What if your fear of rejection isn’t a flaw—but a survival strategy passed down through generations?

This week’s guest is Vera Milan Gervais, a speaker, author, and success mentor who has spent her life pushing against the systems that tried to define her. From being disowned by her father at 19 to rewriting the story of a childhood medical trauma, Vera has learned how to reclaim power in the face of rejection.

In this episode, she shares the scientific and ancestral roots of rejection sensitivity, the ways women are taught to reject first before being rejected, and what it means to finally become yourself—even if you were told you were defective from the start.

If you’ve ever been called “too much,” if you’ve ever muted yourself to stay safe, if you’ve ever rejected a dream before it had the chance to reject you—this conversation will meet you there.

In This Episode, We Cover:

• Why women are wired to fear rejection—and how it ties to historical survival

• The “identity ceiling” that keeps us from becoming who we truly are

• What happened when Vera’s father called her the black sheep

• The medical trauma that became her first memory

• How we self-abandon in order to stay lovable

  Why rewriting your story might mean confronting everything you were taught