This powerful quote is attributed to Sufism and it's philospophy of spiritual awakening. Stuttering is not an external thing that we are a victim to. Listen to explore how a pws can "peel the layers back" and investigate their stuttering. How can we breakthrough the grind of avoiding and anxety? How can I grow and improve my verbal skills and my confidence?

"When the ojective is clear enough, there is no obstacle" ~Earl Nightingale

I met Dylan when he was a sophomore in college- at age 20. Listen to his story. Like myself, it was very hard stuttering as a child. Now, as a senior VP for a fantasy sports gaming company he has to speak in meetings and webinars every wek. His fear is gone and now he finds enjoyment in public speaking!

Like learning to play an instrument, golf has MANY similarities to stuttering. We need patience, self-forgiveness, to be free of a temper, and to not personalize bad shots or high scores. Golf has subtleties like wind, sand, deep rough, penalty strokes, hazards, and other twists and turns. Ambient noise, phone calls, checking in at a counter and saying our name, public speaking and other conditions can affect a person who stutters. Listen in an find helpful thoughts for your communication.

Listen to the insane and stupid story. As of today, 100% of my podcasts, my articles, and my YouTube videos are FREE. Yet, I must be banned. LMAO

I have heard "when I don't think about talking I don't stutter" a million times. If only it was that easy! Can I be hypnotized today and never think about talking or stuttering? Nope. When athletes think "don't miss it!!" they do miss it. Sometimes they are "in the zone" and making 3 point shots or clutch putts in golf.

What the person who stutters wants to do first is to use CBT or mindfulness to find out what they do when they stutter and/or have anxiety. For example, when their phone rings and they walk away from listeners who might here them talk. When the pws points to a menu for the server to say the food item, what does the pws believe about stuttering? They are likely projecting on listeners. Once we pws remove the malware thoughts from our hard drives we can really liberate ourselves. Refer to several of my previous podcasts that refer to purpose and intention, changing why to how?, and the cinema of the mind.

If you prefer language such as "accept and embrace stuttering," read this article with an open mind. Jack talks about freeing our mind of personalizing stuttering.

https://www.stuttering-specialist.com/post/and-the-stuttering-just-dies

People who stutter often have "internal rules." An example that pertains to voicemail on a phone would be: "I can't leave a stutter on someone's voicemail!" Or, "my personal greeting cannot have a stutter!" Another, "during an interview I cannot have blocks!...if I do, I won't be hired...little stutters are OK but not blocks!" A rule book for stuttering doesn't exist, does it. We can feel so sure about these irrational beliefs. Personalizing and/or projecting are the real culprits behind internal rules.

An adolescent who was unable to say his name without dramatic blocking and who was being teased on a regular basis attended a stuttering day camp. When he asked for help with his name- the #1 reason he attended the camp- he was told "we don't do that here." When a SLP will not help child with his name because of paradigm paralysis the child suffers. Listen to this common sense message.

Jia Bin is earning her PhD. She plans to research stuttering and help pws from this day forward. Jia grew up in China; where support for stuttering was hard to find. She stutters in Mandarin and in English. Even though we grew up across the planet from each other, the foundation of our stuttering was strikingly similar. We discuss current terminology and rhetoric in the stuttering community. It is my hunch that Jia will make many contributions to stuttering.

Managing a stuttter, being willing to disclose that you stutter, and coming out of your shell all take patience! Many of us tried to hide it for years. Lee Reeves, DVM is a retired veterinarian and he has been active in the stuttering community for decades. Lee and Tim examine the power of the Jean-Jacques Rousseau's famous quote "Patience is bitter but its fruit is sweet."

I also mention the passing of Walt Manning, PhD. You want to read his 1999 classic Creating Your Own Map for Change:

https://ahn.mnsu.edu/services-and-centers/center-for-communication-sciences-and-disorders/services/stuttering/professional-education/convention-materials/archive-of-online-conferences/isad1999/creating-your-own-map-for-change/

How many times have you feared the very worst about stuttering and the worst never happened? So many pws stuttered during interivews, they felt sure an offer would not come because of the stuttering and POOF the offer came! A pws can worry in the past tense and in the future tense. This is why stuttering has been compared to PTSD.

BUT we must realize that we typically blow our stuttering out of proportion and that we have a community of people who don't judge our stuttering the way that we assume.

https://www.stuttering-specialist.com/post/stuttering-as-a-variant-of-post-traumatic-stress-disorder