We spend so much time trying to be the best person for everyone else, except ourselves. Join me as I encourage you to live for yourself & do life based on what you want, not what someone else wants.

Show Notes:
Everyday we wake up & decide who we are going to be, kind of like waking up & picking out what we are going to wear that day. But how often are we deciding to be someone else because we know it will please someone else in our life?

It’s a choice every one of us gets to make on a daily basis because we are in charge of our own feelings, emotions & how we decide to act. But it’s important to note that we, us, are the ones in charge. Not anyone else.

And I know it can be so easy to believe someone else is in charge of what we do & how we’re supposed to act & what we should & shouldn’t say. It’s because we go through an experience where someone tells us what to do, we do it, that person is happy & it creates a habit. Another way it can develop is from having fear in making your own decisions (because of an experience of doing so & it not turning out positively) and leaning on someone else to choose for you or lead you in the direction they believe you should go.

There is true beauty in discovering who you are, what you like, what you don’t like, making mistakes to learn those things even more. Which is why we shouldn’t just thrust it into someone else’s hands or allow it to be taken away by someone else

I bring up this whole discussion because it can be the easy choice to just be what someone else wants you to be. Because you don’t really have to think about it or make any critical choices. But what happens if this person disappears from your life? You will immediately feel lost & confused as to what you should do or be. Because you allowed someone else to be the decision maker, to dictate who you are.

But I want you to make the hard choice. I want you to wake up every single day & be the person you are. And you might not know who that is in the beginning. It might take some time to figure out what your true likes & dislikes are, but it will come if you let it.

And this whole idea for this episode stems around the idea that we live each & every day to be someone that supports someone else & not ourselves. Which is such a waste for ourselves. Why are we taking the easy road in life? Yes, there may have been heavy & hard things that got you all turned around, but that doesn’t mean we need to hand our whole lives onto someone else to control. And yes, we might really appreciate the acceptance & acknowledgement from those around us because we are doing what they suggested to do, even though it’s not something we would do on our own, but it’s not really you. Not even the real you stepping outside of your comfort zone.

If this is something you struggle with, take baby steps each & every day to get from under someone else’s thinking, beliefs & dictation to fully realize your own. It will take time, whether it stems from fear, people pleasing or something else, but it will take time.

But I want you to know who you are is worth knowing, but others can’t get to know that person without you showing up as that true person.

Thank you again for listening & I hope this episode was helpful.

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