What if the traits we celebrate as “strong” are quietly burning us out? This episode digs into the subtle mechanics of internalised misogyny—the invisible scripts that tell women to do it all, to be easy to please, to hide emotion, and to downplay anything coded as feminine. We unpack how those scripts shape friendships, work, money, and boundaries, and why the praise for being “low maintenance” often masks a refusal to value women’s time and labour.

I share candid stories from recent years—being judged for sexual expression, having femininity dismissed as unserious, and learning to spot projections early. We look at the trust gap between women, how competition and comparison take hold, and what to do when evidence seems to confirm “you can’t trust women.” Rather than withdraw into isolation, we explore discernment: noticing the patterns in ourselves and others, naming unfair dynamics, and choosing relationships with real reciprocity. That means raising standards without shaming, offering grace without abandoning ourselves, and refusing the invisible job of emotional manager.

You’ll hear concrete cues to watch for—haggling with women but not men, calling boundaries “too much,” labelling emotion as weakness—and practical ways to respond. We talk about valuing feminine aesthetics without apology, charging fairly for women’s work, and supporting those who speak up even when truth is uncomfortable. Healing sisterhood wounds is possible when we invest in safe, secure connections, set clear limits, and honour the full spectrum of womanhood—softness and fire included.

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