If you’re feeling lost in your career… Searching things like “what should I do with my life?” or “should I quit my job for my side hustle”? This episode is for you.In this deep‑dive conversation with career coach and founder Cristina Espinal, we unpack what to do when you feel stuck, burned out, or off‑track in your career, and you can’t tell if the answer is a new job, a bold pivot, or finally going all in on your side hustle. You will learn why fulfilment is not something you “find” in the perfect role, but something you cultivate from the inside out by taking back the pen and consciously designing your own career ecosystem.Check out Cristina’s work here:🤸 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cristinaespinal/💡 Play Big Careers: https://playbig.careers/✉️ Cristina’a bi-weekly newsletter: https://subscribepage.io/playbignewsletter⏰ Timestamps00:00 – Feeling stuck in your career and questioning your next move 02:00 – Cristina’s career journey: consulting, startups, and the pivot moment 05:00 – Why fulfilment doesn’t come from a job title (career ecosystem explained) 07:40 – Should you quit your job or start a side hustle instead? 11:40 – The 4 career alignment dimensions: needs, strengths, vision, values 17:15 – What people are really searching for when they say they want a new job 20:40 – Traits of people who feel fulfilled at work (and why most don’t) 26:00 – Nervous system regulation, rest, and burnout in modern careers 34:45 – Why purpose isn’t something you “find” (and what to focus on instead) We talk about:🍎 How to know if you are genuinely misaligned in your current job vs. just in a tough season🍎 The four dimensions of real career alignment: your needs, strengths, vision, and values🍎 How to decide between staying, quitting, or going full time on your side hustle without acting from fear or scarcity🍎 Why your nervous system, inner safety, and nervous system regulation matter more than another CV tweak or job search tactic🍎 How to stop “black‑and‑white” thinking (stay or go, 9–5 or entrepreneur) and start building an abundant career ecosystem that can include a day job, side projects, learning, community, and creativity🍎 The biggest myths about “finding your purpose” and how to actually cultivate a sense of purpose in everyday life and workIf you've ever thought:- “I'm feeling lost in my career,” - “I hate my job but I’m scared to quit,” - “should I go full time on my side hustle,” - “how to find my purpose,”- “how to feel fulfilled at work,”This conversation is for you ✨More from me:📖 my ebookGrab 'Stop Shrinking Start Living' here → https://christina-aaliyah.com/🌱 sign up to my newsletterhttps://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/newsletter💌 contact: [email protected]

⭐️ Download all the Shadow Work Prompts here https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/shadowIf you've ever felt like you've tried everything and nothing has worked, you're in the right place.Watch if you’re struggling with:• emotional avoidance• self-sabotage and repeating patterns• burnout from self-improvement• perfectionism or people-pleasing• feeling disconnected from who you really are0:00 - Intro1:32 - What is your shadow?2:35 - Write down all the parts of you that you reject about yourself5:03 - How the shadow controls your life5:45 - Meeting your shadow9:34 - Where most people get it wrong14:09 - Upper limit👯 discordjoin here → https://discord.gg/CuZrjBR4Dn⭐️ free 'Cringe to Confident' workbook grab yours here https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/ctc📖 my ebookGrab 'Stop Shrinking Start Living' here → https://christina-aaliyah.com/🌱 sign up to my newsletterhttps://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/newsletter💌 contact: [email protected]

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01:24 Gen Z has relationship PTSD

03:58 what do the numbers say

05:35 Gen z wants romance but not love

07:43 Compromise is a requirement not a choice

11:07 making the right decision

14:17 Singlehood isn’t a waiting room

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10:47 emotional numbness

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1:16 Your biggest dream

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01:47 You’re Not a Self Improvement Project

05:27 Learning to cook more

18:01 Avoiding problems makes the get bigger

10:47 A hobby is an investment in your happiness

12:30 you need to have audacity

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High school can shape the rest of your life, but most people don’t realise it until it’s too late. In this video, I’m breaking down the 5 biggest mistakes students make in high school that can hold them back for years to come.From chasing popularity instead of purpose, to ignoring mental health, and choosing comfort over growth, these lessons will change the way you approach school, friendships, and your future.Whether you’re a student or just someone starting over, this video will help you avoid regrets and build a life you’re proud of.

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2:06 - Your silence won’t protect you

5:31 - Don’t leave anything behind in high school

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12:15 - Tell the truth

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Let’s be honest, dating feels different now 😭

After Vogue’s published the infamous “Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing?” and it blew up online, I had to sit down and talk about it, so cue the very spontaneous and unscripted video... enjoy!

It’s not that having a boyfriend is embarrassing, it’s having a low-effort boyfriend that is.I'm sure we can all agree, right?

The kind who forgets your birthday, doesn’t plan dates, or treats emotional effort like a chore.

That’s what women are calling out, not love itself.In this video, I unpack why so many women are frustrated, why men feel attacked, and how social media turned relationships into a status game.

We talk about the expectation gap between men and women, how independence and emotional labor are reshaping dating, and why a healthy, reciprocal relationship has become the new flex.

If you’ve ever felt disillusioned by modern dating culture, this conversation is for you.

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- Do you think having a boyfriend is embarrassing in 2025?

- Or are we just tired of settling for less?

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02:49 It's not vain, it's survival

06:35 Validation is borrowed self-worth

10:19 Transforming your self-concept

13:27 You need an identity change

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I've always thought that male friendships look different, but when I looked into the research it really opened my eyes.

In this video, I unpack some of unspoken rules that shape how men connect: banter over vulnerability, competition over closeness, and why so many guys end up feeling lonely even with a big friend group. I share surprising sociological research on homosocial bonds (non-sexual male friendships) and what makes emotional intimacy so hard for men.

This isn’t about bashing men, genuinely I just found this all so interesting. Lmk your thoughts in the comments below, in this video we’ll explore the role of fathers and male role models, why vulnerability between men is still seen as weakness, and how online culture (from podcasts to toxic influencers) fills that void.

If you’ve ever felt like male friendships can be shallow, or wondered why men struggle to open up, this deep dive will give you language and perspective you might not have had before.

0:00 intro2:22 Men are Homosocial3:49 The importance of fathers6:12 Emotional Detachment12:34 Sexual objectification of women18:08 Male vulnerability is a strength

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