Trigger Warning: This episode discusses suicide.

Venus delves into the rarely discussed emotional aftermath of cuckolding through an unflinchingly honest conversation with John, who shares his journey from fantasy to reality – and the mental health crisis that followed.

After 20+ years of marriage, John finally revealed his deepest desire to his wife, setting them on a path neither fully anticipated. While many discussions about cuckolding focus on the erotic thrill, John describes his first real experience with brutal candor: "Fear, nausea... genuinely, just what have I done? Why have I done this to myself? It was horrifying." The raw vulnerability as he recounts coming home and breaking down in tears provides crucial perspective for anyone considering this lifestyle.

What makes John's testimony particularly valuable is the paradoxical psychology he unveils. Despite experiencing severe depression that eventually led to suicidal thoughts, he never wanted to stop – and often desired to escalate their activities. "The most warped thing about all this is that at the absolute lowest points, I wanted to continue," he explains, illuminating how the emotional struggle itself becomes intertwined with the arousal. This emotional complexity extends to feelings of sexual irrelevance that many cuckolds face: "Once your wife gets a bull that's really good at fucking her, you realize that you're not sexually valid in the same way anymore."

Through communication with his wife and developing healthier boundaries, John eventually found balance. His story serves as both caution and guidance for curious couples, highlighting the crucial importance of mental health support when exploring intense kinks. "You don't know how you're going to feel until you do it," he warns, pushing back against the "cheerleading" common in online communities. 

Cuckolding-Friendly Counselors and Therapists:

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The Venus Cuckoldress podcast celebrates five years with a special compilation of the most profound, mind-shifting moments that have transformed understanding of cuckolding relationships.

• Key Barrett explains the concept of "unfiltering" in female-led relationships, breaking down how women are taught to filter their responses and how shedding this brings clarity to relationships
• Crystal Welch characterizes cuckolds as "higher life forms" who have evolved beyond toxic masculinity through personal growth work
• Dr. Justin Lehmiller's research reveals men with cuckolding fantasies have higher self-esteem and self-confidence than typically assumed
• Dr. David Ley explains how sexual shame creates self-defeating behaviors in men with cuckolding desires, including the common pattern of intense interest followed by ghosting
• Ella breaks down how patriarchal systems create a skills deficit in men's emotional intelligence, explaining why many struggle with the "varsity level" communication needed for ethical non-monogamy

Links

Key Barrett: https://bsky.app/profile/keybarrett.bsky.social - books https://a.co/d/4PNQSHp episode - https://www.buzzsprout.com/822292/episodes/14336219-flr-surrender-submit-and-serve-her-with-key-barrett-m-sc

Dr. Justin Lehmiller: https://www.sexandpsychology.com/ - books https://a.co/d/4gvABX0 episode https://www.buzzsprout.com/822292/episodes/14336195-what-do-your-cuckolding-fantasies-say-about-you-with-special-guest-dr-justin-lehmiller

Dr. David Ley: https://bsky.app/profile/davidleyphd.bsky.social books https://a.co/d/gjjwtdO episode - https://www.buzzsprout.com/822292/episodes/14336246-unraveling-the-cuck-shame-spiral-with-dr-david-ley

Crystal Welch: https://www.venuscuckoldress.com/cw episode https://www.buzzsprout.com/822292/episodes/14336214-a-bold-message-to-the-women-of-the-world-you-really-can-have-it-all-with-cuckolding

Ella episode: https://www.buzzsprout.com/822292/episodes/14336206-ella-is-back-with-a-revelation-cucks-we-see-you?t=0

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Confession Time!

What happens when a husband discovers he's powerfully turned on by his wife's infidelities? Can he steer her down the cuckolding road and have his deepest fantasies come true?

Or is the relationship doomed to fail from inadequate communication, broken trust, and unresolved infidelity?

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"Tell Me What You Want" by Dr. Justin Lehmiller - https://a.co/d/j9fwZvw

Join the Queen's Quarters Community - https://www.venuscuckoldress.com/offers/FTNWndiv/checkout

Cuckolding-Friendly Counselors and Therapists:

American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists

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This is the true story of crushing defeat when trying to compete with BBC and how turning that that trauma into an interracial cuckolding fetish has brought Mike down a road of self acceptance.

We discuss the complex dynamics of identity, confidence, and acceptance, exploring how societal pressures shape self-perception and we encourage listeners to redefine traditional norms and embrace their unique qualities.

Links

Contact Mike: [email protected] 

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When She Goes Black Episode - https://www.buzzsprout.com/822292/episodes/14336262-when-she-goes-black-interracial-cuckolding

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This episode features K.D. from Kink3D.com and explores the intricate world of chastity, debunking myths and highlighting the psychological and emotional components of this kink. Learn how chastity can significantly enhance intimacy and redefine sexual experiences for both partners.

• Examination of common myths surrounding chastity
• Discussion on the psychological aspects of wearing a chastity cage
• Importance of proper fitting for comfort and satisfaction
• Tips for maintaining hygiene while using chastity devices
• Strategies for communicating about desires with partners
• Insights into the rising popularity of chastity within relationships

Links:
https://kink3d.com/ and https://bsky.app/profile/kink3d.com
Chastity in Cosmo - https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a63265805/chastity-fetish/
Join the 2 Week Chasity Challenge - https://www.venuscuckoldress.com/offers/FTNWndiv/checkout
Join the Live Chats with Key Barrett MSc, and Venus - https://www.crowdcast.io/@venus-cuckoldress
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Ruby joins the show to share her story of embracing the cuckolding lifestyle from the onset of her relationship with her now husband, including a fresh lens on open communication and shared desires. Unlike many who weave these dynamics in later, her story reveals the power of honesty and compatibility from the start. 

Ruby's Twitter: https://x.com/LifeOfaHotwife

Read Venus's contribution to the Savage Love Column - https://mailchi.mp/savage.love/jan011325-column?e=a0d21cabdb

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Welcome to season 5 of the show and Happy New Year! 🥳
This episode is a release of the most popular bonus episode from 2024 - the dick comparison pics rating session with Venus & Crystal Welch. This episode was so much fun to do!

Links:

2 Week Chastity Challenge, sign up in the Queens Quarters Community (free) - https://www.venuscuckoldress.com/offers/FTNWndiv/checkout
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This is the ultimate list of great Christmas gifts for the cuckoldress/hotwife in your life, your cuck husband, or for the both of you! Have your notepad ready because there are some really fun and sexy gift ideas here.

Links

Vote for the podcast for an AVN award! - https://avn.com/awards/voting/favorite-adult-podcast

Join the QQ Community - https://www.venuscuckoldress.com/offers/FTNWndiv/checkout

Gifts:

Sex Toys - https://www.lovense.com/r/0gicg4

Synced Tech Sex Toys - https://www.lovense.com/r/w25xit

Maison De Neige clothing - https://www.maisondeneige.com/

Motor Bunny - https://motorbunny.com/products/motorbunny?srsltid=AfmBOoowuBL89INByA7Wz5iIMO4RuMW7qXIeAz1RDlb0zgG0i2bqPB5M

Lingerie - https://honeybirdette.com

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It's another confessions episode! This one is about those small dick cucks and sprinkles in some interracial elements as well.

You can submit your question, comment, or confession to the show ➡️ https://www.venuscuckoldress.com/ask

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This episode features Sara Perry, an expert somatic sex coach, who provides invaluable insights into navigating the emotional challenges of cuckolding, such as jealousy and shame. She tackles the misconceptions surrounding cuckolding and offers practical advice for singles and couples on setting and evolving boundaries while embracing one's sexuality without judgment. Learn how her practice integrates mind, body, and spirit to support individuals and couples in addressing big emotions and societal pressures. This episode is packed full of valuable information, resources and advice for couples so that they can thrive in a healthy cuckolding relationship.

Links:

Sara Perry https://www.saraperry.com/
Haven Space Coaching https://www.havenspacecoaching.com/
Haven Space YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/@havenspacecoaching
Somatic Sex Coach List https://www.somaticainstitute.com/sex-coach-near-me/
Haven Space Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/haven-space/id1507429724

Find Venus on Bluesky 🦋 https://bsky.app/profile/cuckoldressv.bsky.social
Listen to the Bonus episode: "Kneeling at the BBC Altar" on the private podcast https://www.venuscuckoldress.com/Queens-quarter or Apple podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-venus-cuckoldress-podcast/id1495573107

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