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A listener note before you press play. This conversation includes grooming by a church leader, an eating disorder, and drug addiction.
Some stories are not for scrolling past. This one belongs to Elaine Mingus.
Her father moved the family out of Houston to keep his kids away from the big city. They started going to church in a small Texas town. The youth pastor there was grooming Elaine and several other girls in the group.
When it came out, the family sat down with the senior pastor. Before they said a word, he told them he already knew. The youth pastor had confessed. And the church believed Elaine had seduced him.
She was a teenager.
This was the nineties. Nobody used the word grooming. Nobody suggested therapy. So she buried it, and she carried the shame instead. That shame turned into eight years of bulimia and an almost daily heroin addiction.
Then she walked into a church, saw the crucifix, and says every question she had was answered right there, including ones she did not know she was asking.
She is careful to say the story is not finished. Jesus is not done yet.
Today Elaine is Mrs. Texas, a mother of seven, and the founder of Pageantpreneur, where she helps women in pageantry use their story, voice, and platform to get visible, land sponsors, and get media attention that outlasts the crown.
The conversation she is most interested in is not how to become successful. It is what happens after you spend years believing the next accomplishment will finally make you feel like you have arrived.
She has a line for it. Yesterday's success becomes today's baseline. So the goalpost moves and moves and you never once stop to look back. She thinks that is why God kept telling the Israelites to build altars.
She also talks about counting. Calories, the scale, view counts, hours with your kids versus hours without them. Always calculating your worth from your own performance instead of receiving what Jesus already settled.
There is a working idea in this episode you can use today. Elaine builds every client around one overarching story and five signature stories underneath it. Then everything she posts checks back against those six. She says women worry they are repeating themselves, but people want predictability. It is what makes them trust you.
Her other line worth keeping. You are not responsible for the outcome. You are responsible for the action.
Find Elaine on Instagram at Pageantpreneur for the business, or at https://pageantpreneur.com
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