Support is Sexy

Ever since I heard author and podcaster Tim Ferriss say "What would this look like if it were easy?" when he was a guest on another show and speaking about his approach to launching his own podcast, I immediately incorporated that mindset into my toolbox. Whenever approaching a new project or adventure: What would it look like if this were easy.

But you know what? Sometimes I forget. Like this week, as I was setting up interviews, recording episodes of the podcasts, preparing to travel, and flying through a long list of to-dos. There's nothing wrong with hustle, and moving with a sense of urgency; but you have to check in with yourself – at least I did – and ask: am I hustling or am I harried? Your answer will tell you whether you need to take a minute, shift and readjust.

In the middle of the whirlwind, and honestly some unrealistic goals of what I was going to accomplish in 24 hours, I stopped. I mean, complete stop, and said: What would this look like if this were easy. On this episode of the Support is Sexy podcast, I dive into more reasons for why this is such an important question.

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[Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void]

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Kelli M. Coleman grew up in Detroit with her parents as a child surrounded by other successful African-American adults who, by all appearances, had it all. They were successful, had great careers and businesses and enjoyed loving, enduring personal relationships. This model of success became an important part of Kelli's evolution as she, at age 10, entered into the family business (her father, Don Coleman, founded Global Hue -- which is the largest independently owned multicultural advertising firm in the United states) and later as she became an entrepreneur on her own terms.

What Kelly didn't expect was that her own personal development and independence -- outside of the shadow of her dad's successful business -- would require a different model. One that placed her in a position where she could either continue to meet expectations, or she could be a woman who dares. After much soul searching, and with some support, she decided to dare, and since then, Kelli has inspired other women around the world to do the same.

Kelli, who is an award-winning marketer and advertising executive, is now founder and CEO of her own company, KM Coleman Group, which advises businesses led by or built for women. She is also the founder of the She Who Dares initiative, which tackles the importance of personal development and speaks to the extraordinary side in every woman through events and conversations.

This Friday, December 16th, Kelli will host a free She Who Dares event in Atlanta at Lenox Square in Bloomingdales with a panel of moderated by yours truly and featuring powerhouse women including Tai Beauchamp, Valeisha Butterfield Jones, Dr. Karmetria Burton and Kelli! If you're in the area, please come by, enjoy and say hello! (Link below)

On this episode of the Support is Sexy podcast, Kelli talks about the moment she knew it was time to make a move, how to be ignore the expectations, the importance of surrounding yourself with a village to support you and the power of becoming a woman who dares.

On this episode you'll learn:

How to step away from the family business.How to free yourself from the assertion of expectations.How she defines legacy (and how we can redefine it for ourselves).The importance of going through a phase of discomfort.How to know when it's time to move on.The importance of personal growth and discovery for every entrepreneur.Why avoiding uncertainty is crippling.Her master plan for shifting (and the resources that help her create a new life).The importance of knowing what you DON'T want.How to be a woman who dares.

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Comparison is death. And so is the numbers game.

As we wrap of the year and look at where we were in our business, how we performed, where we can improve, it may be easy to get caught up in the numbers game -- meaning this self-destructive behavior of comparing our numbers to someone else's numbers within our industry or otherwise and allowing it to make us feel less than. Don't do it! No good can come of it!

In the episode I talk about three areas of the numbers game that trip most of up: audience and influence; social media; money -- and I share strategies that you may use to steer clear.

Yes, numbers matter; but comparison kills. So stay focused! Here's how.

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[Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void]

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The new year is upon us and you've probably already seen articles, posts and news items about resolutions, the "new you" and other forms of pressure that urge you to blow off the rest of 2016 and start thinking ahead.

Well, don't.

You still have time left! And pushing those to-dos that you've left undone all year into next year is not the way to go when you realize you still have space and opportunity to get much accomplished. You don't want to go into next year with anything that feels like a loose end or a burden – you want to go into the year thinking about your blessings!

So, I've got a challenge for you: The #finishstrongandsexy challenge. In this episode I give you three challenges that will support you in making it happen THIS YEAR! Don't put it off. You got this and you can do this! All of the things that you've been waiting to do are probably waiting for you to show up!

Let me know what you're up to! Mention me @elaynefluker on social media or use the hashtags #supportissexy or #finishstrongandsexy and share what your commitment is for the #finishstrongandsexy challenge. Let's support each other! That's what it's all about, right?

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[Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void]

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You know what you're going to see a lot of in the post for this episode? SPACE.

As entrepreneurs, we can get so caught up in the hustle, in filling every single empty space with a to-do. I get it -- you're busy, and you've got stuff to do!

But I challenge you this weekend to put some space on it. With intention. Take a break -- whatever that looks like. Listen to this episode, a quickie, for a few ideas, then go out there, take a break and breathe!

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In a recent interview for the Support is Sexy podcast (episode 109) with Jen Groover, a very successful serial entrepreneur and a mentor in my head, we spoke about this idea of not being limited by the limited beliefs of others who buy into this idea that you have to stay in one lane or have one job or be one thing when it comes to your business. Why can't you be, do, have more than one thing when it comes to what you want to create or experience in your business? Know what? You can!

On this episode I talk about the beauty of "doing the most," tips on how you can figure out what the most looks like for you, and I include an excerpt from my conversation Jen about how she manages having multiple interests, passions, businesses and lanes.

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[Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void]

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Mistakes. If you're an entrepreneur, whether you admit it or not, you've seen plenty of them. Whether those mistakes were your "fault" or not, doesn't matter -- it's your responsibility. What matters most is that you know that at some point or another, mistakes happen, and you will encounter them at some point of your journey. And that you're clear that, no matter what, you get a second chance.

As entrepreneurs -- especially solopreneurs -- it's easy for us to sometimes slip into beating ourselves up or even becoming stalled in creating when we encounter a mistake, big or small. If we're not clear that we deserve a second chance to get it right, we'll remain stuck in that self-pitying state, which is neither healthy or productive.

On this episode of the Support is Sexy podcast I share a recent mistake I made that made me smack my forehead; but then made me show myself some much needed compassion. Listen to find out how you can approach those second chances, move forward, and allow yourself a bit of space and grace along your entrepreneurial journey.

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[Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void]

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I made a mistake. In fact I made several! And in this episode I talk about how the mistakes we make -- or the imperfections we perceive we have -- don't make our projects or what we're putting out in to the world "wrong," they make them authentic!.

What are you holding onto in hopes of it being perfect? What do you need to learn to let go of so you can get feedback that will help move you forward? Have a listen, and then let go!

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[Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void]

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2017 is almost here -- let's not wait until the New Year to resolve to drop old baggage, to have the difficult conversations we may need to in order to move forward in our businesses or our lives. It's time to travel light!

On this episode I share a recent personal experience where I had to have a difficult conversation and give you advice, based on my experience, about how you may do so with some tools that will help make them not so difficult, that will allow you to set healthy boundaries and to let go of anything (or anyone) that may be holding you back.

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I hate to use the word hate, but I hate push-ups. Love working out, can't stand push-ups. They are, indeed, my least favorite exercise, and I usually avoid doing them in any way possible. 10-mile runs? Yes! Push-ups? No thanks!

Now that I've relocated from Brooklyn, New York, to Atlanta though, access to long runs has changed, and I've had to rework my routine a bit. In doing so, I added push-ups, of all things, to my routine. Why? Because I needed to challenge myself -- and what's more challenging than pushing yourself to do that thing that you don't like or that's uncomfortable or that you would put off forever if you could?

That's when we need to PUSH, when we're avoiding things that will actually make us and our businesses stronger, like the push-ups -- that I'm getting better at doing now that I've committed to them!

On this episode, I talk about the ways that pushing will make you stronger in your business and why you need to go there and face that resistance. You got this! Push!

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[Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void]

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