Why do we keep choosing the wrong partners — even when we know better? In this episode of That’s Orgasmic, Emily sits down with psychotherapist and professor Dr. Gillian O’Shea Brown to unpack the unconscious patterns that draw us toward emotionally unavailable relationships, familiar chaos, and unresolved wounds.

Together, they explore the idea of an “erotic emotional map,” how childhood attachment patterns can shape adult love lives, and why butterflies, adrenaline, and uncertainty can sometimes be misread as attraction. Gillian shares practical tools for noticing what a relationship brings out in you, including a simple body-based exercise and a post-date reflection practice that helps you track whether someone expands your sense of self or slowly erodes it.

If you’ve ever found yourself repeating the same relationship pattern, struggling to walk away, or wondering why calm love feels unfamiliar, this conversation offers compassionate insight and grounded guidance for choosing healthier, safer, and more reciprocal connection.

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Think being good at sex comes from having lots of experience? Think again.

In this episode, I'm breaking down one of the biggest myths about sex: that the more sex you have had, the better you'll be in bed.

The truth is, great sex has everything to do with communication, curiosity, connection, and a willingness to learn.

We'll explore:
• Why sexual experience doesn't automatically make someone a better lover
• The qualities that actually make someone a great sexual partner
• How communication can transform your sex life
• Why slowing down often leads to more pleasure
• The importance of connection and aftercare
• Why porn isn't sex education
• Evidence-based resources to help you learn about pleasure, even if you've never had sex before

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This episode explores the listener question, "I bought a toy and I'm honestly a little embarrassed about how much I like it more than partnered sex. Does that mean something's wrong?"

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In this episode, Emily discusses a recent scary experience of a man asking for her number in public. Emily also discusses the different ways men have approached her in public, from the ok to the bad.

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There is no new episode this week, instead, enjoy this revisit to episode 134 How to eat pussy. 

In this episode, I am joined by Jordana Ezra, a somatic sexologist specialising in LGBTIA+ sex. She is a bisexual lesbian, host of MOIST a sell-out queer speed dating event and founder of the pussy frequency a method devoted to women and non-binary coming out later in life. 

Emily and Jordana discuss:

• Performance anxiety to eat pussy
• How to eat pussy
• How to practice pussy worshipping
• How to get to know your pussy
• Getting out of your head and into your body

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Emily a sex and relationship therapist, discusses the most common behaviours that contribute to a bad sex life...they're more common than you'd think.

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Apologies for the error in uploading the same episode for both part one and two of 'how to spice up masturbation: A Sex Therapist's top tips.

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This episode is part one of two episodes - How to spice up masturbation: A Sex Therapist's top tips

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This is part two of a two-part episode - How to spice up masturbation: A Sex Therapist's top tips

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Low desire? Disconnected from your body? Struggle to experience pleasure? This practical episode explores daily practices to connect to your sexuality. 

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