SWM 048 – Anonymous Questions from July & August 2019 – Squirting, Anal sex tips & Unreciprocated oral sex

Well, summer is gone and done and we’re going to try and get back into the swing of things here.  I’m going to do my best to answer these each and every month rather than batching two months together as I’ve been doing.  It’s just taking too long for people to get answers, and I want to be able to get them to you sooner.

If you’re new to the community, these posts are about questions we’ve received from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Usually I don’t get contact info, so I can’t ask followup questions, or for more context, or anything.  So, I do my best to answer and give some ideas based on what I’ve got. I also post these questions in our supporters forum as soon as I get them and we discuss them there.  Those discussions help inform my responses as well.

So, if you want to be a part of that process, consider supporting us and getting access to them.  

With that out of the way, let’s get these questions addressed.  

Question 1 – How often do people’s sex drives switch from low to high

I am wondering if you have any insight into how often peoples sex drives switch from low to high overtime and why that happens.

My husband (who’s 36) has had a low sex drive for a really long time. But he has been trying to get healthier and he thinks it’ll change by losing belly fat and exercising. His testosterone isn’t low anymore either but his drive is still pretty low.

I’m afraid I don’t have any stats on how often.  That said, I can tell you that sex drive can change based on a lot of factors.  Hormones, health, stress, partner, age, sleep, diet, water intake, exercise, medication and a bunch of other things.  

Our sex drives are always in flux, and it’s different from person to person on what factor will affect drives in which way and to what degree.  For example, about 10% of the population actually sees an increase in sex drive when they’re heavily stressed whereas for the other 90%, stress is a libido killer.

It’s quite possible that losing weight and exercising can help improve sex drive.  Exercising definitely increases testosterone, and being overweight adds stress to the body, so removing that stress can help.

But it’s impossible to say for sure, as we don’t know exactly what’s causing the low drive.  It’s also quite possible that he simply has more of a responsive desire than spontaneous desire.

Question 2 – How to squirt

Hi, both my wife and I have been married for a few years and have been exploring and trying some new ideas in the bedroom. We both have an interest in having my wife squirt. We are not exactly sure how to accomplish this and was wondering if you had any “safe” resources that we could possibly learn from, so to stay away from any nudity or pornographic images.

Yeah, one of our supporters found an article at Women’s Health Magazine that’s safe.  

Question 3 – Wife is into whipping

My wife told me she is into whipping, how and where can I learn what that exactly means/to do?

So, this brings up a few questions.  Firstly, how does she know it’s something she’s into?