Table Talks with the Tares

How do you handle stress in your relationship and how do you show up when your spouse is the one feeling it? This week we’re talking about how we’ve learned (and are still learning) to navigate stress without letting it take over. From recognizing each other’s signals to supporting without fixing, we’re sharing what’s helped us stay grounded and connected when life feels a little chaotic.

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Resources mentioned:

Quote: “God hasn’t just sent you to do his work in the lives of your children; he will use the lives of your children to advance his work in you.” - Paul David Tripp

Parenting Books:

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https://a.co/d/09fpFzus

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Next episode recommended: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-6-its-all-about-communication/id1661247515?i=1000593165224

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Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time.

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We just celebrated 10 years of marriage with a cabin trip… and brought all three kids along. 😅 It was a blast and also a little reality check. We’re debriefing what we expected vs. what actually happened, where we maybe overshot things for this season, and how we’re learning to adjust expectations so they match real life with littles. If you’ve ever tried to make something special happen and ended up equal parts grateful and exhausted, you’ll feel this one.

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Resources mentioned:

Tim Keller Sermon: https://podcast.gospelinlife.com/e/the-power-of-jesus/

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https://a.co/d/04lV5RnT

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Next episode recommended: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/137-have-kids-early-and-often-what-i-think-about-that/id1661247515?i=1000721492279

Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time.

Visit our website: http://www.honestunderscore.com.

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Everyone says they need more margin, but who actually takes time to create it? In this conversation, we talk about how stacking small habits has helped us build rhythms that create real buffer in our lives. Not perfectly, but enough to breathe, rest, be present with our kids, and show up for others without feeling constantly maxed out. If your life feels full to the brim, this one might give practical insight for one small step to take in carving out buffer.

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Resources mentioned:

https://a.co/d/0dEzCjNc

Not mentioned in this episode but a good read on this topic:

https://a.co/d/09d8smm9

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Next episode recommended: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/153-why-running-without-margin-always-catches-up-to-you/id1661247515?i=1000739111663

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Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time.

Visit our website: http://www.honestunderscore.com.

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For questions, please email us at [email protected].

We’re talking about how love and respect land differently in marriage and how that showed up in a recent conflict for us. Turns out, it’s not just what you say but how you say it that matters too. We unpack how tone, timing, and delivery can completely change the message, and what we’re learning about speaking in a way so the other person feels respected. Based on a recent conversation we had, you’re welcome to take a seat at the table!

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Resources mentioned:

Book: https://a.co/d/05HbN4NS

Next episode recommended: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/166-that-is-not-my-job-relationship-expectations-10-years-in/id1661247515?i=1000752481369

Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time.

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Visit our website: http://www.honestunderscore.com.

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For questions, please email us at [email protected].

In this episode, we talk about the tension of speaking truthfully while still speaking lovingly, especially when dealing with people who have narcissistic tendencies. We share some of what we’ve learned through living with Gram and navigating those dynamics day to day. It’s an honest conversation about compassion, speaking truthfully but lovingly, and how we try to hold both at the same time.

Resources mentioned: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8sOw80NVm3g

Next episode recommended: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-119-how-to-avoid-getting-sucked-into-a/id1661247515?i=1000702501261

Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time.

Visit our website: http://www.honestunderscore.com.

Join our monthly newsletter for a curated blend of exclusive leadership insights, personal reflections, and resource releases delivered straight to your inbox. Subscribe to our newsletter!

For questions, please email us at [email protected]

It’s crazy how two people can live the same parenting moment and have totally different instincts. In this episode, we talk about how our differences show up in real time especially with ADHD in the mix. From structure vs. spontaneity to handling everyday chaos, we unpack where our approaches complement each other and where we think, “Wait… you’re doing what?”

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Next episode recommended: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/160-how-were-building-health-habits-that-actually-stick/id1661247515?i=1000745729960

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Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time.

Visit our website: http://www.honestunderscore.com.

Join our monthly newsletter for a curated blend of exclusive leadership insights, personal reflections, and resource releases delivered straight to your inbox. Subscribe to our newsletter!

For questions, please email us at [email protected].

Why do we hesitate to ask for help and how do we know if we’re actually showing up well in our roles as husband, wife, mom, or dad? In this episode, we put those questions on the table. We talk through expectations we carry, the reality of limited capacity, and how we’re learning to meet each other’s needs without keeping score. It’s an honest conversation about roles, communication, and working as a team instead of running on empty.

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Next episode recommended: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/164-married-to-your-financial-opposite-designer-versus/id1661247515?i=1000749958707

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Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time.

‌

Visit our website: http://www.honestunderscore.com.

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For questions, please email us at [email protected].

Ever notice how the same situation can feel completely different to two people? In this episode, we talk about how our differences don’t just come from personality but culture too. Growing up with NY and Filipino backgrounds means we often interpret conflict, respect, and even apologies in totally different ways. We unpack the Western justice/guilt framework vs. the honor/shame perspective common in many Eastern cultures, and how understanding this has helped us better understand each other.

Next episode recommended: Ep 18 Relationships: Speaking the Truth in Love, Individualism vs Collectivism

Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time.

Visit our website: The Honest Underscore.

Join our monthly newsletter for a curated blend of exclusive leadership insights, personal reflections, and resource releases delivered straight to your inbox. Subscribe to our newsletter!

For questions, please email us at [email protected].

In this episode, we realized we don’t actually think about “stuff” the same way. One of us leans toward practicality… the other notices the brand. What is that really about? We talk through how status subtly pulls on us, how it shows up in purchases and preferences, and why certain things feel important even when we know they probably shouldn’t.

Resources mentioned:

Watch: Panthère de Cartier watch

Fresh Avocado Vine

Books:

You Are What You Love: The Spiritual Power of Habit

The Overcomers: God's Vision for You to Thrive in an Age of Anxiety and Outrage

Funkin Park: Linkin Park's - Greatest Hits (If they were FUNK)

Next episode recommended: Ep 113 - Who should say sorry first? When honor/shame and justice/guilt cultures get married.

Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time.

Visit our website: The Honest Underscore.

Join our monthly newsletter for a curated blend of exclusive leadership insights, personal reflections, and resource releases delivered straight to your inbox. Subscribe to our newsletter!

For questions, please email us at [email protected].

Valentine’s Day hits different when you’re sleep-deprived and surrounded by tiny humans! In this episode, we reflect on how love looked when we first started dating vs. what connection looks like now in a low capacity season. From shifting expectations to finding small moments that matter, we talk about how we keep choosing each other through every stage of life.

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Next episode recommended: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/154-controlling-the-controllables-and-a-shortcut/id1661247515?i=1000740203183

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Table Talks with the Tares: where we explore how to close the gap between what we intend and what we do, one honest conversation at a time.

‌

Visit our website: http://www.honestunderscore.com.

Join our monthly newsletter for a curated blend of exclusive leadership insights, personal reflections, and resource releases delivered straight to your inbox. Subscribe to our newsletter!

For questions, please email us at [email protected].