If you've just discovered Swinger Diaries, stop right here. Do not listen to this episode because this one is nothing like our previous shows. As we begin to wind up the podcast, on this episode we indulge ourselves in a trip down memory lane to explore the evolution of the show itself. 

Using clips from previous episodes and our memories about our attitudes and inspirations, we discuss some of the important milestones in the podcast that shaped Swinger Diaries into what it has become. In this show we remember the high points and low points of our adventures in recording our stories over the past 6 years.

If you're a longtime listener, you might enjoy hearing some of the backstories as we pull the curtain and reveal our insecurities, embarrassments, triumphs and points of pride in our podcasting journey. In the spirit of full disclosure, we even read our one and only hate mail.

As avid podcast listeners, we never understand why lifestyle podcasters think people would be interested in hearing their version of yet another “Here’s what we did on our vacation” recap which is a format we find to be desperately tired and overdone. After all, who wants to hear about the mundane details of someones travel experience? Does anybody really like looking at other peoples’ vacation photos? Of course not. As a result, we prefer to structure our show so that the events described have a purpose for listeners and produce a lesson or a moral that we’ve learned.  We aspire to make our podcast’s content evergreen so it can be used as a resource for others and not just for our own selfish memories and musings. However, we just returned from two very interesting events and, at our listeners’ request, we are compelled to share some of our insights and observations about the Friction hotel takeovers and the New York City lifestyle club scene.

After reviewing our adventures over the past month, we dive into our questions. We discuss what, if anything, is so fun about flipping vanillas. Then Penn gets on his soapbox for a rant about whether or not singles in the lifestyle can be considered swingers. Finally, we take listeners’ advice about the best ways to spot other swingers in vanilla settings and make a call to all swingers to reclaim the use of the black ring to identify ourselves to each other. 

From the beginning of our swinging career we have always insisted on a very clear boundary between our swinging activities and our vanilla life. To preserve our privacy and anonymity, we regularly travel for our sexy fun. We promised ourselves from the start that we would never allow those two parts of our lives to mingle… well, except this once. This episode’s diary story is the memory of what happened when we broke our own rule and allowed our two parallel worlds to mix for just a few hours.

We love meeting up with listeners and our awesome upcoming travel schedule offers lots of opportunities. In addition to our usual tour of clubs and hotel takeovers, New York, New Orleans, Toronto, Negril, Havana and Cancun are all on this years agenda. Its going to be a fantastic year of sexy fun.

This episode has some philosophical questions to be discussed by us and our listeners. This month we talk about our “play percentage” in a variety of different scenarios. Then we struggle with the puzzle of whether good kissing is an objective or subjective skill. Finally, we explore the answers to a listener’s question about how to clean up after a playtime. 

Although we travel often, the highlight of our upcoming year will be our visit to Desire RM with friends and listeners in March of 2019. In this entry into our diary, we remember some wild encounters that happened on last year’s Desire trip. While we aren’t usually orgy fans, the memory told in this story is seared into our minds as one of the most epically erotic and sensual group play experiences we’ve ever had.

Lifestyle travel is a huge part of our swinging experience and we are loving the fact that so many of our listeners want to make memories with us. Last month, on our 16th visit to Desire, we were joined by dozens of friends and listeners who made it one of the best trips we’ve ever had. We are excited to announce that we are doing it all again next year, March 24-30, 2019. In the mean time, we also have a full travel schedule planned for this year and we would love to have you join us on one of our many adventures. 

Three great listener questions are discussed on this episode. We answer questions about how the lifestyle has changed and about how to handle contacting playmates on the morning after a play experience, and then we scratch the surface on one of the biggest challenges for newbies to the swinging lifestyle, jealousy. 

As we listen back to the 60 diary stories we’ve told over the years, one thing seems obvious, we love variety. Every encounter is unique and each one teaches us a new lesson about ourselves, our playmates and the swinging lifestyle. This story reminds us that even after years of experience and even with our closest and most trusted friends, that weird unexplainable pang of jealousy is always a possibility.

As we look forward to going out for the first time in years to a New Years Eve party, we take note of the fact that for us, swinging, like life, is all about attitude. We don't waste time looking backwards with regret or lamenting challenges we've met throughout the year. We never forget that we are living an amazing life and so we are, as always, looking forward to what next year will bring in our vanilla and swinging lifestyles.

This episode has three fairly commonly discussed topics, but with our listeners’ help we try to approach each with a slightly new perspective. We talk about what to do when you can’t get (or stay) hard during play, the best piece of advice for single females aspiring to be swinging unicorns, and the secret signals couples exchange to express interest in potential play partners.

While unicorns are not necessarily our favorite play choice, we have had some awesome encounters with quite a few. In our diary story, we remember a slightly awkward playtime with a beautiful, but very selective single girl who joined us in a playroom at a house party and the way she enhanced our sexual experience that night.

Once again we have a listener question episode. Our listeners are always sending questions and topic suggestions and, since we certainly don't have all the answers, occasionally we select three great inquiries to crowd-source the best advice. 

In this episode we discuss the debrief conversations that we have on the car ride home and how they have actually lead to the creation this podcast. Then we gingerly talk about the challenging topic of being overweight and how it potentially affects your lifestyle experiences. Finally, we present a listener question that has appeared on our Kasidie Community wall and hear the responses of other listeners about whether or not its bad swinger etiquette for a guy not to orgasm during play.

Our journal entry is the story of a playtime encounter that was memorable to us because it was so peculiar. Never before have we had a play session in which our experiences were so completely different. For Penn, it was fantastic, energetic, exciting, fun, wild and amazing. For Paige, well, we’ll let her describe it for you. It made for a very interesting and challenging debrief on the long car ride home.

It’s the swingers’ high holy day, Halloween. To be truthful, Halloween blowouts aren’t our favorite swinger parties but on a few awesome occasions those newbie-filled, overcrowded, makeup-laced events have produced some fantastic memories for us.

We have another three great questions for this episode, but in this show, the conversations about determining your swinger “number” and the best icebreaker games for swingers were almost lost in the deluge of answers we received about one of the most polarizing and opinion inducing questions we have explored. It seems that everybody has a opinion about… the bush!

In honor of Halloween and in preparation for this episode’s diary story, we listened back to one of our very first private swinger diary recordings. It made us both giggle and shake our heads at ourselves as we listened to our wide-eyed recollections. The memory we heard, and now re-tell here, was about our very first swinger Halloween party and how, in one unexpected night, our “number” doubled, from one to two.

We are back from our amazing lifestyle cruise through the Mediterranean and we have so much to talk about! After skipping our usual release date in the middle of this month, we are bursting with stories and reviews of our journey. Please excuse the length of this episode. Although its a long one, we barely scratched the surface of all of our adventures and observations. After that trip, we will surely have diary stories for many years to come. After all, it was truly the trip of a lifetime.

True to our format, after recapping our fantastic swinger cruise, in this episode we discuss the question of how long it should take to get into swinging. We talk about tips and advice for keeping the sexy spark alive with a couple in anticipation of a date that is still far away. Then we expose our own occasional crisis of confidence and talk about when and why we sometimes think that we suck at swinging.

Though almost all of our diary entries are memories of our sexiest encounters, not every evening ends with mind-blowing orgasms. This journal entry is the memory of a night when we left the club with unfulfilled fantasies. Sometimes you just lose your mojo and when that happens, you have to wisely assess the situation, pack up, make a graceful exit,  and know that there will always be more sexy opportunities in the future.

Welcome to Book 2 of our diary. Recently, as we happened to come across one of our older episodes, we realized that in the past our show could rightfully be considered by some listeners as  a bit… shall we say, dry? Because up until now, we were purposefully and gingerly addressing an audience who are new to this awesome lifestyle, our shows were carefully scripted to give as much information as possible, but now our intended audience (and our style) shifts as we begin to discuss the more nuanced topics which are of interest to more experienced swingers. 

Thank you all of you amazing responses to our first three questions. In this episode we talk about our opinions and your input on penis size, the sexy secret of swinging and same room play preferences. Please be sure to keep your advice coming. We need more opinions as we announce our next episode’s questions at the end of the show.

Our diary story is about an experience that touches on two of this episode’s questions. With a couple with whom we has a very special and intimate connection, a few years ago we explored the boundary of separate room play. As we expected, the excitement was intense but the emotional and logistic challenges were also very real.