The Church is at its core a sacrificial and transformational community. The reason many people do not experience this is because of how related these two realities are. It is in sacrificing within the community that we are transformed within the community. We will not reap the transformational reality of the Church from the outskirts. It is only as we become sacrificing members that we are brought into the transformation of the Church. Likewise, the Church is not wholly transformed until its members engage in sacrificial worship. These realities go hand in hand. We all need to be further emerged in the Gospel and into the reality of the Kingdom of God and we all need each other in order to be further emerged.
What social group is conforming you to its image? Are there aspects of you that are off limits to being given over to God? Are you willing to open yourself, your experience, reality, and talents to the Church as an aspect of your worship? Are you engaged with the Church enough to be transformed by it?