Apologies Abound. First for being MIA. Second for the shitty sound. Not really sure what went wrong here, but it is better after 3 and a half minutes. Some great nuggets here about how magic and weilding it has played a part in my growth and good fortune in finding a partner over the last couple years. I go into detail about my marriage ending, my moon ritual and how I manifested Zach. Results will absolutely vary, but I wanted to share what helped guide me to manifest my man.

Also, there's an announcement about Kinksplain not Kinkshame episodes starting this weekend. I'd better head down to the hovel and figure out wtf is wrong with my mic!

As usual, I'm open for questions. Submit a contact form or sign up for updates at www.theintimacyally.com or you can follow me @theintimacyally on IG for all the fun.

Soooo, why do dudes hate boundaries? Well, we're gonna talk a lil about that but we're also gonna discuss why we're not so great at upholding them. Then I'm gonna give ya a few tips on how to strengthen them. Sound good? Cool.

Until Next Time, My Lovelies, Remember:

Say Fuck No to the Status Quo!

As mentioned, here are some sites to look into if you're looking to get some more training in this area:

https://www.schoolofconsent.org/

https://www.meetmichellerenee.com/

In this episode, Jeni Simas discusses stress management for women. She shares her personal experience with stress and the challenges of balancing multiple responsibilities. Jeni explores common myths about stress and provides her own perspective on the topic. She also highlights the symptoms of stress in women and offers various stress management strategies. Jeni reveals her secret to not letting stress get the best of her and emphasizes the importance of orgasms for stress relief. She addresses the pleasure gap and the benefits of orgasms for women's health. Jeni challenges the guilt associated with stress and encourages women to prioritize self-care, particularly through masturbation.Takeaways

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Personal Stress

02:28 Myths About Stress

06:22 Women and Stress Symptoms

07:20 Stress Management Strategies

11:16 The Secret to Managing Stress

14:16 The Pleasure Gap and Orgasm Stress Relief

21:49 Guilt and Stress in Women

22:57Masturbation as Stress Relief

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Sign-up for Making Online Dating Magical Group starting 4-8-2024! Just click the link below!

https://subscribepage.io/aHVf1S

Links:

https://www.ebooks.com/en-us/book/2662141/becoming-cliterate/laurie-mintz/

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-myth-stress/201005/8-deadly-myths-about-stress

https://www.self.com/story/5-explosive-facts-about-the-female-orgasm

https://www.verywellmind.com/tips-to-reduce-stress-3145195

It's Episode 25 My Lovelies!!! So much happening in here.

Today we dive into this myth that somehow "ugly" girls deserve scraps and crumbs and should just take what they can get when it comes to romantic relationships. I used to buy in HARD on this line of patriarchal bullshit.

I start off the episode with news about me winning a Pitch-off with the Sexual Health Alliance (SHA) which included a panel of my Sexual Professionals World heroes, Dr. David Ley, Dr. Chris Donaghue, and Jetsetting Jasmine! Y'all I about died! And I won for my upcoming Group Coaching Program, "Making Online Dating Magical" so check that link out and secure your spot honey lambs! If you would like more info about any of these stars, please shoot me a message! Also the book I mentioned is "The Body is Not an Apology" by Sonya Renee Taylor. I highly recommend you check it out if you are suffering from feeling like your body makes you unworthy of love and attention. I round out the episode by revealing my tagline!!! Finally!!! Took some soul searching but I have found it.

Summary

In this episode, Jeni Simas discusses the topic of fixing others in relationships. She shares her personal experiences and how it relates to the TV show Parks and Recreation. Jeni explores the cultural influence on the idea of fixing others, highlighting the gendered expectations placed on women. She also discusses the impact of family dynamics and the relationship with parents on this behavior. Low self-esteem and fear of intimacy are identified as factors that contribute to the desire to fix others. Jeni emphasizes the importance of finding a good partner who complements you rather than a project. She concludes by announcing a group coaching program.

Takeaways

Cultural norms and gendered expectations contribute to the belief that women should fix others in relationships.

Family dynamics and the relationship with parents can influence the desire to fix others.

Low self-esteem can lead to seeking out projects in relationships.

Fear of intimacy can manifest as a desire to fix others.

It is important to find a partner who complements you rather than trying to fix them.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Personal Experience

01:01 Cultural Influence on Fixing Others

04:21 Family Dynamics

05:38 Relationship with Parents

07:30 Low Self-Esteem

08:10 Fear of Intimacy

12:32 Emotionally Unavailable Partners

19:19 Fight Antiquated Social Norms

20:09 Group Coaching Program Announcement

20:59 Conclusion

Meh. I hates it. I'm going to sound like the absolute bitterest buddy in this episode, but hear me out. I just think it does more harm than good and the "story" behind it is actually quite gross. Capitalism has taken over Valentine's day for over a century. Let's spend our hard earned moola on something better and not be victims to the pressures this Hallmark holiday creates. Who's with me?

Dig what you're hearing? Gimme a like n follow and find me @theintimacyally on Instagram.

Are you re-entering the dating scene over 40 or have you been trying to online date as a mom and it just sucks? Never fear, The Intimacy Ally is here! Let me help you get the fun and magic spark back in your dating adventure. Find the link to sign up for my workshop in my linktree here:

https://linktr.ee/theintimacyally

Also, as promised here's the link to my favorite History YouTuber History Calling:

https://www.youtube.com/@HistoryCalling

Y'all, I hope you've missed me as much as I've missed sharing info with you! Life just crept up on me. I started an online grad school program and the final for my first class overlapped with some major mental health issues for a loved one and well, everything but the bare minimum came to a screeching halt.

Anywho, today I'm jabbering on about ways that sex can deteriorate in relationships and some ways to combat its demise.

If you like what ya hear, follow me on IG @theintimacyally. You can DM me there for info on my upcoming course for helping moms over 40 get back in the dating game.

STILL haven't come up with what I wanna say at the end of the episodes. If you have an idea, shoot me an email at [email protected].

Heeeyyyyy! The podcast is old enough to drink! LOL...so for episode 21, I present to you...how the 5 love languages are bullshit. I want you to wipe all of this Christian misogynistic rhetoric out of your head honey lamb! Credit where credit is due I have some links below to stories that inspired this episode and also, I made a whoopsie about Scary Mommy...don't hate me cuz I still love Scary Mommy! Enjoy my lovelies!

Oh, and if you wanna get on the waitlist for "Making Online Dating Magical" you can do that on the page for the class on my website www.theintimacyally.com OR you can shoot me a DM on Instagram @theintimacyally OOORRRR you can send me an email at [email protected].

Now for those links to others!

https://www.scarymommy.com/creator-5-love-languages-homophobe

https://www.canculturemag.com/feature-1/2023/2/10/the-loveless-truth-behind-the-five-love-languages#:~:text=Gary%20Chapman%20published%20his%20book,the%20importance%20of%20love%20languages.

https://www.tiktok.com/@raquelmartinphd?lang=en

Summary

In this episode, Jeni Simas debunks the myth of soulmates and explores the harmful impact of this belief. She emphasizes the importance of finding soul connections beyond romantic relationships and challenges the scarcity mindset associated with soulmates. By letting go of the idea of soulmates, individuals can experience freedom and open themselves up to a wider pool of potential partners. Jeni also discusses the key factors that contribute to lasting and fulfilling relationships. Additionally, she announces the launch of the Making Online Dating Magical Mastermind.

Takeaways

Soulmates are a myth and a harmful belief that can negatively impact one's dating journey.

Finding soul connections can extend beyond romantic relationships and include meaningful connections with friends and family.

Letting go of the idea of soulmates allows individuals to explore a wider pool of potential partners and experience freedom in their dating journey.

The key factors that contribute to lasting and fulfilling relationships include intimate connection, honest communication, mutual respect, shared values, and similar life goals.

Chapters

00:00 The Myth of Soulmates

02:30 The Harmful Impact of Soulmates

05:03 Finding Soul Connections Beyond Romance

06:36 The Scarcity Mindset of Soulmates

08:06 The Freedom of Letting Go of Soulmates

10:03 What Makes a Relationship Lasting and Fulfilling

12:42 Announcement: Making Online Dating Magical Mastermind

Calling BS on how we all came up thinking that Al and Peg's interactions were okay and that if someone treated you like scum, you could and should stay. I think personally, they had a more lasting effect on me than ANY positive role model. I still see it in so many relationships and interactions. So, here goes. Let's blow this one out of the water. Married with Children done f*cked a lot of our heads.