Venus welcomes guest Matty who shares the evolution of his polyamorous cuckolding relationship with his wife, from natural flirtation to a structured arrangement where emotional connection and safety are prioritized.

Key points:

• Matty and his wife discovered their dynamic organically over the course of their 15-year relationship
• His wife's natural flirtatiousness and his comfort with her interactions with other men formed the foundation
• Their journey from casual flirtation to polyamorous cuckolding took approximately 10 years
• Communication and transparency have been essential to navigating potential jealousy
• Safety is prioritized through developing relationships with trusted people rather than strangers
• The relationship provides fulfillment for both partners in different ways
• Matty advises couples to take things slowly and start with "softer" entry points
• Building a strong foundation of friendship and partnership is crucial before adding polyamory
• Resources like polyamory podcasts and kink-aware therapists can help couples navigate challenges
• Finding support from others in similar relationships helps manage emotional complexity

Links:

The Multiamory Podcast - https://www.multiamory.com/podcast#gsc.tab=0

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Emma joins the show to share the story of her cuckolding marriage. 

"We are a married couple in our late thirties, and we have an active cuckolding relationship with sissy dynamic. We have also had a pussy free marriage ever since we got married a few years ago. Ever since we met five years ago, we started talking about cuckolding. The concept was very familiar to him, and I realized immediately after looking into it that this may have been what I've hoped for my entire life. It only took a few months after I had my first hot date with my first lover (who just happened to be black). It has since evolved into an inseparable and loving part of our relationship. Scary and unknown at first, but with open communication we very quickly realized that this was perfect for us. I always play alone, and have through experience found my love for black men. I think a key lesson has been that even a very regular couple (on the surface) can be like this and do some quite wild and unconventional things while being very balanced, truly happy, and  in a sustainable cuckolding relationship without it feeling like something from a porn fantasy." 

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Consent isn't optional—it's the foundation of all ethical sexual activity. Yet within corners of the cuckolding community lurks a disturbing trend that Venus and Doc Chocolate expose in this crucial conversation: husbands actively seeking ways to trick, manipulate, or coerce their unwilling wives into cuckolding scenarios.

Doc reveals being approached 10-15 times annually by men requesting his participation in elaborate schemes to seduce their unsuspecting wives—from fake "chance" meetings at bars to scenarios where husbands arrange situations to pressure their partners. These aren't isolated incidents but part of a troubling pattern that points to a serious ethical crisis.

The conversation takes an even darker turn when Venus highlights the disturbing online advice promoting tactics like getting women intoxicated, creating arguments to abandon them in vulnerable situations, or sharing their nude photos without consent. These actions aren't just morally reprehensible—they constitute sexual coercion, which is legally classified as sexual assault in both the United States and Canada.

Most shocking is the connection between these "lighter" forms of manipulation and horrific cases like Giselle Pelicot's, whose husband drugged her for nine years, allowing dozens of men to rape her while unconscious. Investigators later uncovered online groups with tens of thousands of members dedicated to teaching men how to drug and assault their partners—a chilling reminder of where boundary violations can lead.

Venus and Doc issue an urgent call to action for everyone in the lifestyle—bulls, cucks, hotwives, and community moderators—to actively denounce these behaviors, report concerning content, and help build a culture that prioritizes safety and genuine consent. Having a fantasy never justifies violating someone's boundaries, and if a partner declines to participate, the only appropriate response is respect.

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Becca and Drew share their 29-year journey from teenage sweethearts to a cuckolding couple, revealing how they've maintained a passionate relationship by embracing sexual exploration and open communication.

• Met as teenagers and knew early on they were into "more than just vanilla sex"
• Discovered their interest in cuckolding after a teenage incident where Drew was aroused by seeing hickeys another man had left on Becca
• Experienced their first spontaneous cuckolding encounter in a Jeep parking lot with friends watching outside
• Met their most memorable bull online who understood the psychology of everyone's roles and set a high standard
• Learning to overcome shame and judgment from others while strengthening their relationship
• Being in the lifestyle has made them both better lovers to each other
• Communication and aftercare are essential to their success
• Advice for women: do self-work to destroy societal conditioning about female sexuality

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Trigger Warning: This episode discusses suicide.

Venus delves into the rarely discussed emotional aftermath of cuckolding through an unflinchingly honest conversation with John, who shares his journey from fantasy to reality – and the mental health crisis that followed.

After 20+ years of marriage, John finally revealed his deepest desire to his wife, setting them on a path neither fully anticipated. While many discussions about cuckolding focus on the erotic thrill, John describes his first real experience with brutal candor: "Fear, nausea... genuinely, just what have I done? Why have I done this to myself? It was horrifying." The raw vulnerability as he recounts coming home and breaking down in tears provides crucial perspective for anyone considering this lifestyle.

What makes John's testimony particularly valuable is the paradoxical psychology he unveils. Despite experiencing severe depression that eventually led to suicidal thoughts, he never wanted to stop – and often desired to escalate their activities. "The most warped thing about all this is that at the absolute lowest points, I wanted to continue," he explains, illuminating how the emotional struggle itself becomes intertwined with the arousal. This emotional complexity extends to feelings of sexual irrelevance that many cuckolds face: "Once your wife gets a bull that's really good at fucking her, you realize that you're not sexually valid in the same way anymore."

Through communication with his wife and developing healthier boundaries, John eventually found balance. His story serves as both caution and guidance for curious couples, highlighting the crucial importance of mental health support when exploring intense kinks. "You don't know how you're going to feel until you do it," he warns, pushing back against the "cheerleading" common in online communities. 

Cuckolding-Friendly Counselors and Therapists:

American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists

National Coalition for Sexual Freedoms - Kink Aware Professionals Directory

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The Venus Cuckoldress podcast celebrates five years with a special compilation of the most profound, mind-shifting moments that have transformed understanding of cuckolding relationships.

• Key Barrett explains the concept of "unfiltering" in female-led relationships, breaking down how women are taught to filter their responses and how shedding this brings clarity to relationships
• Crystal Welch characterizes cuckolds as "higher life forms" who have evolved beyond toxic masculinity through personal growth work
• Dr. Justin Lehmiller's research reveals men with cuckolding fantasies have higher self-esteem and self-confidence than typically assumed
• Dr. David Ley explains how sexual shame creates self-defeating behaviors in men with cuckolding desires, including the common pattern of intense interest followed by ghosting
• Ella breaks down how patriarchal systems create a skills deficit in men's emotional intelligence, explaining why many struggle with the "varsity level" communication needed for ethical non-monogamy

Links

Key Barrett: https://bsky.app/profile/keybarrett.bsky.social - books https://a.co/d/4PNQSHp episode - https://www.buzzsprout.com/822292/episodes/14336219-flr-surrender-submit-and-serve-her-with-key-barrett-m-sc

Dr. Justin Lehmiller: https://www.sexandpsychology.com/ - books https://a.co/d/4gvABX0 episode https://www.buzzsprout.com/822292/episodes/14336195-what-do-your-cuckolding-fantasies-say-about-you-with-special-guest-dr-justin-lehmiller

Dr. David Ley: https://bsky.app/profile/davidleyphd.bsky.social books https://a.co/d/gjjwtdO episode - https://www.buzzsprout.com/822292/episodes/14336246-unraveling-the-cuck-shame-spiral-with-dr-david-ley

Crystal Welch: https://www.venuscuckoldress.com/cw episode https://www.buzzsprout.com/822292/episodes/14336214-a-bold-message-to-the-women-of-the-world-you-really-can-have-i

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Confession Time!

What happens when a husband discovers he's powerfully turned on by his wife's infidelities? Can he steer her down the cuckolding road and have his deepest fantasies come true?

Or is the relationship doomed to fail from inadequate communication, broken trust, and unresolved infidelity?

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"Tell Me What You Want" by Dr. Justin Lehmiller - https://a.co/d/j9fwZvw

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Cuckolding-Friendly Counselors and Therapists:

American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists

National Coalition for Sexual Freedoms - Kink Aware Professionals Directory

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This is the true story of crushing defeat when trying to compete with BBC and how turning that that trauma into an interracial cuckolding fetish has brought Mike down a road of self acceptance.

We discuss the complex dynamics of identity, confidence, and acceptance, exploring how societal pressures shape self-perception and we encourage listeners to redefine traditional norms and embrace their unique qualities.

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When She Goes Black Episode - https://www.buzzsprout.com/822292/episodes/14336262-when-she-goes-black-interracial-cuckolding

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This episode features K.D. from Kink3D.com and explores the intricate world of chastity, debunking myths and highlighting the psychological and emotional components of this kink. Learn how chastity can significantly enhance intimacy and redefine sexual experiences for both partners.

• Examination of common myths surrounding chastity
• Discussion on the psychological aspects of wearing a chastity cage
• Importance of proper fitting for comfort and satisfaction
• Tips for maintaining hygiene while using chastity devices
• Strategies for communicating about desires with partners
• Insights into the rising popularity of chastity within relationships

Links:
https://kink3d.com/ and https://bsky.app/profile/kink3d.com
Chastity in Cosmo - https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a63265805/chastity-fetish/
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Ruby joins the show to share her story of embracing the cuckolding lifestyle from the onset of her relationship with her now husband, including a fresh lens on open communication and shared desires. Unlike many who weave these dynamics in later, her story reveals the power of honesty and compatibility from the start. 

Ruby's Twitter: https://x.com/LifeOfaHotwife

Read Venus's contribution to the Savage Love Column - https://mailchi.mp/savage.love/jan011325-column?e=a0d21cabdb

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