Turning in your v-card. Popping your cherry. Becoming a man or a woman. Your first time. There are a lot of euphemisms for the first time someone has sex, and pretty much all of them are loaded with centuries, if not millennia, of culture, traditions, and social implications. This is why this week, we’re teaming up with our fellow podcaster Ruan Willow to talk about our first times and dissect what the big deal really is, and why the concept of virginity was so important back in the day.

We’ve talked about why people like to surrender control in the bedroom, or kitchen, or car, or office, or hotel room. But what makes a woman who likes to stay in control and drive her submissives wild tick? Mistress Vivienne Hawthorn joins Alex and Ellie to talk about what it’s like to live as a domme 24/7/365, and how it inspires her to write and create unique experiences that would make pretty much anyone kneel and say “yes mistress.”

For some people, deciding to “bare it all” in front of an audience is less of an intimidating experience, but more of an exciting one. An experience that makes their heart race, brings a smile to their faces, and sends their senses into overdrive. Those people are exhibitionists, and they’re all about showing off and feedback from eager voyeurs anxiously waiting for their latest post or livestream. So, this week, we’re going to talk about a kink that’s all about being social, self-esteem, and self-improvement.

If you’re wondering why online dating has become such a miserable experience, we have an answer for you. Or, at least, a big part of one. Thanks to social media algorithms, men at the lowest and most frustrated are being bombarded with terrible advice and scams promising to teach them how to fix their mental health and thrive. Unfortunately for them and the women they go on to try and date, the reality is that the advice is almost always a scam that fills them with rage and paranoia while draining their wallets.

Vida and Anthula from the Sex Symbol Podcast drop by to talk about watersports, the ins and outs of dealing with urine and bodily fluids, how to always be prepared for playtime, no matter how wet, messy, or wild things get, and how to manage the domination, submission, kink, humiliation, and laundry schedules involved.

After having already dipped our toes in the world of breeding kinks, we’re taking it up a notch. From worshipping the pregnant body, to lactation fetishes, what happens when you make pregnancy and fertility the main focus? Plus, we broach the topic of falling birth rates and the dark side of modern natalism, and Ellie gets her revenge after the praise kink episode.

Despite what many a loudmouth pundit would have you believe, sexuality can be complicated. It can flow and change over time for reasons we don’t entirely understand. More often than you’d think, it doesn’t work exactly as you’re told it should, and the research into why is often incomplete. So, how do you figure out who you are and what’s next? Erotic writer and blogger Miss Pearl joins Alex and Ellie for a primer on exploring your inner self.

You know something is a trend when legacy media outlets start writing a swarm of articles about it, and the Great Pornification has officially reached this distinction. Influencers, creatives, and even some brands are now finding out that thanks to late stage capitalism and runaway algorithms, sex is the last thing left to sell without being buried by bots, knock-offs, and household names. And all that comes with a whole host of side-effects that need to be examined very carefully.

Gather round good boys, good girls, and good pets, we’ve got an episode all about you, how great you are, and how your partners can really appreciate you in and out of the bedroom. That’s right, we’re exploring the ins and outs of praise kinks, how not to lay it on too thick but still make your partner blush, and how to make your playtime just a little bit more wholesome and verbally affectionate.

Usually when we think of sleep, we think of rest, dreams, and comfort. But there’s a lot more to it than that, and a surprising amount of it involves sex. Alex and Ellie take you through the biology of sleep, explore the unusual conditions that make you turn your hottest dreams into reality while you’re still asleep, and dive into the ethically complicated world of those who love to mix sleep and playtime.