Timestamps:

00:00 Housekeeping stuff (skippable)

01:30 Too Long, Didn't Watch Overview

12:29 Introduction

21:20 Narcissism in Context (TL;DW)

25:34 Big Five, NEO-PI-R, Two-Factor, FFNI, Trifurcated Model, Narcissism Hierarchy, NPD

48:00 Implicit Narcissism, Explicit Narcissism, and Antagonism (creative categorization)

01:05:32 Narcissism and False Confidence

01:08:57 Narcissism Correlation with Self-Esteem and Cynicism

01:10:58 Narcissism and Childhood Development

01:22:46 Origins of the word "Narcissism"

01:26:31 Extra: Selfishness and Narcissism

Research Papers (PDFs): https://www.substratum611.com/research-papers

Narcissism Breakdown paper: https://substratum611.substack.com/p/narcissism-breakdown-why-do-people-609?r=78bfe0

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Why do we chase people who seem uninterested while ignoring those who show us affection? This episode explores the human desire for attention and validation through the writings of John Adams (1750s-1805).Topics covered:- The fundamental human need for recognition and distinction- How scarcity creates desire in relationships- Social exchange theory and ownership bias- Why we value what we can't haveFeaturing extensive readings from John Adams' diary and political writings on ambition, envy, vanity, and the pursuit of admiration.________________Website: https://www.substratum611.comShop Substratum 611: https://shop.substratum611.comSocial Media Links: https://www.substratum611.com/social-media-linksThis video is for entertainment purposes only.The focus is gaining clarity over agreement on different perspectives of various topics, with an emphasis on Continuous Improvement over Delayed Perfection.The views and opinions expressed in this video are those of the individual speakers and do not necessarily represent the perspectives of Substratum 611, any affiliated third parties, or the personal/professional affiliations of the speakers.

This one's about how being kind and being nice aren't the same thing. Nice is the person who sees you with a flat tire, says "aw that sucks," and keeps driving. Kind is the person who pulls over and helps you fix it, even if they're grumpy about it. There's some old letters from John Adams and Benjamin Franklin about sincerity and truth-telling. Default to kindness first, because doing the thing matters more than sounding pleasant while doing nothing.

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This one's pretty free-form. Sun Tzu, Roosevelt, Tesla, Dostoevsky, Tolstoy, and the Bible. The thread connecting them: you have to fail to learn anything, and that's okay. Love (for yourself, for life) is what you build through all that failure.________________Website: https://www.substratum611.comShop Substratum 611: https://shop.substratum611.comSocial Media Links: https://www.substratum611.com/social-media-linksThis video is for entertainment purposes only.The focus is gaining clarity over agreement on different perspectives of various topics, with an emphasis on Continuous Improvement over Delayed Perfection.The views and opinions expressed in this video are those of the individual speakers and do not necessarily represent the perspectives of Substratum 611, any affiliated third parties, or the personal/professional affiliations of the speakers

This one's about how the way you say something can matter more than what you actually say. A couple references to studies on tone of voice, then gets into how guys tend to offer logical fixes for emotional problems while women often do the opposite — and why that creates friction. When someone's being vulnerable with you, don't rush to fix it. Just hold it carefully, like they handed you something fragile.Emotivity in the Voice: Prosodic, Lexical, and Cultural Appraisal of Complaining Speech: https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2020.619222Listen to your mother: Motivating tones of voice predict adolescents’ reactions to mothers: https://psycnet.apa.org/doi/10.1037/dev0000827________________

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Love you guys. Always have, always will.

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Limerence, Self-Determination Theory, motivation, discipline, hedonic adaptation/treadmill, and making the mundane special.

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References:

- Isaiah Smallwood: https://www.instagram.com/isaiahsmallwoodd?igsh=czg4Z2dhcDV6aHFl

- Defining the Brain Systems of Lust, Romantic Attraction, and Attachment: https://doi.org/10.1023/a:1019888024255

- Self-Determination Theory and the Facilitation of Intrinsic Motivation, Social Development, and Well-Being: https://selfdeterminationtheory.org/SDT/documents/2000_RyanDeci_SDT.pdf

- Beyond the Hedonic Treadmill Revising the Adaptation Theory of Well-Being: https://doi.org/10.1037/0003-066x.61.4.305

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Emotional reciprocity, showing people you trust them, awareness of other people's implicit & indirect communication, and the duality of free agency and wanting to help others.

Sources:

The impact of disappointment in decision making: inter‑individual differences and electrical neuroimaging: https://doi.org/10.3389/fnhum.2010.00235

Steven Nowlin: https://youtu.be/RYq-t2kXeP4

David Porter 2: https://youtu.be/JA6b5X0Irwc

Mersedeh Cartwright: https://youtu.be/bXSUPi7tZSk

Jay Johnson 1: https://youtu.be/3jqLhDlgeL4Home Alone 2: Lost in New York (1992) is owned by its respective owners. I do not claim to own the clip. Used for educational purposes only.

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