Washington Watch with Tony Perkins

Most traditional marriage counselors will tell you that marriage is a two-way street, but Dr. David Hawkins disagrees. He says that this is “woefully inadequate for most problems” and confirms that many men struggle with dominating, dismissing, and deflecting their wives in their relationships. Dr. Hawkins is the owner and clinical director of the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute. He’s also a bestselling author and the host of the “Mad In Love” podcast. Dr. Hawkins discusses the “maze of confusion” that emotional abusers and narcissists can weave and how women are most often - although not always - victimized by it. Dr. Hawkins also explains what emotional abuse is, what it does to a victim, and the key factor to escaping the trauma: intervention!

TAKEAWAYS

The past is the best predictor of the future unless there’s an intervention

A person is not born a narcissist, but rather, it is learned behavior

Narcissism can also be defined as “extreme emotional immaturity”

Ongoing emotional abuse can result in PTSD or CPTSD in the victim

Abortion Causes Trauma

Sleep is only one part of the bigger picture of rest, says Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith, an internal medicine physician and CEO of Restorasis. After struggling with severe burnout and mental fatigue, Saundra went on a journey to discover how to truly rest not only her body, but her mind and soul, as well. She describes seven integral types of rest: mental, spiritual, emotional, social, sensory, creative, and physical. Most people, she explains, have work ethic but no rest ethic. “For some of us, we’ve wrapped our worth up in our work, so if we’re not working, we don’t feel worthy or valuable,” Saundra adds. She also breaks down how culture contributes to this endless cycle of exhaustion, and how we can break that toxic cycle for good!

TAKEAWAYS

Mental rest is perhaps the most important type of rest and most frequently needed

If you’ve ever been physically exhausted but unable to sleep because of a racing mind, that’s a sign of a “mental rest deficit”

People are busier than ever, largely because of how our culture is set up to encourage busyness above all else

We’re using energy throughout the day for every task, so you have to be mindful of how you spend that energy and how to regain it

Washington Watch with Tony Perkins

Washington Watch, Tony Perkins

Washington Watch with Tony Perkins

Nearly 80 million people in the United States are affected by narcissistic, emotional abuse, shares the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute's owner and clinical director Dr. David Hawkins. Dr. Hawkins delivers the good news that healing and hope are possible for anyone who exhibits narcissistic behavior and for those who have been victimized by it! The truth will set you free if you embrace it and get on the path of change with a professional who can help you. Dr. Hawkins discusses the physical effects of narcissistic abuse on survivors, how to heal from the trauma, and how an abuser can change their toxic pattern of behavior and learn to live in a healthier way. “With the right intervention and the right help, change really is possible,” Dr. Hawkins assures us.

TAKEAWAYS

90 percent of women who’ve faced narcissistic abuse have chronic fatigue syndrome, autoimmune disorders, and other physical issues

A godly sorrow can lead to repentance

So many women can effectively join together to bring about an intervention that can help both the victim and unwitting abuser

A narcissist is actually a winner when they lose their narcissistic behavior

Washington Watch with Tony Perkins

Dr. David Hawkins talks about the common signs and behaviors associated with narcissism and emotional abuse. As the owner and clinical director of the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute, he is an expert on counseling couples who are struggling through the thick of narcissistic behavior from at least one partner. Dr. Hawkins describes the five key behaviors of abuse: an attitude of arrogance, a lack of empathy, an attitude of self-protection, profound emotional immaturity, and a lack of dedication to make a change. He further explains that around 10 percent of the narcissist population are women and breaks down what reactive abuse can look like.

TAKEAWAYS

Healing from emotional trauma can’t be dealt with through “staying and praying” or the opposite which is simply “walking away”

Get expert help if you’re in a situation where emotional abuse is involved - Biblical resources are available and healing is possible

A victim of narcissistic abuse or emotional abuse will always feel diminished, disregarded, and alone in the relationship

Domination, dismissal, and defensiveness are narcissistic signs and are not signs of a healthy and vibrant relationship