Submissive Guide

A question I see asked all the time is, "How can I be a better submissive?" Here are a few things you can do to improve your submission and service without much work.

Resources - 

• Non-sexual Service and How To Add It To Your Dynamic
• How Making a Cup of Coffee Centers Me
• Ritual Ideas: High Tea, Japanese Tea Ceremony and Formal Dining
• 3 Reasons a "Perpetual Student" Mindset Is Vital to Kink
• Create SMART Goals For Your New Year's Resolutions and Reach Your Goals This Year!
• The Importance of Journaling Your Submission
• 5 Simple Steps to Creating a Personal Submissive Mantra
• 365 Days of Submission
• Learning Good Observation Skills for Better Submissive Awareness
• Entering the Community: The Different Ways to Socialize with Local Kinksters
• Finding Your Submissive Voice: Speak Up for Better, Honest Communication
• Active Submission Means Always Improving Yourself
• A Submissive's Prime Directive: Take Care of the Property
• Submissive Guide FetLife Group

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Let's discuss how to build healthy communication skills in our D/s relationship and what a safe environment for difficult conversations looks like. I’ll give you the tools to develop a report with your partner that is full of trust, shared vulnerability, and compassion. You’ll learn that a safe environment for those challenging talks requires planning and mutual agreements to work as they should. 

Resources:

Conversation Starters for Difficult Conversations: https://www.wikihow.com/images/sampledocs/f/Conversation-Starters-for-Difficult-Conversations.pdf 

Kink Friendly Therapists:

• Psychology Today - https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/sex-positive-kink-allied
• Kink Friendly Therapy - http://kinkfriendlytherapy.com/resources-3/resources/
• Kink Aware Professionals Directory - https://www.kapprofessionals.org/

Domestic Abuse Hotlines:

US: https://www.thehotline.org/

UK: https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk/

EU: https://www.improve-horizon.eu/helplines 

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Often, we discover our desire to be submissive or kinky when we are already in a relationship and are not sure really how to proceed with that. Let’s cover what you should do to prepare to talk to your partner about your newfound interest, how you can encourage a submissive mindset on your own, and how you can slowly bring kink into the bedroom.

Read the article: https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/making-him-the-dom-of-your-dreams-working-with-the-man-you-have 

Initiating a Discussion about BDSM with Your Partner:

• Initiating a Discussion about BDSM Interest with Your Partner - ted_subby - Part 1 of a 3-part series. Highly recommended.
• Ask SehAnru | Communicating Kinky Needs to a Vanilla Partner - SehAnru
• Establishing a Safe, Trusting Environment for Talk - lunaKM

Resources:

• Recommended Reading Lists
• Creating a Personal Submissive Protocol

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Receiving your collar is a special occasion for many submissives and slaves. When a collar comes into view, some people want to commemorate that with a ceremony. Let’s discuss collars, their symbolism in D/s and M/s relationships, and how you can build a formal ceremony around declaring your commitment to each other.

Article: https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/how-to-plan-a-formal-collaring-ceremony 

Resources: 

Expectations of a Collar: How Ready Are You to Accept One?

Here is a list of collaring ceremony stories I found online to get you started in your research to build your ceremony.

• Our Ceremony of Roses, Vow Renewal, and Re-collaring by Mrs Darling
• Our Collaring Ceremony on the space between
• My collaring ceremony script from my polyamorous commitment ceremony on Offbeat Wed
• Planning Our Collaring Ceremony on The Chateau
• Collaring Ceremony and Ceremony of the Roses on House of Dasein
• Ceremony From The Heart: The Collaring Ceremony by Norische

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 Let’s break down what topping from the bottom is, why it’s so bad, how it can be good, and learn some tricks to stop the poor behavior in its tracks that leads to it.

Read the article: https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/why-you-should-know-the-truth-about-topping-from-the-bottom

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Resources:

• Arcane Advice article on Topping from the Bottom: https://arcaneadvice.com/all-lessons-a-z/topping-from-the-bottom-why-its-bad-and-when-its-good/
• Resistance Play: https://www.kinkly.com/definition/810/resistance-play
• Healthy Communication Skills on Submissive Guide: https://submissiveguide.com/search?query=healthy+communication

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Communication is a key topic to developing and maintaining healthy, open relationships. But many of us need to learn what good communication looks like and have problems with at least one part of good communication techniques.

Read the article: https://submissiveguide.com/communication/articles/every-good-conversation-starts-with-good-listening

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One of the best skills a submissive can learn is observation. Observation can also be neglected in your daily and work life, so learning requires you to reteach your mind, eyes, focus, and attention. It's so worth it.

Read the article: https://submissiveguide.com/skills/articles/learning-good-observation-skills

Further Reading:

Anticipatory Service

Personality and Behavior Tests:

• Meyers-Briggs Type Indicator
• The Big Five
• Predictive Index
• Strengths Finder

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Your limits are unique to you and may change over time as you gain experience and self-awareness. Embrace the opportunity for self-discovery and pleasure as you unlock the secrets to understanding and embracing your BDSM limits.

Read the Article: https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/what-everyone-ought-to-know-about-finding-and-managing-limits

Further Reading:

BDSM Limits Explained
Using Checklists to Figure Out Your Kinky Limits
Establishing Boundaries & Limits in BDSM
Novices and Newbies Group on FetLife

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Explore the journey of embracing dirty talk. With practical tips, personal stories, and valuable resources, readers are encouraged to break free from inhibitions and discover the liberating potential of vocalizing desires and fantasies.

Read the article: https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/how-to-talk-dirty

Further Reading:

• How to Be Responsive During Play
• Exhibitionism for the Shy: Show Off, Dress Up and Talk Hot! by Carol Queen
• Sex Talk: Uncensored Exercises for Exploring What Really Turns You On by Lauren Dockett
• The Dirty Slang Dictionary

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A beginner's guide that explores the practice of orgasm control and its potential for enhancing pleasure. The first in the series, this article covers the first steps to exploring orgasm control in your play.

Resources on Orgasm Control Mechanics:

• Orgasm Control by Rover
• Orgasm Control Conditioning of Females on FetLife
• Train Your Body to Orgasm on Command
• Orgasm Control Training: They Can’t Resist
• Orgasm Control by gina

Study: Women's Attributions Regarding Why They Have Difficulty Reaching Orgasm

Book: The Elusive Orgasm: A Woman's Guide to Why She Can't and How She Can Orgasm" by Vivienne Cass, Ph.D

Part 2 of the Orgasm Control Training Series: https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/orgasm-on-command-training-the-process-for-the-submissive 

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