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Welcome Parental Units to Episode 73 of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast! We appreciate you for taking the time to level up! Today we tackle the nasty, awful thief that is stealing joy and happiness the world over! That's right, we are going to unveil the antidote to the venom found in Comparison and her ridiculously joke of a cousin, Envy. You are familiar with these two poisons and know their modus operandi. They are out to destroy you and create misery in your life!

But, we can all tool up and send these destroyers to the scrap heap if you consistently administer the antidote of...GRATITUDE! You can win the comparison/envy game AND up your parenting skills along the way! Let's goooooooo moms and dads, you can do this !

Here is some gold you can mine in this episode:

--"Obsessive Comparison Disorder" (OCD) affects mental and emotional health.

--Envy fuels unhealthy comparison and jealousy.

--Gratitude is THE powerful antidote to envy and comparison.

--Practicing gratitude can lead to optimism and positive thinking.

--Writing down things to be grateful for enhances emotional well-being.

--Family gratitude practices can strengthen bonds and promote positivity.

--Limiting social media can reduce feelings of envy and comparison.

--Focusing on effort rather than results fosters a healthier mindset.

--Modeling gratitude as parents equips children with essential life skills.

Hey there Very Important Parents! We are upping our game in 2024 as we strive to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers! Please hit the follow button where ever you find us (Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or elsewhere). And, you can now watch the show on YouTube). New episodes drop every Monday.

We would love it and be so grateful if you posted a glowing 5 star review along with a helpful comment for other listeners on what you are learning (and hopefully incorporating) from the show. After all, we created it just for you and as always, moms and dads, we're cheering you on as you Stop Parenting & Start Coaching! -Nate & Steve

Hi Parental Units! Welcome to a Turkey Week edition of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast!!

We are THANKFUL to those of you who have been with us since the start of this over a year ago AND to those who have just found us. This podcast is for parents of teen athletes and performers who are engaged in the hardest job on planet earth: parenting!

In EP 72 we explore the concept of gratitude, particularly in the context of parenting and personal relationships with your teens. We hit on the importance of genuine gratitude, by discussing what a developmental psychologist (Dr. Janae Nelson) labels as "shallow gratitude."

What does shallow gratitude mean to you? And, how could it be sending the wrong message to your teens if it is how you are modeling and practicing gratitude (we know you're not!!)?

Some helpful insights from EP 72 to grab onto:

-Gratitude can be practiced at different levels.

-Shallow gratitude lacks a connection to the giver.

-Expressing gratitude to children reinforces positive behavior.

-Handwritten notes create deeper connections.

-Gratitude helps combat stress .

-Face-to-face gratitude can lead to stronger relationships.

Moms & Dads: Let's. Get. Grateful. And, let's get grateful at a very high level!!

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Hey there Very Important Parents! We are upping our game in 2024 as we strive to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers! Please hit the follow button where ever you find us (Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or elsewhere). And, you can now watch the show on YouTube).

New episodes drop every Monday.

We would love it and be so grateful if you posted a glowing 5 star review along with a helpful comment for other listeners on what you are learning (and hopefully incorporating) from the show. After all, we created it just for you and as always, moms and dads, we're cheering you on as you Stop Parenting & Start Coaching! -Nate & Steve

Oh, moms and dads, you already know how difficult your job is as a parent. We like to say here on The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast that "it is the hardest job and there's not a close second." Yep, it's tough.

So...do we actually make it EVEN harder (why would we ever do that?!!!!!) by using ________? Fill in the blank with the nasty word we wrestled with in Episode 70. Yep, the "S" word. No, not that "S" word but this "S word": sarcasm. Hello, darkness my old friend! If you just discovered us and haven't listened to Episode 70, now would be a good time to do that!

Speed us up to 1.5 or 1.75 and get your fill of The Ten Reasons Why You Should Never Use Sarcasm. We've made this horrific mistake as coaches and parents and we want to to treasure your connections and communication with your teen athlete or performer.

Some gems from EP 71 to consider:

--Sarcasm is a very risky form of communication

--The more important the person, the connection, and the situation, the more it is critical that you do NOT use sarcasm.

--Parents often make their jobs harder through ineffective communication.

--Sarcasm can undermine trust and create confusion in relationships.

--Using sarcasm can damage a your teen's self-esteem.

--Sarcasm can lead to increased stress and anxiety for both parents and children.

--A "negativity culture" can develop from habitual sarcasm.

--Motivation in teens can decrease due to sarcastic remarks.

--Sarcasm can stifle creativity and risk-taking in children.

--Power imbalances in relationships can be reinforced by sarcasm.

--Increasing awareness of sarcasm's impact is crucial for improvement.

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Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are upping our game in 2024 as we strive to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers! Please hit the follow button where ever you find us (Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or elsewhere). And, you can now watch the show on YouTube).

New episodes drop every Monday.

We would love it and be so grateful if you posted a glowing 5 star review along with a helpful comment for other listeners on what you are learning (and hopefully incorporating) from the show. After all, we created it just for you and as always, moms and dads, we're cheering you on as you Stop Parenting & Start Coaching! -Nate & Steve

Hello Super Moms & Dads! Welcome to a MISSION CRITICAL edition of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast!! And if you're wondering if it has to do with the dynamic and often delicate dance of communication, you are right...AGAIN! (Parents are always right, right?!)

In EP 70 we specifically dive into a crucial communication subject that can get a little blurred, messy, and unfortunately hurtful. We're going to focus on the differences between sarcasm and clever wit. It's a bit tricky! In fact, it's more than that when it comes to sarcasm. We believe it is quite "risky" especially in high-stakes situations. While clever wit can be funny and uplifting, sarcasm is a big, fat, dud. It always fizzles and we want the good kind of fireworks to erupt in your parent/teen convos!

Some helpful insights from EP 70 to grab onto:

-Communication is a dynamic dance involving both speaker and listener.

-Sarcasm can often be misinterpreted and is risky in communication.

-Clever wit is more about uplifting and connecting than mocking.

-Tone and delivery significantly affect how messages are perceived.

-Building strong relationships allows for more playful communication.

-Understanding the mood of the audience is crucial for effective humor.

-Intent behind words is key to positive communication.

-Clever wit can lighten the mood and foster connection.

-Engaging the brain before engaging the mouth can prevent misunderstandings!

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Hey there Very Important Parents! We are upping our game in 2024 as we strive to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers! Please hit the follow button where ever you find us (Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or elsewhere). And, you can now watch the show on YouTube).

New episodes drop every Monday.

We would love it and be so grateful if you posted a glowing 5 star review along with a helpful comment for other listeners on what you are learning (and hopefully incorporating) from the show. After all, we created it just for you and as always, moms and dads, we're cheering you on as you Stop Parenting & Start Coaching! -Nate & Steven

Parents--Halloween is over but you are in for a real treat today!!

In this edition of The Stop Parenting & Stop Coaching Podcast, we are overjoyed to have the mighty Chad Sims, head boys basketball coach at Davis High School (UT) as our guest today!

Chad does a lot of things in his communication system that many coaches do, but he does ONE THING that NOT very many HS coaches do. Chad shares his innovative approach to engaging parents that incorporates a very personal, transparent, in-person conversation. His approach helps everyone involved and has contributed to him creating a team culture that embodies trust and respect that extends beyond the court, the season, and a player's short career. Chad's strategy also helps build teams that win (A LOT) on and off the court!

Listen in as Chad discusses the challenges and successes of navigating coach-parent-player dynamics, the role of honesty in coaching, and the impact of effective communication on young athletes' development and team success!

Terrific Takeaways

-Why you don't want a "Davis vs. Davis" scenario & how you can stop this!

-Building trust with parents can lead to a more cohesive team environment.

-Honesty is crucial in discussions about player roles and expectations.

-Creating a culture of respect helps in managing parent-player dynamics.

-Coaches should be transparent about their philosophies to avoid misunderstandings.

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Hey there Very Important Parents! We resolve to up our game in 2024 as we strive to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers! Please hit the follow button where ever you find us (Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and those other places).

We also have a new YouTube channel where you can find our early audio only episodes and all of our most recent video versions!

New episodes drop every Monday.

We would love it and be so grateful if you posted a glowing 5 star review along with a helpful comment for other listeners on what you are learning (and hopefully incorporating) from the show. After all, we created it just for you and as always, moms and dads, we're cheering you on as you Stop Parenting & Start Coaching! -Nate & Steve

Welcome Parental Units to Episode 68 of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast! We appreciate you for taking the time to up your parenting game! Today we wrestle with the 2 words that describe GREAT parenting. You already know them AND (hint, hint) they are not mutually exclusive--they are a mix of seeming contraries. You can be BOTH and if you are, your parenting skills are next level! Congrats!

Back to The TWO WORDS. We reference from the work of the great brain himself, Dr. Daniel Amen. What do you think they are? Fill in the letter blanks:

F_ _ _ AND K _ _ _. Got 'em?

Here are some teasers and gems you'll encounter in this episode:

--Being a great parent can be easier than we think.

--The key to GREAT parenting is being both firm and kind.

--Expectations should be communicated clearly to children.

--Discipline is essential for teaching responsibility.

--Recognizing children's achievements builds trust and respect.

--Consistency in parenting creates a safe environment.

--Adapting to each child's needs is crucial for effective parenting.

--Parents should manage their stress to be more kind.

--Firmness without kindness can lead to resentment.

--Firm and kind parenting will elevate your performer's or teen athlete's performance.

Hey there Very Important Parents! We are upping our game in 2024 as we strive to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers! Please hit the follow button where ever you find us (Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or elsewhere). And, you can now watch the show on YouTube). New episodes drop every Monday.

We would love it and be so grateful if you posted a glowing 5 star review along with a helpful comment for other listeners on what you are learning (and hopefully incorporating) from the show. After all, we created it just for you and as always, moms and dads, we're cheering you on as you Stop Parenting & Start Coaching! -Nate & Steve

Hey Parents--here's hoping your racking up some W's with your teen athlete and performer! But what if it feels like you're not needed anymore? How can we continue or start a new winning streak?

In this episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast, we will dial in on exactly why we hurt as parents when "we're not needed anymore" and even better, we'll zero in on the thinking shift that can get you back in the "NEEDED" game!

Here are a few juicy ideas we'll bat around in today's show:

--The feeling of being needed is addictive for parents.

--As young children grow into teens, their need for parents changes.

--It's crucial for parents to understand that their children will always need them, just in different ways.

--Letting go of the need to be directly involved can be challenging for parents.

--Asking the right questions can foster better communication with teens.

--Encouraging leadership and problem-solving skills in your teen is essential.

Let's gooooooooo moms and dads!

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Hey there Very Important Parents! We are upping our game in 2024 as we strive to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers! Please hit the follow button where ever you find us (Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or elsewhere). And, you can now watch the show on YouTube).

New episodes drop every Monday.

We would love it and be so grateful if you posted a glowing 5 star review along with a helpful comment for other listeners on what you are learning (and hopefully incorporating) from the show. After all, we created it just for you and as always, moms and dads, we're cheering you on as you Stop Parenting & Start Coaching! -Nate & Steve

In today's edition of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast, we will explore the concept of challenge avoidance, particularly how subconscious beliefs can lead us to shy away from challenges. Yikes! Let's don't shrink!! We want to face and embrace challenge, don't we?!

Absolutely (I mean, you did choose parenthood!!), so let's discuss the "the challenge continuum" from childhood to adulthood, and how reframing challenges as opportunities can foster confidence and growth in our teen athletes and performers.

Let's embrace challenges as parents and model this behavior for our kids, because hey, challenge is inevitable!

Some teasers and a few of bright the shining gems in this episode:

• We perceive 11 million pieces of information every second, but are only consciously aware of 40 to 120.
• Subconscious avoidance of challenges can lead to negative outcomes in relationships and personal growth.
• Children are naturally inclined to embrace challenges, but adults often shy away due to fear of judgment.
• Modeling behavior as parents is crucial in teaching children how to face challenges.
• Reframing challenges as opportunities can shift perspective and build confidence.
• Negative self-talk can indicate limiting beliefs that hinder challenge acceptance.
• Self-awareness is key to understanding one's avoidance of challenges.
• Asking questions can guide children to see challenges as opportunities for growth.
• The way we perceive challenges can significantly impact our self-esteem and willingness to engage.
• Parents should reflect on their own challenge avoidance to better support their children.

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Hey there Very Important Parents! We are striving to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers! Please hit the follow button where ever you find us (Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and on YouTube--click here if you want to watch the episode).

New episodes drop every Monday.

And...if you love the show, we would love it and be so grateful if you posted a glowing 5 star review along with sharing it with a few Parental Unit friends who would love it too. And as always, moms and dads, we're cheering you on as you Stop Parenting & Start Coaching! -Nate & Steve

Welcome

Have you or your teen athlete or performer ever been in a nasty, discouraging slump? We'll take your answer to be a YES even if we can't hear you. But trust us parents, we CAN hear you loud and clear. Slumps happen. It's no fun to watch your teen wallow in misery during a slump even when we know this is part of life, sports, and performing arts!

Today's episode is all about SLUMP BUSTING (and possibly launching some preemptive strikes to avoid those pesky slumps!). We hope you enjoy what we're serving up today and as always, we appreciate you and thank you for listening! Enjoy!

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Hey there Very Important Parents! We resolve to up our game in 2024 as we strive to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers! Please hit the follow button where ever you find us (Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and those other places).

New episodes drop every Monday.

We would love it and be so grateful if you posted a glowing 5 star review along with a helpful comment for other listeners on what you are learning (and hopefully incorporating) from the show. After all, we created it just for you and as always, moms and dads, we're cheering you on as you Stop Parenting & Start Coaching! -Nate & Steve

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Fun Banter

02:41 Understanding Slumps and Slump Busting

05:20 The Role of Non-Parental Adults in Slump Busting

08:23 Practical Tips for Overcoming Slumps

11:20 Preventing Slumps Through Daily Habits

13:50 Focus Management and Positive Reinforcement

18:05 Podcast Vid Outro (2).mp4

Hey Parents--here's hoping your lucky streak continues! If you didn't check out Episode 63: "Do Your Teens Feel Unlucky?", we suggest you give that a listen before you digest this one.

In that episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast, we tackled the concept of luck based on some ideas from a book titled: "Conscious Luck: 8 Secrets to Change Your Fortune."

Here are a few lucky horseshoes we'll toss around in today's show:

• Luck is the advantage gained by taking bold action and executing the correct course of action.
• "Luck-worthy" goals are those that inspire motivation and stretch your thinking.
• Mindset plays a crucial role in taking consistent bold action and creating luck--what would happen if you were able to "create your own luck" rather than standing around merely "hoping" to get "lucky?!"
• The coaching approach to parenting can help teens identify and take bold action towards their "luck-worthy" goals.

Let's get lucky!!!

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Hey there Very Important Parents! We are upping our game in 2024 as we strive to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers! Please hit the follow button where ever you find us (Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or elsewhere). And, you can now watch the show on YouTube). New episodes drop every Monday.

We would love it and be so grateful if you posted a glowing 5 star review along with a helpful comment for other listeners on what you are learning (and hopefully incorporating) from the show. After all, we created it just for you and as always, moms and dads, we're cheering you on as you Stop Parenting & Start Coaching! -Nate & Steve