Dr Toni Reilly introduces intuitive counselling as an everyday relationship skill and explains the difference between advice and counselling: advice removes responsibility, while counselling helps people understand themselves, own their emotions, and make their own choices. She shares personal stories from seeking validation in her first counselling session, to misreading her child’s need for acknowledgement, to recognising her own self-control, to show how “fixing” and analysis can become projection. The episode focuses on listening as a conscious practice: noticing what’s said and what’s underneath it, while also tracking your own reactions, discomfort, and urge to rescue. Reilly outlines how accurate reflection expands awareness and shifts behaviour, and challenges listeners to tolerate emotion without neutralising it. 

00:00 Stop Fixing Start Listening

00:58 What Counseling Really Is

02:14 My First Counseling Lesson

03:17 The Skill of Presence

04:35 Projection at Home

05:49 Hear the Pattern Beneath

07:18 My Control Wake Up Call

09:32 Avoid Projecting Ask Instead

11:38 Hold Emotion Don't Neutralise

12:45 Weekly Takeaway and Closing

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