This should be common sense l, but I understand why it’s not because you have to go through things or be taught to know what isn’t right and what’s wrong so finger pointing. Just learn from the mistakes & move forth! What don’t kill you makes you stronger & what you learn is your history lesson. So just be more aware of your actions, and understand you don’t ever just tell one person something even if you involuntarily say it. It’s going to come out again, may not be soon, or with your loyal friend or lover, but upon that break down maybe someone you not directly speaking to.