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Surrogacy from Start to Baby: What Every Intended Parent Should Know


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You've decided you want to build your family through surrogacy. Now what?

In this episode of Fertility Café, Eloise Drane sits down with surrogacy Family Support Advisor,  Jennifer Silva to walk intended parents through the entire surrogacy journey, from that very first phone call to bringing your baby home. Jennifer draws on both her professional expertise and her own deeply personal fertility journey to give one of the most honest, comprehensive conversations about surrogacy you'll find anywhere.

This episode doesn't sugarcoat the process. It breaks down what the matching phase actually involves, why surrogate screening matters more than most agencies let on, what the real financial picture looks like, and why emotional preparation is just as important as having the right embryos.

If you've ever wondered how long surrogacy actually takes...
If you've been shocked by the costs and aren't sure what you're really paying for...
If you're trying to figure out whether you're truly ready to begin...

This episode is for you.

You'll Learn

  • The major phases of a surrogacy journey and what to expect at each stage
  • Whether you need embryos ready before reaching out to an agency
  • Why realistic timelines are 18 to 24 months and why that's actually a good thing
  • What thorough surrogate screening looks like and why it protects everyone
  • The real financial picture: why total costs range from $140,000 to $200,000+
  • What most intended parents don't realize about surrogate compensation and insurance
  • Why double embryo transfers are rarely done and what to consider instead
  • How to think through matching criteria, communication styles, and relationship expectations
  • Why emotional preparation and processing past trauma matters before you start
  • What questions to honestly ask yourself before taking the first step
  • Why doors are never truly closed and what to do if you're not ready yet
  • About Our Guest

    Jennifer Silva is a surrogacy Family Support Advisor with deep firsthand knowledge of the fertility journey. After years of navigating her own infertility, severe endometriosis, and multiple IVF clinic changes, Jennifer became a passionate advocate for intended parents, particularly around education, transparency, and emotional readiness. She works closely with Family Inceptions to guide intended parents through every stage of the surrogacy process, from initial consultation through matching, medical clearance, transfer, pregnancy, and birth.

    Her approach is rooted in honesty, patience, and making sure every family is truly prepared: not just on paper, but emotionally, financially, and relationally.

    Resources & Links

    • Family Inceptions Website: familyinceptions.com
    • Free Consultation: Available through the Family Inceptions website
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