A bunch of years ago, Rabbi Josh Zebberman was one of my first chevrusas in yeshiva, and one of the first maamarim we learned together was a Basi Legani.

Now, he's a marriage counselor who utilizes Solution-Focused Brief Therapy to help couples restore positivity and happiness to their relationship. And of course you know a bit about me and my coaching.

In honor of Yud Shevat, we sat down for a conversation about the Rebbe's first maamar, Basi Legani 5711, and what insights about marriage we can glean from it.

Enjoy the episode, and listen in for our difference of opinion about "solving the problems" in our marriages!

To learn more about Rabbi Josh and his services, you can visit his website: RabbiJoshZebberman.com.

And for more from me, you can visit AryehGurewitz.com.

In this episode of Success for Jewish Men, I share a concise yet life-changing teaching from the Rebbe—one that’s so simple that we could totally miss it (even if we've learned the sicha), yet potent enough that it can guide you to a new vision of literally every area of your life.

Based on the Rebbe's words, we now have an authentically Torah-based visualization technique that can help us break free from our habitual patterns and step into the lives we're meant to live. And this is without having to do hisbonenus on Seder Hishtalshelus (even though that's a good thing to do, too).

This technique isn’t just theoretical—it’s an actionable framework for personal growth, relationship success, financial breakthroughs, and more elevated avodas Hashem. And the best part? It may just be the Rebbe's key to bringing Moshiach.

By the way, listen until to the end of the episode for a special offer for those who would like my help getting started with this technique.

In this farbrengen, we had a deep discussion of two of my favorite sichos from the Rebbe:

One of them calls upon us to experience gashmiyus as an extension of our ruchniyus, as the Mitteler Rebbe did, and by using the Mitteler Rebbe's maamarim as a tool to elevate ourselves to this state.

The other, said by the Rebbe a few months later, calls upon us to try to be ashirim, starting with spiritual wealth and then flowing into literal, financial success - which we intend to use to facilitate even greater spiritual success.

Do you see the connection?

Understanding and applying these ideas can change both your spiritual life and your financial life!

Recorded on Yud Kislev 5785. Thank you to Rabbi Sharon Weiss and Living Chassidus for arranging the farbrengen!

What does Hashem have in mind for you to do for your parnassah?

Did He think about that when He designed you, or is it too mundane for Him to take interest in?

Maybe just have Bitachon and it won't matter so much?

It may seem ironic at first glance, but the clearest answer I've found to date about how to choose your job from a Torah perspective is actually in the Shaar HaBitachon.

It's time to start choosing our jobs and businesses the Shaar HaBitachon way.

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For more from me, check out my website:

AryehGurewitz.com

Do you have kids in yeshiva or another kind of Jewish elementary school?

This episode will help you make sure they're succeeding and having a great experience!

I was interviewed by educator and parenting coach Boruch Menashe Adlin on his podcast: "Parenting - Not What You Expected."

We discussed empowering mindsets, simple but essential practical tips, and how to start setting up your kids for success from as early as age three.

The Rebbe taught us that every improvement (or, chas v'shalom, the opposite) in a child's chinuch may have a major effect for a long time to come. That means that it's not a stretch for many children's lives to be made better by this podcast!

Take a listen and see if there's room to help your kids benefit.

You want it.

You really want it.

But are you fully committed to it?

Yom Kippur always makes me think of this distinction.

Get clear on the difference between the two - and how crucial it is in every area of your life - in this episode.

Kabbalas Ol Malchus Shamayim is a cornerstone of the Rebbe's teachings.

Get it right, and we'll be on track for a lot of spiritual success, which will flow into success in every area.

Get it wrong, and ... well, unfortunately there are quite a few very religious Jews - and formerly religious Jews - who have suffered from that.

In this episode, I suggest an approach to Kabbalas Ol that will make it much more pleasant, and one that we can actually implement simply and successfully.

What makes it different? The fact that it is aligned with another core teaching of the Rebbe - that every Jew already, intrinsically wants to fulfill all the mitzvos.

In this shiur that I gave a while back, we learn inside a short piece of a deeply transformative sicha (Parshas Vaeschanan/Shabbos Nachamu 5751).

In it, the Rebbe lays out a new, super-powerful path in Avodas Hashem that has the power to bring us to remarkable shleimus in Torah, Avodah, and Gemilus Chasadim - or, in other words, in every aspect of our lives.

What is this technique?

To "gaze at" the Third Beis HaMikdash and the final Geulah. In other words, not to simply think about them casually, but to visualize them and deeply connect mentally and emotionally to that vision.

Not a technique you'll find in the self-help books!

Listen to the shiur for all the details about this amazing teaching of the Rebbe and my take on how to apply it!

Emotions are not formed by situations.

They're formed by how we interpret situations.

If we want to be happy people, we will want to learn the skill of interpreting even our most painful situations in a positive way.

We see this way of thinking in the Rebbe's teachings about the Three Weeks - from the 17th of Tammuz being called "Tov Tammuz" to the idea that the Third Beis HaMikdash is the culmination of a process, not merely a replacement for what was lost.

Being a victim of circumstance is NEVER an effective way to live. The opposite - taking ownership - is ALWAYS an infinitely better way.

This simple distinction can be an absolute game-changer in many areas of our lives.

In honor of the Frierdieker Rebbe's Chassidim and their absolute refusal to be "victims" of the communist regime, let's take a look at how this distinction can be applied to the challenges we face in chinuch today.