the show! Please hit subscribe and leave a review and if you’re ready to take the fastest path to Mr. Right, be sure to download my free dating guide at https://trulyeleanor.com/datingapps

How to Stop Believing It’s Too Late for Love: A Guide for Women Over 40

If you’ve ever had that sinking fear that love has passed you by… you’re not alone. Dating after 40 can feel like a dizzying merri-go-round, with no way to jump off! One minute you’re hopeful, and the next you’re convincing yourself you should just buy the tiny house, adopt five cats, and call it a day. But here’s the real truth: it is not too late for you. And believing that it is? That’s the biggest lie single women over 40 are told.

In this episode, I’m breaking down where that fear really comes from and how it secretly shapes your dating choices (even when you think you’re still “open” to love). You’ll learn how to recognize subtle self-sabotage, rewire those hidden beliefs, and get back into the kind of aligned action that leads to the healthy, devoted relationship you actually want. Because love doesn’t expire… especially when you’re finally ready for the right guy.

If you’re craving hope, clarity, and a path forward that feels empowering instead of exhausting, this is your episode. 

• The sneaky ways fear shapes who you date

• The surprising secondary fear hiding under the surface of “what if it never happens?”

• Why feeling fear doesn’t mean you’re blocked and the mantra that moves you forward

• A reframe that instantly gives your confidence a power-up

• The moment I realized I was dating like love was already over and how everything changed

• The 3-part awareness framework that keeps you connected to real possibilities

If you’re tired of letting fear decide who you swipe on, who you chase, and what you believe is possible… hit play now. This episode will help you take the next step toward the love story you still get to have.

Dating in your 40s can feel like a cosmic rollercoaster. One minute you’re certain today’s the day you meet Mr. Right. The next, you’re on the couch, wine in hand, convinced love ghosted you for good. 

In this episode, we’re talking about:

💔 The “I’m so close!” optimism high followed by the crash into hopelessness

🛟 How to emotionally support yourself while dating

🌊 The “cosmic surfboard” strategy for riding the waves

💌 10 ways to stay open to love even when it feels hard

Because when you’re dating after 40, the stakes feel higher, but the love you’re calling in is so worth it. And yes… it is closer than you think.

🔑 Key Takeaways

• You don’t have to “stay positive” You just need to stay authentic

• Your emotions aren’t a problem, repressing them is

• Your journey is preparing you for the love you asked for

• You can have bad days and still be moving closer to love

• Every action counts even couch-days with your cat 🐈‍⬛

🧰 Tools Mentioned

✔ 10 powerful strategies to manage emotional ups + downs

✔ Tapping through fear with the “Then What?” exercise

✔ Heart-connection practices

✔ Emotional support + expansion rituals

✔ The top resource to use when you feel discouraged

🔥 Don’t Miss This Part

The one belief to delete immediately if you want to find real love after 40. “I have to be positive or I’ll never meet someone.”

Authenticity is more magnetic than perfection ever will be.

Ready for love to feel exciting again, not exhausting?

Hit play now to learn how to ride the emotional waves of dating in your 40s (without spiraling every time someone ghosts). 🎧👇

I hope you enjoyed the show! Please hit subscribe and leave a review and if you’re ready to take the fastest path to Mr. Right, be sure to download my free dating guide at https://trulyeleanor.com/datingapps

If you’ve ever looked at your dating life and wondered, “Is it even possible for me to find real love at my age?,” this episode will remind you that it absolutely is.

In this heartfelt conversation, Truly Eleanor, Intuitive Dating Coach, opens up about the moment she turned 40 and thought her chance at love was over. She shares how deep-rooted beliefs around age, worthiness, and scarcity nearly convinced her to settle and how confronting those fears became the turning point that led her to meet her husband in her 40s.

You’ll learn how to recognize and release the subtle doubts that keep you stuck, reframe limiting stories about age and dating, and start believing that love isn’t behind you, it’s ahead of you.

Love after 40 isn’t just possible; it’s easier than you think when you lead with self-trust, awareness, and connection.

• The hidden fears that quietly convince you love has passed you by
• How Truly Eleanor rewired her mindset at 40 and found her husband soon after
• The truth about why dating actually gets easier as you get older
• Simple reframes to dissolve doubt and spark renewed hope in love
• Why your self-acceptance is the secret ingredient to finding Mr. Right
  

Ready to flip the script on doubt and rediscover what’s truly possible in love after 40?

🎧 Tune in now to hear Truly Eleanor’s personal story of transformation  and find out why your best love story might still be ahead of you. Click to listen!

I hope you enjoyed the show! Please hit subscribe and leave a review and if you’re ready to take the fastest path to Mr. Right, be sure to download my free dating guide at https://trulyeleanor.com/datingapps