When you have a child... and this starts when they are babies, there is something that happens to you when you see your child accomplish something.  As a baby, this might be rolling over or taking their first steps, then climbing up the jungle gym, riding their bike for the first time, etc. Then we get into school things like grades, maybe a music or dance performance, sports, graduation, college, you name it.  There are so many moments that affect us as parents. There could be a feeling of joy, a sense of accomplishment, and a feeling of being proud.   However, I’m asking you to stop telling your child you are proud of them.  You aren’t helping them.  In fact, it could be impacting them in a negative way and in this video, I’m going to tell you why it’s not a good idea and what you should be saying to them instead.