A person that loves life. Passionate about his family married to a wonderful wife named Laura. Two amazing kids, six and 4. Daughter Eliana and son Alexander. Enjoys seeing life through their eyes. Passionate about being a parent. Like a kid at heart. Likes to play and create and joke around. Having kids give you the opportunity to have that experience again in full force and relive the world through your child’s eyes. Everything is magical when children experience it for the first time and seeing that excitement of going to a theme park for the first time or the first time they watch an animated movie its such an awesome thing to experience that as a parent and live through those things again with your kid. Passionate about his family
He had a tough life growing up and a crazy life story. His life is almost like a movie where there is foreshadowing and things unfold later on. His parents met in the US. Both of them are from Columbia, South America. His father already had a family and his Mom had moved to the US with her Dad they met in the US and fell in love and had him and then the Dad later revealed to the Mom that he still had a family and she didn’t want him to leave the family and they kept a long distance relationship. They ended up moving back to Columbia eventually where most of his family was from. His whole life his Dad was going back and forth. He did not have his Dad around a lot and did not understand why he could not be there for him more. His dad was just missing and it didn’t make sense.
A lot of the things that he has been through have helped him to be able to empathize with other people and be empathetic and caring in many ways as well as heal in general. It has been a journey and has taken him a while to process a lot of what he has went through and resentment and hatred and tumultuous periods of this poison burning inside him of all these negative emotions. hHs dad missing holidays and a lot of other stuff. Eventually his Mom said she was done with doing the long distance. But she was never good at communicating with JanCarlo about what was actually happening.
Eventually she married a guy who became his step dad but it was a shitty situation with jealousy and abuse and domestic violence and his Mom and him had to deal with it as his Mom had 2 kids with this step dad. Jancarlo as the son said what are you still doing with him after all the shit he put you through. He went to therapy over it to understand why would people even do this and behave this way and have and end up in these types of relationships.
Big proponent of therapy. Has learned tp champion it more. A lot of times people unjustly try to convert their significant other or spouse into a therapist or a friend when three not qualified when really they should get a therapist to listen and help them instead of avoiding the professional help and pushing your emotions on to others less capable and less trained to handle them.
Now there are a lot of other ways to do therapy. You don’t need to go to an office. You can pursue tele health options from the privacy of your home. Even if you are smart and think you can figure everything out, consider the movie Good Will Hunting where a Genius character in the movie is still helped emotionally by therapy.
He had lost contact with his Dad due to anger and resentment. Someone he had dated in college had lost her father to Cancer and she gave him the lesson of don’t let the hatred rob you of getting any extra time to interact with your father and not waiting until he is older or until the opportunity is gone. Luckily they sis start to talk after that and form a relationship. Was appreciative of being able to put aside the resentment and tried to build something and foster a relationship. A few years after that his father was brutally murdered in Columbia by gunmen on motorcycles. That was devastating.
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