We were lucky enough to speak to Hein about his personal journey and experiences with Tantra. When we started researching Tantra we quickly began to understand that it is a far broader set of traditions, texts, theories, systems, methods, techniques and applicable practices than is possible to cover in an hour with one of its grateful students. We leave behind the desire to explain the ins and outs and focus our collective consciousness on the reasons we could all do with a bit of sexual healing.

You can connect with Hein on IG https://www.instagram.com/h.e.i.n.a.r.t/

Tapiwa gives us insight into his personal journey with rope as well the work he facilitates with others through this highly specialised medium. We discuss some of the broader cultural misconceptions that come with being a black, straight, male body on the African continent who ties people up. He shares his motivation behind providing this vital sex positive representation for other POC online. We discuss dogma, glamorisation and accessibility of this and other “alternative practices”.

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sungakonji/

!!! COMMUNICATION AND CONSENT IS EVERYTHING !!!

Brett took most of his beatings without a peep so for the sake of entertainment we have included his first and last spanks only! 

Important to note that there was constant two way communication that happened before, during and after this play session with Hot Squeak. We have edited most of this out in order to provide you with a shorter sharper experience :P

**Disclaimer** no butts were permanently damaged in the making of this audio.

Some practical advice for all of you freshies out there itching to get going! Check out the links to her writings below for more :)

Her writing on Spanking 101: https://fetlife.com/users/2170304/posts/3529172

Diagram of impact play safety zones: https://fetlife.com/users/2170304/pictures/93063933

All other writing: https://fetlife.com/users/2170304/posts

We all like a good spanking from time to time! Abby goes by Hot Squeak on FetLife.

This episode is all about how spanking came to be a part of her life, the highs and lows of her dealings with other kinksters on FetLife and some of the differences between the JHB & CT kink scenes. This episode has it all!

Check out our two bonus mini pods associated to this episode for her tips & tricks for beginner spankers as well as an edited action audio replay of her spanking the two of us…

Enjoy the show!

Hot Squeak on Fetlife: https://fetlife.com/users/2170304

PHOTO CREDIT: Dominant-Male (FetLife)

The King of Consent! Jay is passionate about consent culture and steadfast in his opinion on how it should inform all interpersonal interactions. In this interview he reflects upon the challenges of being polyamorous way before it was a thing people spoke about as a more mainstream relationship style/option. We discuss his relationship with nudity and get the juice on his proclivity towards exhibitionism. He shares some helpful tips on how to effectively communicate your preference towards this lifestyle with others in a responsible way. Enjoy the show!

Insta: https://instagram.com/wileyjayfox

Fetlife: https://fetlife.com/users/1477122

We’re baaaaack and what better way to make up for the break than to double up on awesome guests? In this episode we interview A Kink In The Road. A full time DD/lg couple that take us through the dynamics of their polyamorous partnership as well as their feelings on the importance of platonic intimacy. Minx and W speak openly about their perception of the politics of kink within parts of the Cape Town community: kink shaming, racial tension and what seems to be a general lack of open mindedness. Sad face.

A huge sanitary special mention and elbow five thanks to the very beautiful and organised Head South Lodge on Main Road in Greenpoint for hosting the Sex With My Ex podcast in this time of social distancing!

Minx, W & Kink Toys - leather/vegan leather/beautiful wooden dildos

A Kink In The Road: https://www.instagram.com/akinkintheroad/

Head South Lodge

IG: https://www.instagram.com/headsouthlodge/

Website: https://headsouth.co.za/

Nix takes us through her saucy debut at her very first kink party. We discuss her work as an experienced Dom and explore her versatility as a switch who has also been a little in an active DD/lg relationship. She sheds light on her views on intersectional feminism and its role in BDSM, polyamory and the queer kinky spaces she has encountered in Cape Town. She also shares her thoughts and feelings on what it takes to run successful inclusive events in a mostly white dominated kink space.

Links: https://twitter.com/Velvet_Nix

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What the DD/lg dynamic meant to us as a couple, and beyond. We share our specific kink story with the highs and lows that marked turning points in our relationship. We do not speak on behalf of all Daddies or littles, just ourselves with intention to build trust in us as mostly confused kinksters who are still figuring their sh*t out. --- Enjoy the show