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Stop Fighting to Win and Start Fighting for the Marriage
Is your marriage stuck on pause — or is it actually over?
In this episode, Ana sits down with Dr. Lee Baucom — marriage coach, author of Save the Marriage, creator of the Unpause Your Marriage app, and a man who has been married for 39 years and counting.
Dr. Lee spent years as a marriage therapist before a startling truth stopped him cold: 50% of couples who go to therapy still end up divorced. That discovery sent him down a different path, one built on systems, coaching, and real transformation.
Together, Ana and Dr. Lee pull back the curtain on why good marriages quietly fall apart, what it actually takes to rebuild one, and when staying is no longer love but rather self‑abandonment.
In this episode, you’ll discover:
The "Pause Button Marriage" — the silent killer most couples never see coming
Why one person can start changing a marriage (and exactly how far that goes)
The 3 levels of deep connection every couple needs: Physical, Emotional & Spiritual
Why conflict isn’t the problem — disconnection is
The difference between reactivity and responsibility (and how a 3‑second pause can change everything)
How to know when working on your marriage has crossed into self‑abandonment
The 4 clear signs you may be in a toxic relationship
Why your relationship is a system — and your system is perfectly designed to give you exactly the results you’re getting right now
The 3 C’s Framework: Change, Connect, Create
Why changing for someone else never sticks — and what to do instead
🔥 Raw & real moments: Ana shares her own journey through a 13‑year marriage to a dismissive avoidant, her path through Al‑Anon and Celebrate Recovery, the moment she finally let go — and how she found herself again on the other side.
Connect with Dr. Lee Baucom: 🔗 Struggling in your marriage? → www.unpauseyourmarriage.com 🆘 In crisis and need a roadmap? → www.savethemarriage.com
Connect with Ana: 💻 analeacoaching.com📸 instagram.com/ana__lea__🎵 tiktok.com/@ana__lea__📧 [email protected]
Book a session: https://calendly.com/analeacoaching/the-clarity-call
Support the podcast: ☕ buymeacoffee.com/ana_lea
Listen + Watch: 🎧 https://open.spotify.com/show/7Cy5gftTHPYqD7wdR5ctVs 🍎 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wind-in-her-hair/id1832581085 ▶️ https://www.youtube.com/@analeacoaching
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By AnaIs your marriage stuck on pause — or is it actually over?
In this episode, Ana sits down with Dr. Lee Baucom — marriage coach, author of Save the Marriage, creator of the Unpause Your Marriage app, and a man who has been married for 39 years and counting.
Dr. Lee spent years as a marriage therapist before a startling truth stopped him cold: 50% of couples who go to therapy still end up divorced. That discovery sent him down a different path, one built on systems, coaching, and real transformation.
Together, Ana and Dr. Lee pull back the curtain on why good marriages quietly fall apart, what it actually takes to rebuild one, and when staying is no longer love but rather self‑abandonment.
In this episode, you’ll discover:
The "Pause Button Marriage" — the silent killer most couples never see coming
Why one person can start changing a marriage (and exactly how far that goes)
The 3 levels of deep connection every couple needs: Physical, Emotional & Spiritual
Why conflict isn’t the problem — disconnection is
The difference between reactivity and responsibility (and how a 3‑second pause can change everything)
How to know when working on your marriage has crossed into self‑abandonment
The 4 clear signs you may be in a toxic relationship
Why your relationship is a system — and your system is perfectly designed to give you exactly the results you’re getting right now
The 3 C’s Framework: Change, Connect, Create
Why changing for someone else never sticks — and what to do instead
🔥 Raw & real moments: Ana shares her own journey through a 13‑year marriage to a dismissive avoidant, her path through Al‑Anon and Celebrate Recovery, the moment she finally let go — and how she found herself again on the other side.
Connect with Dr. Lee Baucom: 🔗 Struggling in your marriage? → www.unpauseyourmarriage.com 🆘 In crisis and need a roadmap? → www.savethemarriage.com
Connect with Ana: 💻 analeacoaching.com📸 instagram.com/ana__lea__🎵 tiktok.com/@ana__lea__📧 [email protected]
Book a session: https://calendly.com/analeacoaching/the-clarity-call
Support the podcast: ☕ buymeacoffee.com/ana_lea
Listen + Watch: 🎧 https://open.spotify.com/show/7Cy5gftTHPYqD7wdR5ctVs 🍎 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wind-in-her-hair/id1832581085 ▶️ https://www.youtube.com/@analeacoaching