We love to call it chemistry.
Passion.
A “deep connection.”

But sometimes what we’re really feeling is familiar chaos.

In this episode, we unpack why emotionally intense, hot-and-cold dynamics can feel so magnetic — and why calm, steady connection can feel unfamiliar or even boring at first. We talk about how the nervous system gets conditioned to equate unpredictability with love, how culture romanticizes emotional rollercoasters, and what actually has to heal before healthy relationships become possible.

This isn’t about blaming yourself or pathologizing attraction. It’s about understanding the pattern underneath the pattern — and learning how to stop confusing dysregulation with intimacy.

If you’ve ever wondered why you keep choosing the same dynamic in a different body, this conversation will land.

And if this topic hits close to home and you’re interested in working with me to untangle old patterns, regulate your nervous system, and build safer, more grounded connections, send me a message.

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