TW: Spanking as child abuse.

They knew immediately that they could have done better. Episode 55 is a play-by-play of how a momentary problem turned into so much more. Watch or listen to hear how Lauren and Trey each take accountability for the individual roles they played in this brief conflict.

Trey shares how a resiliency check-in led, by Lauren speaking the words, “Jelly-Bear,” would have helped to dismantle the entire misunderstanding BEFORE it happened. They each expound on what this soft word means to them and how it would have helped them coregulate and love one another more fully.

Lauren shares an intimate memory of abuse from when she was 13-years-old; and how by demanding blind obedience, she was robbed of opportunities to practice how to disagree and argue from a place of respectful agency. She asks Trey if they can renegotiate this traumatic memory through play this week and he enthusiastically agrees.

They both discuss how, at times, forging new neural pathways can feel like tremendous work and the temptation to throw in the towel can be HUGE, but they end this episode encouraged by the ways they each are growing THROUGH these challenging opportunities.

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