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In ep 22 of The Business Oddcast, we discuss the complexities of communicating needs and collaborating with neurotypical individuals within a business context.
We deep dive on how you can get your needs met, and keeping lines of communication clear. We explore how we, the neurodivergent, often feel that advocating for ourself is like a "hostage negotiation," leading to overexplaining or apologizing for our existence.
We try to move the needle from "please accommodate me" toward one of equity, helping others understand that “accommodations”, such as specific lighting or noise levels, are more than simple preferences but essential tools that make work possible and create a level playing field.
The topic of boundaries and building two-way trust in professional relationships is unpicked and discuss how a "catch and release" policy prevents the self employed person becoming "financial hostages" to clients who ignore boundaries or demand constant availability.
We trauma dump the lived experience of self-employment and highlight the benefits of self-employment for the neurodiverse.
Please share with anyone you think this topic might resonate with. Send any questions or suggestions to or contact us here: [email protected]
Don't forget to like and subscribe or follow along on the socials, see below timeline for details.
Together we can build a healthier, happier way to work!
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TIMELINE
00:00:00 - Welcome & Introduction to the Show
00:00:30 - Topic of the Week: Talking About Your Needs & Collaborating with Neurotypicals
00:01:00 - Advocate for yourself... but how?
00:02:40 - Default communication styles come with a cognitive load
00:05:32 - The 100% correct answer is not always the response people want
00:06:34 - Apologing for "too many questions"... don't get offended, it may change things
00:09:57 - Demands to explain your needs before you undertsand them fully yourself
00:11:11 - WHY ARE YOU BEING SO EMOTIONAL? Hmmm??? HMMMM???
00:11:56 - Why Stuart is like he is...
00:13:17 - Self-awareness is the key to successful outcomes, for everyone
00:14:41 - Being aware of internal states is an issue, alexythimia and interospection
00:15:30 - REMEMBER "I need to think about this and come back to you"
00:16:20 - Yes or No can be so difficult why we need detail, detail, detail...
00:17:36 - Accomodations make life possible
00:18:38 - How do you meet your needs without over explaining or asking ALL the questions?
00:21:16 - Struggling with a quick answer and being given time to think
00:22:35 - Collaboration is a two way system - difference between equality and equity
00:25:27 - Why running and working with small businesses works for the ND
00:27:33 - Bad communication builds internal resistance - do not ignore the red flags
00:29:00 - Dealing with clashes in communication styles and adapting for others
00:31:56 - Managing the perceived balance of power and the personal cost
00:35:08 - How do you cope when your needs aren't me and boundaries aren't respected
00:36:33 - Boundaries, red flags and the crazy crowbar raccoon
00:41:55 - Respecting your own boundaries
00:43:30 - Collaborating with neurotypicals without masking, can it be done?
00:45:38 - What does good collaboration feel like?
00:49:01 - Build a reputation, give good advice, be authentic - create a process
00:52:29 - Tangents and takeaways
00:56:27 - We give you permission to get your needs met
00:57:08 - Next Week's Topic - Being Self-Employed Without Wearing a Mask at Home
00:58:33 - LENGTH
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RESOURCES
https://here2help.uk/further-information/ - Fab resource and amazing organisation raising awareness and support for autistic suicide prevention.
Information regarding Alexythimia and other helpful autism and autistic related factsheets on the link.
https://bigmoosecharity.co - Emergency mental health support, Big Moose provides fast and effective therapy for people who are struggling.
https://shineradio.uk - Local Radio Petersfield, Bordon & Whitehill and beyond!
https://businessoddcast.com/help - our range of resources for Neurodiverse business owners, helping you thrive, survive and live more fulfilling lives.
-------------------------------------
OUR WEBSITE & CONTACT
https://businessoddcast.com/help - Our resources
[email protected] - Email us
OUR SOCIALS
youtube.com/BusinessOddcast
facebook.com/BusinessOddcast
instagram.com/BusinessOddcast
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By Stuart Morrison & Hannah LoganIn ep 22 of The Business Oddcast, we discuss the complexities of communicating needs and collaborating with neurotypical individuals within a business context.
We deep dive on how you can get your needs met, and keeping lines of communication clear. We explore how we, the neurodivergent, often feel that advocating for ourself is like a "hostage negotiation," leading to overexplaining or apologizing for our existence.
We try to move the needle from "please accommodate me" toward one of equity, helping others understand that “accommodations”, such as specific lighting or noise levels, are more than simple preferences but essential tools that make work possible and create a level playing field.
The topic of boundaries and building two-way trust in professional relationships is unpicked and discuss how a "catch and release" policy prevents the self employed person becoming "financial hostages" to clients who ignore boundaries or demand constant availability.
We trauma dump the lived experience of self-employment and highlight the benefits of self-employment for the neurodiverse.
Please share with anyone you think this topic might resonate with. Send any questions or suggestions to or contact us here: [email protected]
Don't forget to like and subscribe or follow along on the socials, see below timeline for details.
Together we can build a healthier, happier way to work!
-------------------------------------
TIMELINE
00:00:00 - Welcome & Introduction to the Show
00:00:30 - Topic of the Week: Talking About Your Needs & Collaborating with Neurotypicals
00:01:00 - Advocate for yourself... but how?
00:02:40 - Default communication styles come with a cognitive load
00:05:32 - The 100% correct answer is not always the response people want
00:06:34 - Apologing for "too many questions"... don't get offended, it may change things
00:09:57 - Demands to explain your needs before you undertsand them fully yourself
00:11:11 - WHY ARE YOU BEING SO EMOTIONAL? Hmmm??? HMMMM???
00:11:56 - Why Stuart is like he is...
00:13:17 - Self-awareness is the key to successful outcomes, for everyone
00:14:41 - Being aware of internal states is an issue, alexythimia and interospection
00:15:30 - REMEMBER "I need to think about this and come back to you"
00:16:20 - Yes or No can be so difficult why we need detail, detail, detail...
00:17:36 - Accomodations make life possible
00:18:38 - How do you meet your needs without over explaining or asking ALL the questions?
00:21:16 - Struggling with a quick answer and being given time to think
00:22:35 - Collaboration is a two way system - difference between equality and equity
00:25:27 - Why running and working with small businesses works for the ND
00:27:33 - Bad communication builds internal resistance - do not ignore the red flags
00:29:00 - Dealing with clashes in communication styles and adapting for others
00:31:56 - Managing the perceived balance of power and the personal cost
00:35:08 - How do you cope when your needs aren't me and boundaries aren't respected
00:36:33 - Boundaries, red flags and the crazy crowbar raccoon
00:41:55 - Respecting your own boundaries
00:43:30 - Collaborating with neurotypicals without masking, can it be done?
00:45:38 - What does good collaboration feel like?
00:49:01 - Build a reputation, give good advice, be authentic - create a process
00:52:29 - Tangents and takeaways
00:56:27 - We give you permission to get your needs met
00:57:08 - Next Week's Topic - Being Self-Employed Without Wearing a Mask at Home
00:58:33 - LENGTH
-------------------------------------
RESOURCES
https://here2help.uk/further-information/ - Fab resource and amazing organisation raising awareness and support for autistic suicide prevention.
Information regarding Alexythimia and other helpful autism and autistic related factsheets on the link.
https://bigmoosecharity.co - Emergency mental health support, Big Moose provides fast and effective therapy for people who are struggling.
https://shineradio.uk - Local Radio Petersfield, Bordon & Whitehill and beyond!
https://businessoddcast.com/help - our range of resources for Neurodiverse business owners, helping you thrive, survive and live more fulfilling lives.
-------------------------------------
OUR WEBSITE & CONTACT
https://businessoddcast.com/help - Our resources
[email protected] - Email us
OUR SOCIALS
youtube.com/BusinessOddcast
facebook.com/BusinessOddcast
instagram.com/BusinessOddcast