Style Like a Mother

I'm back after a Year of the Snake shedding period, and starting up on Substack! Come party with me: https://substack.com/@laurenmessiah   

Today's episode is inspired by a question from one of my Style Boss Academy students. She wanted to know how I was preparing my business for the Year of the Fire Horse (which starts on Feb 17th).  

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Pulling back the curtain on what makes your favorite celebrities so stylish 24/7. Spoiler Alert: It's an impossible standard that no woman should hold herself to. Inside this week's episode, we're setting a new style standard for ourselves. A standard that puts energy first and style second.

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Watch the episode:  https://youtu.be/95DgXv_4Z3A 

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This is the information I wish I had when I was an expecting entrepreneur. Inside this episode we'll walk through practical tips for preparing your business for motherhood, going on a PAID maternity leave as an entrepreneur, and navigating growing your business while pregnant.

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Watch the episode: https://youtu.be/_p87aakz6rQ 

Let's connect:  Have a question or want me to dive deeper into a topic from the episode? DM me on Instagram or email [email protected]

We're talking all things 'cringe' and how it impacts our lives and businesses. We often encounter cringe-worthy content on social media that triggers secondhand embarrassment. The fear of being cringe prevents us from starting new ventures, creating impactful work, and ultimately blocks our success. So let's cringe our way to the top! 

Join the Challenge: https://style.laurenmessiah.com/offers/Ezjfxvi8/checkout 

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What it’s like to navigate entrepreneurship before and after becoming a mother. From time freedom to identity shifts, spiritual growth, money changes, and how a change in lifestyle impacts ambition.

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Watch the episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I9n9RHSS5Jo 

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If you’ve ever felt pressure to show up as the polished, filtered, “brand-friendly” version of yourself, this episode is for you. 

What we talk about:

The difference between realness vs. performative realness

What social media used to feel like (the 2005 blogging era + drunk Twitter)

Why people are craving authenticity more than ever

The time I breastfed during a surprise "cameras on" podcast episode 

How being your real self changes everything from dating to business

Journaling Prompt:

How can I return to realness in my life, my style, or my business? What does one small step toward being more myself look like today?

Let's Connect: 

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Can you borrow energy from clothing and transmute it into your own? We're exploring that concept in this week's episode 'The Frequency of Style.' 

What we talk about:

The story behind my $4,000 Prada bag and why it was more than just a purchase

How style operates on a frequency and what it means to “borrow” that energy

Why a Zara outfit can make you feel just as powerful as Prada (but only when your energy is on point)

How to go from borrowing energy and becoming it (and then transmuting everything to match it)

How to use clothing, coaching, and creativity as stepping stones to your next level

What it looks like when your style begins to match your frequency 

A practical experiment to help you notice and embody the energy behind what you’re naturally drawn to

Resources mentioned:

Style Like a Mother Episode 2: The Prada Bag Story

Bonus Episode: The Dragonflies Made Me Do It

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 Who Do You Want to Be?

I almost didn’t record this episode. I was tired, just got back from traveling with Onyx (his first flight!), and after being stranded at LAX for 90 minutes without a car seat, the last thing I wanted to do was podcast. But a commitment is a commitment, and I made one to show up every week.

This week’s episode was inspired by a DM from a listener who’s struggling with ruined clothes from baby messes, and feeling like she’s losing herself in motherhood.

We talk about:

- The difference between who you’re becoming and who you want to be
- How your style can help you stay connected to yourself
- Why your “fancy clothes” are meant to be lived in, not saved
- Letting go of perfection and choosing presence

If you’ve ever looked at your closet and thought, “What’s the point?” this one’s for you.

Resources Mentioned:

The Mommy Makeover Series on Instagram

Submit a Question:
DM me on Instagram @laurenmessiah or email [email protected] with your style, motherhood, or mindset questions.

Episode 12: 

The Missing Link:

This week’s episode is a special one, it’s the first time I’m recording on video! If you want to see my face while I talk, head over to my YouTube channel (@LaurenMassiah) and check it out. I don’t know if this video thing will be a regular thing, but for now, we’re rolling with it.

This episode wasn’t planned at all. I had a whole calendar mapped out, but life threw me a curveball. I was challenged to say “yes” to things I’d normally say “no” to, and here we are, on video, talking about a topic I never thought I’d share: my hair journey and how it ties into business and motherhood.

Buckle up, because this episode is raw, unstructured, and totally off the cuff.

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My Hair Journey: Growing up mixed race in the DMV (DC, Maryland, Virginia area), my hair was always a struggle. My mom, who isn’t Black, did her best, but she didn’t know how to handle my texture. From mayonnaise treatments to dreadlocks in college, to chemical relaxers and disastrous DIY experiments, my hair has been a lifelong challenge. It wasn’t until I discovered wigs and weaves that everything changed. That missing link opened up a whole new world for me.

The Concept of the Missing Link: Whether it’s hair, business, or motherhood, there’s always a piece of information or guidance that can transform your journey. For me, discovering wigs and weaves was the missing link for my hair. In business, it was learning about marketing and sales. In motherhood, it’s understanding that you can’t do it all and need to prioritize.

-"Stop looking at other people and wondering what’s wrong with you. There’s nothing wrong with you, you just haven’t gained the complete knowledge yet."

-"If you change the question to start asking for all of the information, instead of beating your head against the wall, everything changes."

-"Figure out where you want to go, ask what’s missing, and then call in the guide or the next right step to close the gap."

-YouTube Video Episode: If you want to see my face, then head over to my YouTube channel (@LaurenMassiah) and check it out.

 Connect with Me:

So I have to ask you... what’s your missing link? What’s that one thing you feel like you’re stuck on, and what’s stopping you from asking for help? Shoot me a DM on Instagram (@laurenmessiah) or email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear your story.

See you next time!
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XO,

Lauren

Episode 11: 

Start Now, Figure It Out Later

I'm here to convince you to just go for it. If you're an entrepreneur, or anyone who has "given birth" to a business, a new identity, or a reinvention of yourself, this episode is for you. I'm tired of seeing people wait for the "perfect time" to start a business, a family, or anything that feels big and scary. That perfect time never comes! That's why I live by the motto Fire, Aim, Ready, not the other way around. 

In this week's episode, we're talking about getting it done and embracing the one philosophy that has served me so well in business and, now, in my life as a mom: Start Now, Figure It Out Later. All of the most impactful moments in my career happened because I started before things were perfect. As scary as these moments were, they always worked out better than I could have imagined.

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Why overthinking is just procrastination in a different outfit: I've trained over 7,000 stylists, and it's the most common thread I see holding people back.

How I started my YouTube channel: It started because two friends told me to just do it. So I had my assistant, who is NOT a videographer, hold my old iPhone in my kitchen, and we just started shooting. No fancy equipment, no scripts, no studio. I just committed to showing up consistently. And that little channel? That channel now has around 90,000 subscribers. It's led to TV spots, press, and over 90% of my customers found me there. All because I just started. 

The story behind Style Boss Academy: I launched the course before I ever made the course. I was totally done teaching stylists, I was burnt out. But the idea wouldn't leave me alone, so I went to the beach with my journal and mapped it all out. I had no videos, no curriculum, just an idea and a checkout page. I set this huge, scary money goal, and the pre-launch did almost DOUBLE that.

The creation of this very podcast: I didn't get a fancy studio or mic. I'm literally sitting in a Zoom room on my roof talking into my phone because I just decided to get it done.

"Overthinking kills momentum. Getting in action is just going to snowball into more action."

 "Start now, figure it out later. The finish is always freaking beautiful, even if the start is messy."

"Perfect doesn’t exist. The stars are never perfectly aligned for you to make that big, scary decision."

"We gotta do it messy. We gotta do it dirty. Because overthinking is just procrastination wearing a different outfit."

Speaking of Style Boss Academy, the four-year pre-launch anniversary is coming up 🎉🎉 From October 27th to the 31st, I'm holding the first-ever sale on the program, with lots of fun surprises. Make sure you're subscribed to my emails and watching my Instagram stories so you don't miss it! 

 Connect with Me:

So I have to ask you... what is that thing you've been sitting on that you could just start, like, today? Shoot me a DM on Instagram (@laurenmessiah) or email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear your story.

See you next time!
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XO,

Lauren