Come Curious

By Florence Bark & Reed | QCODEComedy Society & Culture Health & Fitness Sexuality

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October 08 Why Don't I Feel Horny? How to get your sex drive back - Libido, Arousal, Hormones & Relationships
Why don't I feel horny anymore?
And is there actually anything you can do to get your sex drive back?
In this episode of Come Curious, Florence and Reed dive into the surprisingly complicated world of libido, low sex drive and sexual desire - and why feeling less horny doesn't necessarily mean there's something wrong with you.
From hormones and medication to stress, relationships, parenthood and mental health, we unpack the many reasons your libido can change throughout your life.
We get into:
- Why around 1 in 4 couples experience mismatched libidos
- How antidepressants, hormonal birth control and other medications can affect desire
- How stress, exhaustion, mental load, body image and emotional safety can put the brakes on sex
- Why pregnancy, breastfeeding and parenthood can dramatically change your sex drive
- How trauma, shame, upbringing and neurodivergence can influence desire
- Why asexuality isn't the same thing as having no interest in pleasure or masturbation
- Why you don't always have to wait until you're spontaneously horny to start exploring desire
And we finish with our four-step toolkit for getting your sex drive back: from identifying what's actually killing your libido to rebuilding your erotic world and making sex easier to want.
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55 min
October 01How Motherhood Changed Us - Postpartum Life, Body Changes, Sex After Birth & Maternal Mental Health
Motherhood changes you. Your body, your brain, your relationships, your priorities — sometimes even your sense of who the fuck you are.
In this episode, Florence gets brutally honest about the reality of becoming a new mum, from postpartum anxiety and breastfeeding to body changes, sex after birth and the pressure to somehow “bounce back”.
We get into:
The enormous identity shift that comes with becoming a mother

Postpartum anxiety, mental health and why we need to talk about it

Breastfeeding, body changes and the judgement new mums face

Sex after birth, low libido, pain and learning to listen to your body

How social media can affect postpartum body image

Returning to work and the reality of corporate parental leave

The wildly different ways motherhood can make you feel — from depletion and loss to empowerment and love
Plus, we hear from our community about what motherhood changed for them and why there is no such thing as “bouncing back”.
Because you don't go back to who you were before.
You become someone new.
As always, we love hearing what you have to say - let us know, share your stories and be sure to follow us on Instagram:
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54 min
September 24 The Future of Sex - would you 'do' a robot? | AI Seggs, AI Companions & The Future of Intimacy
Our question this week is - Would you have seggs with a robot?
As loneliness rises and AI becomes increasingly woven into our relationships, Florence and Reed ask a very important question: what happens when technology can give us pleasure, companionship and even something that feels a little like intimacy?
In this episode, we explore the future of sex, from AI companions and sex robots to the loneliness epidemic and whether technology could make pleasure more accessible or make real human connection even harder.
We get into:
- Seggs dolls vs seggs robots and what AI actually changes
- AI companions, loneliness and the future of intimacy
- Can technology provide pleasure without replacing human connection?
- Why Gen Z and millennials are turning to synthetic intimacy
- The benefits and potential pitfalls of AI seggs tech
- We try out SensOn, an AI-powered interactive pleasure experience where stories, characters and physical sensations respond in real time
- Plus we reveal whether we'd actually consider having seggs with a robot...

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Plus, Reed shares details of an upcoming k'nky, queer-friendly and sustainable marketplace in London, and we ask you the question that might define the future of seggs: Would you do a robot?
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39 min
September 17How To Make Rejection Your B*tch - Dating Rejection, ADHD Rejection Sensitivity, Boundaries & Self-Worth
Rejection fcking hurts. So how do we get better at handling it without taking it as a verdict on our worth?
In this episode of Come Curious, Florence and Reed get into the messy reality of rejection across dating, relationships, friendships and work. They explore why rejection can feel so painful, how the way we're rejected can make a huge difference, and why learning to say (and hear) “no” is such an important life skill.
We get into:
Why rejection activates the same brain regions as physical pain

Dating rejection, friendship breakups and workplace rejection

ADHD, neurodivergency and rejection sensitivity

How to reject someone without making them feel worthless

Why people-pleasing and fawning can make rejection harder

Navigating rejection inside long-term relationships

What kink can teach us about boundaries and respecting “no”

The three-step rejection toolkit for having difficult conversations
Plus, Florence and Reed share their own experiences of rejection and challenge us to stop treating someone else's “no” as a judgement on who we are.
Because rejection isn't proof that you're unlovable. Sometimes it's just information.
So let's make rejection our b*tch.
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53 min
September 10Do I Like You or Was I Just Ovulating: Attraction, Hormones, Attachment Styles & Toxic Chemistry
Is it chemistry… or is it just hormones?
Florence and Reed dive into the science and psychology of attraction - exploring dopamine, adrenaline, ovulation, attachment styles and why the people who make our nervous systems go wild aren't always the people who are actually good for us.
We get into:
The brain chemistry behind attraction and obsession

Can ovulation really change who we fancy?

Why intense chemistry doesn't always mean compatibility

Hot-and-cold behaviour, anxious attachment and addictive relationship cycles

Gen Z, phones during sex and what it says about intimacy

K'nk, consent and the criminalisation of str4ngulation in 🌽

How alcohol, stress and hormones can seriously influence our decisions
And because this is a watershed episode, our Patreon members get the unfiltered second half - including some very candid stories about recent sexual experiences, orgasm denial, roleplay, tickle torture and the mental aftermath of intense play.
Maybe you don't like them. Maybe you're just ovulating.

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46 min
September 03 Everything We Know About Dating: Best vs Worst Dates - dating apps, ghosting, and catfishing
In the first episode of our new dating series, Reed and Florence dive into the realities of modern dating - from dating apps and ghosting to catfishing, first-date disasters and the best dates they've ever been on.
With Reed navigating single, polyamorous life and Florence adjusting to life as a new mum, they bring very different perspectives to the dating game.
We get into:
Dating apps & catfishing - do profiles actually match the people you meet?
Ghosting & rejection - why are so many people disappearing instead of communicating?
Dating statistics - who's actually initiating dates, and are apps changing how we meet?
The worst dates - broken furniture, injuries, bizarre behaviour and some truly chaotic encounters
The best dates - including extravagant Mayfair dates and what actually makes a date memorable
Dating etiquette - how to communicate when you're interested… and when you're definitely not
Plus, Reed and Florence read your best and worst dating stories, discuss LGBTQ+ dating and dating apps, and ask what we're really looking for when we go on a first date.
This is the beginning of a whole new Come Curious series about dating, sex, relationships, apps, rejection and everything that happens in between.
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1 hr 1 min
August 27Hair Fetish and Being a Bearded Woman - Body confidence, Beauty standards & Kink
What happens when you stop treating your body hair as something that needs fixing and start seeing it as part of what makes you attractive?
In this episode of Come Curious, Reed chats to Bethany, producer of Come Curious and host of The Sassy Show, about being a proudly hairy woman with a beard. They dive deep into body confidence, beauty standards and hair fetishes.
Bethany shares her journey from shaving from the age of 10 to embracing her natural body hair and how queer & kinky communities helped her feel more confident in her body.
We get into:
Being a hairy woman: body hair, beauty standards & body acceptance

Hair fetishes: when being fetishised can feel empowering vs objectifying

Razor play & grooming: the intimacy of letting someone else care for your body

Body confidence: learning to see and touch your body without shame

Talking to partners: asking for reassurance, praise and what you actually need
Tune in for a conversation about body hair, kink, fetishisation, confidence and unlearning the idea that your natural body needs to be changed.
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1 hr
August 20 How to Make Friends and Break Friendships - Loneliness, Toxic Friendships & Friends With Benefits
Making Friends After 30? Trying to end a toxic friendship? Dealing with Adult Loneliness? This is the episode for you!
In this episode of Come Curious, we get into the messy reality of adult friendship: how to make new friends, how to know when a friendship has run its course, and why ending a platonic relationship can hurt just as much as a romantic breakup.
We talk about the loneliness epidemic, introversion and different social capacities, as well as the difference between a friendship naturally fizzling out and deliberately choosing to walk away. They also share their own experiences of friendship breakups — including the dramatic ones — and discuss why honest communication can sometimes be kinder than quietly disappearing.
Our audience gets involved too, sharing how Curious Fckers made new friends through Bumble BFF, Instagram, burlesque, bouldering, dance classes, hobbies, local groups and niche communities.
Plus, the episode touches on current LGBTQI+ and political news before getting back to the really important stuff: how the hell do you actually make friends when you're an adult?
Expect conversations about loneliness, friendship breakups, social anxiety, finding your community, making friends online and IRL, and knowing when it's time to let a friendship go.
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1 hr 4 min
August 13How to Initiate Sex: communicating desire & overcoming rejection anxiety
How do you actually initiate sex with your partner?
It sounds simple, but for many couples, making the first move can be surprisingly awkward, vulnerable and even scary. In this episode, we get into why sexual initiation can become so difficult and what you can actually do about it.
We discuss the loneliness epidemic and changing dating habits, before getting into the bigger question: how do we ask for sex without making it feel like a high-stakes negotiation?
Drawing on ideas from Emily Nagoski's Come As You Are, we explore spontaneous and responsive desire, the "accelerators and brakes" that influence libido, and why initiating sex can start hours before you ever get into bed.
We talk about:
Why so many couples struggle to initiate sex

How fear of rejection can make making a move feel terrifying

Why sex can start with connection, safety and feeling understood

Using love languages as a form of everyday intimacy and foreplay

Spontaneous vs responsive desire

How long-term relationships can change the way we experience sexual desire

How having children can completely reshape your sex life

Why asking your partner how they like to be initiated with could change everything

How to communicate about sex without pressure, expectation or mind-reading
And then we hit the watershed.
The first half of this episode is available to everyone, but if you want to hear the more personal, intimate and unfiltered conversation - including our own stories about sexual initiation - you'll need to head over to Patreon for the full episode.
So whether you've been together for ten years, you're newly dating, you're navigating parenthood, or you're simply wondering how to make the first move without dying of embarrassment… this one's for you.
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56 min
August 06My Friend's Having a Baby - WTF?! Friendship changes, parenthood & child-free life
No one really prepares you for what happens when your best friend has a baby.
Suddenly your lives look completely different. Messages take longer to reply to, spontaneous plans disappear, priorities shift, and sometimes... it can feel like you're grieving a friendship that's still alive.
In this deeply honest episode, Florence and Reed unpack how becoming a parent changes friendships—not just for the person having the baby, but for the friends left wondering where they fit in.
We discuss:
Why it's normal to grieve a friendship changing after parenthood

Feeling left behind when your friends start families

How to support a friend who's just had a baby

What parents actually need from their child-free friends

Navigating jealousy, loneliness and changing priorities

Why friendships naturally have "seasons"

Creating your own village—whether you have children or not

How honest communication can save lifelong friendships
Whether you're expecting your first baby, proudly child-free, undecided, or simply watching your friendship group evolve, this episode is for anyone trying to hold onto meaningful relationships through life's biggest transitions.
Because growing up doesn't have to mean growing apart.
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1 hr 5 min

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