For 32+ years I have seen pws stutter on the word stutter and tell me they fear the word! I used to stutter on the word stutter nearly 100% of the time. The bottom line is that we attach a strong negative meaning to stuttering on stutter- shame and embarrassment. Many people who stutter refer to it as "my speech" or a "speech impediment." Ironically, "speech" is a different /s/ blend word! But, we take stuttering on "speech" less personally than "stutter." Some pws are reluctant to disclose that they stutter because they fear stuttering on "stutter." Listen in.

Tomorrow, next week, or 60 days from now how will I know to fear or avoid very specific words, sounds, or situations? Did I download an App to my brain that controls me? Experiences on my timeline create these fears and avoidance habits. Pschologists talk about "one trial learning" when a phobia is created. We who stutter can create a fear of stuttering and then this "App" runs in the background of our communication system. Listen and learn.

I hear from people who stutter on a regular basis that it is hard to talk in noisy environments. Speaking when there is ambient noise, with multiple listeners competing to be heard, or "chaotic" moments was hard for me. I get it. We have to examine what we are thinking and feeling in those moments. We can have what Joe Sheehan called the "approach/avoidance conflict." We also want to learn to project our voice from the diaphragm and not strain at the larynx.

Tyler is a college senior who is earning a degree in psychology and a minor in Spanish. Listen and you will hear his speech pattern two years ago. He stuttered and cluttered 24 months ago.

He has enjoyed his new speech pattern for 6 months now. Tyler will explain what he learned to make both English and Spanish so much more fluid. Tyler plans to get a master's degree and serve our community in both languages!

This powerful quote is attributed to Sufism and it's philospophy of spiritual awakening. Stuttering is not an external thing that we are a victim to. Listen to explore how a pws can "peel the layers back" and investigate their stuttering. How can we breakthrough the grind of avoiding and anxety? How can I grow and improve my verbal skills and my confidence?

"When the ojective is clear enough, there is no obstacle" ~Earl Nightingale

I met Dylan when he was a sophomore in college- at age 20. Listen to his story. Like myself, it was very hard stuttering as a child. Now, as a senior VP for a fantasy sports gaming company he has to speak in meetings and webinars every wek. His fear is gone and now he finds enjoyment in public speaking!

Like learning to play an instrument, golf has MANY similarities to stuttering. We need patience, self-forgiveness, to be free of a temper, and to not personalize bad shots or high scores. Golf has subtleties like wind, sand, deep rough, penalty strokes, hazards, and other twists and turns. Ambient noise, phone calls, checking in at a counter and saying our name, public speaking and other conditions can affect a person who stutters. Listen in an find helpful thoughts for your communication.

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I have heard "when I don't think about talking I don't stutter" a million times. If only it was that easy! Can I be hypnotized today and never think about talking or stuttering? Nope. When athletes think "don't miss it!!" they do miss it. Sometimes they are "in the zone" and making 3 point shots or clutch putts in golf.

What the person who stutters wants to do first is to use CBT or mindfulness to find out what they do when they stutter and/or have anxiety. For example, when their phone rings and they walk away from listeners who might here them talk. When the pws points to a menu for the server to say the food item, what does the pws believe about stuttering? They are likely projecting on listeners. Once we pws remove the malware thoughts from our hard drives we can really liberate ourselves. Refer to several of my previous podcasts that refer to purpose and intention, changing why to how?, and the cinema of the mind.

If you prefer language such as "accept and embrace stuttering," read this article with an open mind. Jack talks about freeing our mind of personalizing stuttering.

https://www.stuttering-specialist.com/post/and-the-stuttering-just-dies

People who stutter often have "internal rules." An example that pertains to voicemail on a phone would be: "I can't leave a stutter on someone's voicemail!" Or, "my personal greeting cannot have a stutter!" Another, "during an interview I cannot have blocks!...if I do, I won't be hired...little stutters are OK but not blocks!" A rule book for stuttering doesn't exist, does it. We can feel so sure about these irrational beliefs. Personalizing and/or projecting are the real culprits behind internal rules.