SuperPumped Life

In this continuation of their heartfelt conversation, Ben Walters sits down once again with Jay DeFazio, author of You Only Live Twice: A Memoir in Two Genders.

A moving follow-up to Part 1, this conversation invites listeners to reflect on what it truly means to live authentically, no matter how many lives you have led.

Get the book:

⁠https://bookshop.org/p/books/you-only-live-twice-a-memoir-in-two-genders-jay-defazio/cd97b43a7a1884c5⁠

⁠https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0FXZZ1156/⁠⁠

More from Jay and his memoir:

⁠https://youonlylivetwice-memoir.com⁠⁠

https://www.insideout-transart.org⁠   

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https://superpumped.com⁠

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⁠https://creators.spotify.com/pod/profile/superpumped/

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https://www.linkedin.com/in/ben-walters-165168365/⁠⁠

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Chapters:

00:00 – Picking up Jay’s story: the next chapter of living twice

02:00 – The emotional reality of transition

04:10 – Family, faith, and finding your place

07:05 – What courage looks like in everyday life

10:20 – Healing, humor, and humanity

13:15 – Identity, belonging, and being seen

16:00 – Lessons from You Only Live Twice

18:45 – Living authentically, again and again

21:10 – Closing reflections: carrying your story forward

Disclaimer:

The information in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and should not be considered medical, mental health, financial, legal, or professional advice. Guest opinions are their own. Always consult with a qualified professional before making medical, health, business, investment, legal, or personal decisions.

What does it mean to live as your truest self?

In this episode, Ben Walters speaks with author Jay DeFazio, whose new memoir You Only Live Twice: A Memoir in Two Genders chronicles his remarkable journey as a transgender man. Together they explore identity, resilience, and the freedom that comes from aligning who you are on the inside with how you show up in the world.

Jay shares what it took to face fear, navigate change, and embrace both the challenges and joys of transition—reminding us that authenticity is a lifelong practice, not a destination.

Websites:

You Only Live Twice: A Memoir in Two Genders:

Get the book:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/you-only-live-twice-a-memoir-in-two-genders-jay-defazio/cd97b43a7a1884c5

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0FXZZ1156/⁠

More from Jay and his memoir:

https://youonlylivetwice-memoir.com
https://www.insideout-transart.org   

Book a complimentary 30-minute exploratory call:
https://calendly.com/ben-superpumped/30min

Website:
https://superpumped.com

Business launch readiness assessment:
https://launchreadyassessment.scoreapp.com

Socials and such:
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https://www.tiktok.com/@superpumped8
https://www.linkedin.com/in/ben-walters-165168365/
https://www.facebook.com/ben.walters.77770

Chapters:

00:00 – Living life authentically, twice over
02:10 – Welcome to SuperPumped Life
03:05 – Jay DeFazio’s story: becoming who he was meant to be
05:20 – Writing You Only Live Twice
08:40 – Transition, truth, and the courage to change
12:15 – What authenticity really looks like in practice
15:00 – Overcoming fear and finding belonging
18:00 – Living beyond labels
21:15 – The message behind You Only Live Twice
24:00 – Closing reflections: what it means to live your second life

Disclaimer:

The information in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and should not be considered medical, mental health, financial, legal, or professional advice. Guest opinions are their own. Always consult with a qualified professional before making medical, health, business, investment, legal, or personal decisions.

Even when life looks great on the outside, old scars can make us want to run.

In this heartfelt episode, Ben Walters reflects on lessons from his dog, Denver, Colorado. Denver is a rescue with a painful past and a relentless drive for “more.” Through Denver’s story, Ben explores three powerful truths: the courage to seek better, how trauma travels with us, and how our search for something greater can unintentionally take us away from what we truly need.

Sometimes the hardest part of growth is realizing that healing starts where you already are.

Websites:

Book a complimentary 30-minute exploratory call:
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Website: https://superpumped.com

Business launch readiness assessment:
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Socials and such:
https://creators.spotify.com/pod/profile/superpumped/
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https://www.tiktok.com/@superpumped8
https://www.linkedin.com/in/ben-walters-165168365/
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Chapters:

00:00 – The story of Denver: when running feels safer than staying
02:30 – Why we chase “better” even when life’s already good
05:00 – How trauma travels with us
08:00 – Recognizing when your past is driving your choices
11:20 – Healing through gratitude and groundedness
13:45 – The lessons of unconditional love
16:10 – What Denver’s story teaches about human resilience
18:30 – Ben’s closing reflections on growth and grace

Disclaimer:
The information in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and should not be considered medical, mental health, financial, legal, or professional advice. Guest opinions are their own. Always consult with a qualified professional before making medical, health, business, investment, legal, or personal decisions.

Sometimes, life passes you by. literally.

In this episode, Ben Walters shares how being passed by a juggler in a marathon turned into one of his best life lessons. From learning to laugh at yourself to realizing that failure isn’t fatal, Ben wraps up his Fall Fail series with wisdom on perseverance, grace, and humor.

Websites:

Book a complimentary 30-minute exploratory call:
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Website: https://superpumped.com

Business launch readiness assessment:
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Socials and such:
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https://www.linkedin.com/in/ben-walters-165168365/
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Chapters:
00:00 – The Final Fall Fail
01:00 – The Flying Pig and the Dream of Boston
03:00 – Preferred Start, Preferred Disaster
05:00 – The Juggler Moment
07:00 – Lesson One: It’s Not Where You Start, It’s Where You Finish
08:50 – Lesson Two: Life Happens
10:00 – Lesson Three: Learn to Laugh at Yourself
11:00 – Wrapping Up the Fall Fail Series

Disclaimer:
The information in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and should not be considered medical, mental health, financial, legal, or professional advice. Guest opinions are their own. Always consult with a qualified professional before making medical, health, business, investment, legal, or personal decisions.

What happens when you’re told you’re going to fail at one of the world’s most prestigious universities?

Ben Walters shares the raw, behind-the-scenes story of how he turned academic defeat into a powerful lesson in resilience and growth.

Websites:

Website: https://superpumped.com
Business launch readiness assessment: https://launchreadyassessment.scoreapp.com
Book a complimentary 30-minute exploratory call: https://calendly.com/ben-superpumped/30min

Socials and such:
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https://www.tiktok.com/@superpumped8
https://www.linkedin.com/in/ben-walters-165168365/
https://www.facebook.com/ben.walters.77770

Chapters:

00:00 - Facing Failure: The Professor’s Warning
00:35 - Welcome to the SuperPumped Life Podcast
01:08 - Who This Series Is For
02:11 - The Harvard Graduate School Experience
04:09 - The Design School Challenge
05:58 - The “Come to Jesus” Meeting
06:46 - Adopting the Lunch Pail Mentality
08:28 - The Power of Office Hours and Asking for Help
09:56 - Peer Support and Community
10:55 - Leaving It All on the Field
12:53 - The Turnaround: From Failure to Graduation
13:41 - SuperPumped Moment & Closing

Disclaimer:
The information in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and should not be considered medical, mental health, financial, legal, or professional advice. Guest opinions are their own. Always consult with a qualified professional before making medical, health, business, investment, legal, or personal decisions.

Failure isn’t the end. It’s often where success begins.

In part two of the “Fall Fails” series, Ben Walters takes us to South Africa, where an 80K bike race on the wrong bike led to lessons about preparation, community, and the power of laughing at yourself.

Discover why trying new things, even when you fail, builds resilience and joy.

Book a complimentary 30-minute exploratory call:⁠https://calendly.com/ben-superpumped/30min⁠

Website:⁠https://superpumped.com⁠

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https://www.linkedin.com/in/ben-walters-165168365/

⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/ben.walters.77770⁠

Chapters
00:00 – Fall Fails Part 2: South Africa
01:00 – Life-changing work post-apartheid
02:20 – The friend who said “yes” to everything
03:30 – Why I joined an 80K bike race
04:45 – From leaderboard highs to total exhaustion
06:30 – Wobbling to the finish line
07:20 – Lesson 1: Try new things, even if you fail
08:20 – Lesson 2: Preparation and tools matter
10:10 – Lesson 3: Laugh at yourself and find community
12:40 – Closing encouragement

Disclaimer: The information in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and should not be considered medical, mental health, financial, legal, or professional advice. Guest opinions are their own. Always consult with a qualified professional before making medical, health, business, investment, legal, or personal decisions.

Failure isn’t the end—it’s often the beginning. Ben Walters shares how finishing last in a high school race taught him life-long lessons about resilience, growth, and the surprising ways failure fuels future success.

If you’ve ever struggled with setbacks or felt humbled by a bigger challenge, this story will remind you why failure isn’t something to hide—it’s the foundation of your next breakthrough.

Book a complimentary 30-minute exploratory call:
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Business launch readiness assessment:
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Chapters

00:00 – Facing the uncomfortable truth about failure

01:00 – Junior high struggles: from sports cuts to band rejections

03:40 – Finding a new path in cross country

07:00 – The humbling 300th place finish

10:30 – Lessons learned: past success doesn’t guarantee the future

12:20 – Big fish, bigger pond: learning from tougher competition

14:40 – Why failure propels us closer to success

16:40 – The Letterman jacket moment: pride born from persistence

17:50 – Encouragement: go fail forward this season

Disclaimer: The information in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and should not be considered medical, mental health, financial, legal, or professional advice. Guest opinions are their own. Always consult with a qualified professional before making medical, health, business, investment, legal, or personal decisions.

Conflict means you still care. Indifference means it’s over.

Do you ever fight with your boss, your partner, or your kids—and regret it later? Here’s the surprising truth: conflict means you’re still engaged. And engagement is the first step to positive passion.

Ben unpacks the three types of people—positive passion, negative passion, and passionless—and explains why indifference is the real enemy. From workplace hotheads to struggling couples, learn why “mixing it up” is better than checking out, and how to re-engage with what matters most.

Websites:
SuperPumped: https://superpumped.com

Business launch readiness assessment:
https://launchreadyassessment.scoreapp.com

Book a complimentary 30-minute exploratory call:
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https://www.linkedin.com/in/ben-walters-165168365/
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Chapters:
00:00 – Why fighting isn’t always bad
00:38 – Welcome to SuperPumped Life
01:10 – The three types of people: positive, negative, and passionless
03:29 – Sleepwalking through life: the passionless trap
04:55 – Why negative engagement is better than indifference
06:42 – Jane the hothead: passion at work
07:09 – Couples, conflict, and the danger of giving up
08:43 – Why engagement is at the heart of passion
10:26 – Re-engaging with your partner, your work, and yourself
12:42 – How to tilt your work back toward passion
13:35 – From passionless to SuperPumped passion

Disclaimer: The information in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and should not be considered medical, mental health, financial, legal, or professional advice. Guest opinions are their own. Always consult with a qualified professional before making medical, health, business, investment, legal, or personal decisions.

Taylor Swift may have the most passionate fanbase in the world—and they’ve got something to teach all of us.

In this episode of SuperPumped Life, Ben Walters explores how passion drives positivity and how redirecting negative energy into meaningful pursuits can transform your outlook, your relationships, and your future. Whether it’s through music, causes, or community, the formula is clear: positivity + people + purpose = passion.

Websites:

SuperPumped: https://superpumped.com

Business launch readiness assessment:
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Book a complimentary 30-minute exploratory call:
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https://www.linkedin.com/in/ben-walters-165168365/
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Chapters:
00:00 – Why Taylor Swift embodies passion
00:45 – Welcome to SuperPumped Life
02:00 – Raising daughters: Swifty vs. Taylor-hater
03:20 – The rise of the Eras Tour
05:00 – Billion-dollar tours and owning her music
07:00 – Experiencing the Swiftie energy firsthand
09:40 – London Wembley show: Taylor’s A-game
11:00 – The three types of people: passionate, negative, or indifferent
12:00 – Engage, Excite, Ignite: how to spark passion
13:20 – Why positivity needs people and purpose
15:00 – Passionate negativity and its dangers
16:30 – From Saul to Paul: redirecting passion for good
18:30 – Taylor’s “You Need to Calm Down” lesson
20:00 – Shifting negative passion into positive outlets
21:00 – Becoming SuperPumped about your life

Disclaimer: The information in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and should not be considered medical, mental health, financial, legal, or professional advice. Guest opinions are their own. Always consult with a qualified professional before making medical, health, business, investment, legal, or personal decisions.

Beakthroughs don’t happen in your comfort zone. They happen when you stretch yourself.

Ben Walters and Greg Laszakovits unveil the Epic Executive Experience in Croatia. Part adventure, part leadership accelerator—it’s designed to push you out of the daily grind and into growth, clarity, and transformation.

From a 50-mile Grand Canyon trek to breakthroughs over espresso on the Adriatic, Ben and Greg share how discomfort + community = lasting change.

Websites:

SuperPumped Epic Executive Experience: https://www.superpumped.com/epic-executive-experiences

Greg's Website: https://www.gdlinsight.com/

Ben's Website: https://superpumped.com

Business launch readiness assessment:
https://launchreadyassessment.scoreapp.com

Book a complimentary 30-minute exploratory call:
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https://www.linkedin.com/in/ben-walters-165168365/
https://www.facebook.com/ben.walters.77770

Chapters

00:00 – Stop playing it safe: the power of discomfort
01:09 – Welcome to SuperPumped Life
02:00 – Introducing the Croatia Epic Executive Experience
03:20 – From the Grand Canyon to Croatia: why discomfort matters
06:00 – Are your best days behind you—or just ahead?
07:30 – Life happening to you vs. you happening to life
09:30 – Pushing past the wall: lessons from a 50-mile trek
12:00 – Why a week-long immersive experience beats a weekend retreat
13:40 – Why travel rewires the brain for growth
15:00 – The value of round-the-clock access to coaching
16:00 – Why investing in yourself is the best ROI
18:00 – The Epic Executive Experience guarantee
19:20 – Rough edges as toeholds: growth through imperfection
21:10 – How to join the adventure

Disclaimer:
The information in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and should not be considered medical, mental health, financial, legal, or professional advice. Guest opinions are their own. Always consult with a qualified professional before making medical, health, business, investment, legal, or personal decisions.