Episode 231: ‘Take a Load Off‘ (Matthew Beld)

How do you give and receive pleasure while detaching from gender expectations? Storyteller and writer Matthew Beld has spent the Pandemic isolating and reflecting on who they really are, so a first time road trip celebration with new sluts feels daunting. Should they join the ass buffet? Can they be part of the orgy in the hot tub? As this proud slut embraces a more expansive non-binary identity, Matthew learns that the right people can help you find joy and connection - and that you don’t really have to know yet. It’s a bold choice, but you have to respect the confidence! #Nonbinary #ThatDressTho #Trans #TheMeatHasToGoSomewhere   Song: ‘I’m Good’ (The Mowgli’s) About the Storyteller:   Matthew Beld is a Non-Binary storyteller and writer in San Francisco. They've performed for Bawdy Storytelling and BawdySlam, Litquake, KQED, StoryCorps, and comedy shows around the Bay Area. Most recently, they've started writing sketches with Killing My Lobster. They're interested in kink, gender, and making tall men submit. When not on stage they work in LGBTQ+ health research and training.   Episode links:   Come to Bawdy Storytelling’s ‘Y’all means All’ THIS SUNDAY! It happens on Sunday June 26th, and features true stories from Trans activist & Community leader Mx. Shannon Amitin, Queer Femme Dyke & sex-positive artist Shilo McCabe, Infamous Sister of Perpetual Indulgence Flora Goodthyme, the return of beloved Best of Bawdy repeat offender Jeffrey Allen Hayes. With Music by Queer Theater / TBA award-nominee Joshua Beld, and more.  Watch the stories live and in person in San Francisco, or on the Livestream - Get tickets to Bawdy’s ‘Y’all Means All’ now at  https://bit.ly/BawdyYallMeansAllSF   Uberlube: Uberlube is a luxurious, high-grade silicone lubricant made from clean, body-friendly ingredients; it’s just silicone with a little Vitamin E. 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