As avid podcast listeners, we never understand why lifestyle podcasters think people would be interested in hearing their version of yet another “Here’s what we did on our vacation” recap which is a format we find to be desperately tired and overdone. After all, who wants to hear about the mundane details of someones travel experience? Does anybody really like looking at other peoples’ vacation photos? Of course not. As a result, we prefer to structure our show so that the events described have a purpose for listeners and produce a lesson or a moral that we’ve learned.  We aspire to make our podcast’s content evergreen so it can be used as a resource for others and not just for our own selfish memories and musings. However, we just returned from two very interesting events and, at our listeners’ request, we are compelled to share some of our insights and observations about the Friction hotel takeovers and the New York City lifestyle club scene.

After reviewing our adventures over the past month, we dive into our questions. We discuss what, if anything, is so fun about flipping vanillas. Then Penn gets on his soapbox for a rant about whether or not singles in the lifestyle can be considered swingers. Finally, we take listeners’ advice about the best ways to spot other swingers in vanilla settings and make a call to all swingers to reclaim the use of the black ring to identify ourselves to each other. 

From the beginning of our swinging career we have always insisted on a very clear boundary between our swinging activities and our vanilla life. To preserve our privacy and anonymity, we regularly travel for our sexy fun. We promised ourselves from the start that we would never allow those two parts of our lives to mingle… well, except this once. This episode’s diary story is the memory of what happened when we broke our own rule and allowed our two parallel worlds to mix for just a few hours.

As we look forward to going out for the first time in years to a New Years Eve party, we take note of the fact that for us, swinging, like life, is all about attitude. We don't waste time looking backwards with regret or lamenting challenges we've met throughout the year. We never forget that we are living an amazing life and so we are, as always, looking forward to what next year will bring in our vanilla and swinging lifestyles.

This episode has three fairly commonly discussed topics, but with our listeners’ help we try to approach each with a slightly new perspective. We talk about what to do when you can’t get (or stay) hard during play, the best piece of advice for single females aspiring to be swinging unicorns, and the secret signals couples exchange to express interest in potential play partners.

While unicorns are not necessarily our favorite play choice, we have had some awesome encounters with quite a few. In our diary story, we remember a slightly awkward playtime with a beautiful, but very selective single girl who joined us in a playroom at a house party and the way she enhanced our sexual experience that night.

It’s the swingers’ high holy day, Halloween. To be truthful, Halloween blowouts aren’t our favorite swinger parties but on a few awesome occasions those newbie-filled, overcrowded, makeup-laced events have produced some fantastic memories for us.

We have another three great questions for this episode, but in this show, the conversations about determining your swinger “number” and the best icebreaker games for swingers were almost lost in the deluge of answers we received about one of the most polarizing and opinion inducing questions we have explored. It seems that everybody has a opinion about… the bush!

In honor of Halloween and in preparation for this episode’s diary story, we listened back to one of our very first private swinger diary recordings. It made us both giggle and shake our heads at ourselves as we listened to our wide-eyed recollections. The memory we heard, and now re-tell here, was about our very first swinger Halloween party and how, in one unexpected night, our “number” doubled, from one to two.

We are back from our amazing lifestyle cruise through the Mediterranean and we have so much to talk about! After skipping our usual release date in the middle of this month, we are bursting with stories and reviews of our journey. Please excuse the length of this episode. Although its a long one, we barely scratched the surface of all of our adventures and observations. After that trip, we will surely have diary stories for many years to come. After all, it was truly the trip of a lifetime.

True to our format, after recapping our fantastic swinger cruise, in this episode we discuss the question of how long it should take to get into swinging. We talk about tips and advice for keeping the sexy spark alive with a couple in anticipation of a date that is still far away. Then we expose our own occasional crisis of confidence and talk about when and why we sometimes think that we suck at swinging.

Though almost all of our diary entries are memories of our sexiest encounters, not every evening ends with mind-blowing orgasms. This journal entry is the memory of a night when we left the club with unfulfilled fantasies. Sometimes you just lose your mojo and when that happens, you have to wisely assess the situation, pack up, make a graceful exit,  and know that there will always be more sexy opportunities in the future.

Welcome to Book 2 of our diary. Recently, as we happened to come across one of our older episodes, we realized that in the past our show could rightfully be considered by some listeners as  a bit… shall we say, dry? Because up until now, we were purposefully and gingerly addressing an audience who are new to this awesome lifestyle, our shows were carefully scripted to give as much information as possible, but now our intended audience (and our style) shifts as we begin to discuss the more nuanced topics which are of interest to more experienced swingers. 

Thank you all of you amazing responses to our first three questions. In this episode we talk about our opinions and your input on penis size, the sexy secret of swinging and same room play preferences. Please be sure to keep your advice coming. We need more opinions as we announce our next episode’s questions at the end of the show.

Our diary story is about an experience that touches on two of this episode’s questions. With a couple with whom we has a very special and intimate connection, a few years ago we explored the boundary of separate room play. As we expected, the excitement was intense but the emotional and logistic challenges were also very real.

As we wrap up Book One of our podcast, we answer the last of our initial newbie questions about the swinging lifestyle. Swinging is our hobby and like any other recreation, we are willing to spend a little money for our entertainment. How much to spend is a personal choice, but for us swinging is so fun and rewarding that we prioritize it and make room for it's expenses in our budget.

In this episode we discuss the range of costs for the different swinging activities and as always, we give specific dollar amounts about what you can expect to pay for various events.

In an encounter that happened just a couple of days ago, our diary story is an example of one of the simplest experiences in the lifestyle and the fact that some of the hottest and most exciting memories cost absolutely nothing.

As we begin Book Two of our show, we need your help. We introduce the first three questions that will be discussed on our next episode in order to solicit advice from our audience. These are swinging queries that despite our years of experience, we still don't know the answers to.

Does penis size/shape really matter with a new play partner?

Isn't the fact that we all keep our adventures secret, part of the fun of swinging?

Why are so many couples in the lifestyle “same room play” only?

Flirting is a skill and just like any other, if you don't practice it regularly, you can get a little rusty. One of the first realizations for new swingers is that it’s probably been a long time since they've flirted with others and they often need to brush up on their moves.

 

In this episode, we remind listeners of the basics of flirting. We walk through what a typical evening in a club is like for us and talk about our personal flirting styles. As always, we give practical tips and techniques for moving from that awkward introduction phase to actually “sealing the deal”.

 

In our sexy journal entry, we recall a date with a charming, experienced, flirty couple which lit the fuse for a slow burn that eventually culminated in an inevitably explosive encounter.

Paige was not happy when the idea of these topics came up. Neither religion nor STIs are sexy conversation topics, but we know they are high on the list of curiosities and concerns when it comes to swinging. Originally, we had two separate topics, "Isn't swinging against your religion?" and "Aren't you worried about STDs?", but Paige protested having two separate episodes about such unsexy topics so we combined them into one show.

As classic swingers, our views on these topics are more mainstream than you might realize. So many swingers are like us, professional churchgoing people, who are active members of their community, have kids and vanilla social lives, and work out at the gym and take care of themselves in an attempt to stay physically and emotionally healthy. In this show we talk about how religion fits into our swinging life and also about our observations about the risks and rewards involving STIs and the standard practices of prevention and protection in the swinging community.

Paige chooses the story for our journal as we remember a very recent hotel takeover where we had a date to meet up with old friends and the excitment of how our foursome turned into a wild and hot six-way connection with the introduction of new friends too.

In our first episode we, Penn and Paige, explain our motivation for this podcast and answer the first of our questions.

In this show, we explain how the Lifestyle has enriched our lives and enhanced our marriage.

As in all of our episodes, we make a story entry in to our diary. This one is about an unexpected anonymous experience in the Swinger’s Cruise playroom.