You explain yourself too much.

You justify your choices—why you changed jobs, ended a relationship, moved cities. You over-explain when you don’t have to.

I know because I did it too.

I’ve justified why I transferred colleges. Why I quit my MBA. Why I let my hair go silver. Why I sold my yoga studio, left Philly, and lived on the road for three years.

At 60, I finally see it.

I don’t owe anyone an explanation. And neither do you.

There’s a great episode of the television series The Bear. In it, sloppy, gruff Cousin Richie lands in a Michelin-starred restaurant. Something clicks. He sharpens up, shifts his attitude, and starts wearing suits.

People notice. “Richie, you look great.”

His response? Every time, with confidence: “I wear suits now.”

No explanation. No backstory. Just a declaration.

That stayed with me for days. Then I decided:

I’m done justifying. No more oversharing.

So here’s where I stand:

* I’m a performance coach. I cut through excuses and get people into action.

* I’m a writer and the creator of Sparked—a daily freaking newsletter!

* I teach what works—hard work, disrupting patterns, pushing limits, and getting unstuck.

* I’m building a community that refuses to settle for good enough. (Join us!)

This is who I am.

Period. End of story.

Like Richie, I’ve found a new level of confidence. And it’s working.

Now it’s your turn.

Who are you, right now? What are you doing? Can you state it simply, without over-explaining?

Decide who you are. Own it. No backstory. No justification.

I wear suits now. Thank you, Cousin Richie.

✨ Don’t settle for good enough.

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