Who doesn’t love strawberries in summertime? Carla and Sherry start off the show sharing their strong feelings over this fruit, and then encourage listeners to check out their new waitlist-only Love Fix Coaching Program.  Then they answer the Love Fix question- is there any way for an anxious-avoidant attachment style listener to become secure? Sherry shares an exercise anyone can do to focus deeply on their circle of love and practice receiving love.  Then, they welcome Amy Fiedler, Certified Trauma Support Specialist, Holistic Life Coach and Reiki Master Practitioner.  Amy shares insights into the trauma and childhood experiences that are often behind people pleasing, how to avoid getting into an unhealthy relationship with- or as- a people pleaser, and how to share all of yourself so that someone can fall in love with all of you. 

 

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

 

• Codependency starts in childhood, but that doesn’t mean it has to ruin your adult life and relationships. 
• People pleasing habits form when we try to overcome someone’s rejection by gaining their approval. 
• Knowing that you are enough is key to not worrying about pleasing others. 
• Do you know how to say no? That is the number one symptom of people pleasing. 
• Amy outlines the first step to un-doing the people pleasing- make your voice the loudest voice in your head.
• Stress and relationship wounds have to be healed before we can own our sense of self. 
• Inner child work can get difficult, but you don’t have to do the work alone. 
• Amy’s trauma certification helps her clients work through their fight or flight reactions during healing. 
• How to connect and work with Amy  either in a group or 1:1, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence.
• People pleasing in professional settings is real, and have to be overcome with clearly defined boundaries. 
• What is the biggest hurdle in a relationship with a people pleaser?
• You are allowed to have a difference of opinion from your partner. 
• Other people’s insecurities are their issue, not yours.  Own every part of your badass self!
• Playing small will only attract people who aren’t right for you. 
• Be yourself so that someone can fall in love with all of you. 

 

Tweetables:

• “In order to have an intimate relationship, you’ve got to be intimate with yourself.”- Sherry 
• “If you’re seeking someone’s approval, then you’ve felt their rejection on some level.” -Amy
• “If you don’t even know what your preferences are, how can you possibly know what’s important to you in a relationship?” -Sherry
• “Playing small will only attract people who aren’t right for you.” -Amy

 

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• The Love Fix Relationship Quiz

 

 

Sign up for a Connection call with Sherry https://sherrygaba.com/coaching/life-coaching/ 

 

Find Out More: 

 

Sherry

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents and Toxic Relationships  

 

Carla

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp 

 

Amy Fiedler

Website | Facebook | Instagram | Books 

Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good.  Thanks to Contagious Love for sponsoring this episode.