In this episode, we talk about how to stay calm and grounded when the world feels loud, polarized, and emotionally charged — without numbing out or pretending nothing is happening. I explore why passion often turns into nervous system overload, how outrage is amplified and monetized, and what it actually means to care without burning yourself out. This isn’t about disengaging or staying neutral. It’s about learning how to regulate your body so you can stay present, discerning, and human while facing hard truths. If you’ve felt pulled between staying informed and protecting your peace, this conversation offers a steadier way to hold both.

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This episode reintroduces The Stories We Tell as a space for honest, awake conversation — about personal growth and the world we’re living in today. I explore how the narratives we carry aren’t just things we say out loud later, but quiet frameworks shaping our reactions, relationships, and sense of what’s possible. Feeling uncomfortable on purpose becomes an act of presence: choosing to notice hard truths with accountability, while still meeting yourself with self-love, grace, and acceptance. It’s not about hot takes or polished positivity — it’s about staying with what is, understanding how your nervous system influences the story, and learning to grow without punishment. If you’ve ever felt stuck between compassion and responsibility, this episode offers a way to hold both — and see how life begins to shift when you stop looking away.

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2 years ago I did this thing where after my initial podcast interview, I would go into something we called "The After Dark". This was a special interview for our Patreon Subscribers. I always knew we would eventually share them here as well, and now is the time!

In this episode, I talk with Zara Barrie, a published author, writer, and podcaster who has been pouring her heart out on the internet for over a decade. She is the former Senior Writer for Elite Daily and former Executive Editor of GO Magazine, the nation’s preeminent lesbian print, and digital publication. In 2020 she published her first book to much critical acclaim Girl, Stop Passing Out In Your Makeup: The Bad Girl’s Guide To Getting Your Sh*t Together.

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2 years ago I did this thing where after my initial podcast interview, I would go into something we called "The After Dark". This was a special interview for our Patreon Subscribers. I always knew we would eventually share them here as well, and now is the time!

In this episode, I speak with actress Ayesha Harris about her career, life, manifestation, energy, and all the good vibes!

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2 years ago I did this thing where after my initial podcast interview, I would go into something we called "The After Dark". This was a special interview for our Patreon Subscribers. I always knew we would eventually share them here as well, and now is the time!

In this episode, I speak with actress Olivia Stambnouliah about coming to terms with sexuality, her first experience in Paris, and growing up as a tomboy! 

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2 years ago I did this thing where after my initial podcast interview, I would go into something we called "The After Dark". This was a special interview for our Patreon Subscribers. I always knew we would eventually share them here as well, and now is the time.

In this episode, I speak with mental health coach, breast cancer survivor, and total bad ass, Sandy Strader about her story as a late in lifer in many aspects.

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2 years ago I did this thing where after my initial podcast interview, I would go into something we called "The After Dark". This was a special interview for our Patreon Subscribers. I always knew we would eventually share them here as well, and now is the time.

In this episode, I speak with Jillian Abby, author of Perfectly Queer, about all things late in life lesbian.

You can find more of her quirky storytelling at Reframe with Jillian Abby on Substack: https://jillianabby.substack.com/archive

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2 years ago I did this thing where after my initial podcast interview, I would go into something we called "The After Dark". This was a special interview for our Patreon Subscribers. I always knew we would eventually share them here as well, and now is the time.

In this episode, I speak with Kirby and Ember from Tiktok about all things late in life lesbian.

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