Sexsomnia: When Your Body Has Sex While You're Asleep - Tom meets Lacey a living breathing Sexomniac.

What happens when your body becomes sexual while your mind is completely asleep?

In this fascinating and deeply personal episode of Talking Kinky, Tom sits down with Lacey, who lives with sexsomnia, a little-known sleep disorder that can cause people to engage in sexual behaviours while asleep, with little or no memory of the events afterwards.

Lacey shares her journey of discovering she had sexsomnia, the impact it has had on her relationships, the confusion and embarrassment that often accompanies the condition, and how she learned to navigate intimacy while living with a disorder that many people have never even heard of.

Together, Tom and Lacey explore:

• What sexsomnia actually is
• How it differs from sleepwalking and other parasomnias
• The challenges it creates in relationships
• Consent, communication, and safety considerations
• Common triggers and treatment options
• The emotional impact of living with a misunderstood condition

• The surprising science behind sleeping and sexual behaviour

This episode shines a light on a condition that sits at the intersection of sleep, sexuality, psychology, and human relationships. Whether you're hearing about sexsomnia for the first time or have personal experience with it, this conversation is eye-opening, educational, and surprisingly relatable.

As always, Talking Kinky approaches the topic with curiosity, humour, compassion, and a commitment to helping people better understand the wonderfully complex world of human sexuality.

Because sometimes the most surprising things happen when we're fast asleep. Lacey can be found here on Instagram

In this episode of Talking Kinky, Tom steps into the provocative world of the Mozambican professional dominatrix, Mistress Martina, for a raw and revealing conversation why her male clients love pain, humiliation, and domination. (Tom gets a provocative offer at the end of the episode, the question is will he take it?)

Together Tom and Martina explore the psychology, pleasure, and power dynamics behind BDSM, uncovering how trust, consent, and control shape some of the most intense fetish experiences. From dungeon realities to emotional transformation, this episode delivers an unfiltered look into the art of professional domination. It’s a cracker !

What really happens behind the velvet curtains of London’s high-society sex club scene?

With Isabelle out of commission for a while due to other commitments, Tom is going to be interviewing some special guests.

So, in this episode of Talking Kinky, Tom sits down with Jasmine to lift the lid on a world of elegance, secrecy, flirtation, and carefully negotiated desire. From cocktails and conversation to the rules of consent, safety, and discretion, Jasmine shares what it’s actually like to step into these exclusive spaces where sophistication and sexuality meet. Tom may even have a new wingwoman... if he ever frequents a sex club!

Expect curiosity, candour, a few laughs, and a rare glimpse into one of the most intriguing corners of kink culture.

Sleep Tight… or Do You? | Exploring Somnophilia

In this week’s episode of Talking Kinky, Tom and Isabelle explore one of the more controversial and often misunderstood kinks: Somnophilia, the fantasy of intimacy with a sleeping partner.

Handled with their signature blend of humour, curiosity, and honesty, the duo unpack what’s really going on beneath the surface of this taboo subject. Is it about vulnerability? Trust? Control? Or something deeper rooted in human desire and psychology?

As always, this isn’t about shock value, it’s about understanding.

Together, they explore:

• The psychological drivers behind somnophilia fantasies

• The crucial role of explicit consent and boundaries

• How fantasy differs from real-world dynamics

• Why taboo desires don’t automatically make someone “wrong”

• And how couples can safely communicate about sensitive kinks

Expect laughter, surprising insights, and a refreshingly open conversation that challenges assumptions while keeping things grounded and respectful. Tune in and join Tom and Isabelle as they shine a light on another corner of human desire, no judgement, just curiosity.

'Men Only': The Art of Desire

In this men-only episode, Tom explores the often-misunderstood truth about female desire: great sex doesn’t begin in the bedroom, it begins in the moments that come before it.

Introducing the concept of Core Play, Tom unpacks how everyday attention, emotional presence, and genuine connection throughout the day build arousal, trust, and intimacy with female partners. From small acts of care and meaningful communication to understanding the biological and psychological rhythms of desire, this episode re-frames intimacy as something cultivated, not requested at 10pm!

Blending humour, straight-talk, and practical insight, The Art of Desire offers men a powerful shift in perspective: invest in connection, and desire follows. Whether you’re in a long-term relationship, marriage, or navigating modern partnerships, this episode reveals how showing up differently can transform your sex life and deepen your relationship in the process.

Creampie & Breeding Kink - In this playful and provocative episode, Tom and Isabelle dive into one of the most searched and widely fantasised kinks: the breeding and creampie fetish. But beyond the shock value and taboo appeal lies a deeper psychological cocktail of intimacy, surrender, risk, and primal connection.

With their signature humour and curiosity, the duo unpack why the idea of “breeding” can feel intensely erotic for some, how it connects to trust, power dynamics, and evolutionary wiring, and why fantasy often plays a bigger role than reality. They explore the emotional layers, relationship dynamics, and communication required when partners want to experiment safely and consensually.

Expect laughter, candid honesty, and a thoughtful look at the difference between fantasy and practice, plus guidance on navigating conversations, boundaries, contraception, and consent.

Whether you’re curious, intrigued, or simply here for the ride, Breed Me Baby One More Time blends insight, irreverence, and real-world wisdom in the way only Talking Kinky can.

Aftercare whether its freaky or not, isn’t just a nice-to-have, it’s the glue that holds great kink, connection, and even vanilla sex together. In this laugh-out-loud episode of Talking Kinky, Tom and Isabelle dive head-first (and maybe a little too honestly) into the wonderfully messy world of aftercare.

From cuddles and check-ins to snacks, space, reassurance, and the unexpected ways people need care after intimacy, this episode explores why aftercare looks wildly different for everyone and why getting it wrong can feel just as intense as getting it right.

Along the way, Tom and Isabelle overshare (naturally), unpack real-life experiences, and highlight how emotional drop, sub-drop, and vulnerability can show up long after the fun is over. It’s educational, reassuring, and then… slightly unhinged by the end, with a finale that will definitely have you laughing out loud.

Whether you’re deeply kinky, kink-curious, or just wondering why you sometimes feel weird after great sex, this episode is essential listening.

Insightful. Honest. Freaky. And very, very funny.

Listener discretion advised… mostly because of the oversharing.

In this deliciously provocative episode of Talking Kinky, co-hosts Tom and Isabelle dive head-first into the irresistible pull of taboo.

Why does the 'forbidden' feel so good… and yet so wrong at the same time? From sneaky turn-ons and guilty pleasures to cultural conditioning, shame, thrill-seeking, and desire, Tom and Isabelle unpack the psychology and chemistry behind taboo fantasies and behaviours. Expect a healthy, playful debate that explores where taboo comes from, how it shows up in our sex lives, and when it can be liberating—or limiting.

This episode is thoughtful, sexy, and occasionally confrontational (in the best way), as our hosts challenge assumptions, laugh at themselves, and invite listeners to reflect on their own edges of desire. Whether you’re kink-curious, deeply experienced, or just fascinated by why “naughty” holds so much power, this one will get you thinking and feeling.

Listener discretion advised… curiosity encouraged.

What happens when one of you is curious, kinky, or adventurous… and the other really isn’t? Or when your kinks don’t quite line up the way you hoped they would?

In this episode, Tom and Isabelle dive into the very real issue of kink compatibility, from couples who discover mismatches early on, to long-term partners whose desires evolve over time. They explore what it actually means to be “kink-matched,” whether total alignment is realistic, and how couples can navigate differences without shame, pressure, or resentment.

Together, they unpack common scenarios:
• One partner kinky, the other more vanilla
• Curious vs cautious dynamics
• Mismatched fantasies, limits, or experience levels
• Fear of rejection, guilt, or “asking for too much”
• When compromise feels healthy and when it doesn’t

With personal stories, humour, and practical communication tools, Tom and Isabelle discuss how to talk about desire safely, how to negotiate boundaries with care, and how to decide whether a mismatch is something to work through or a sign to reassess the relationship.

Whether you’re navigating new conversations, stuck in sexual stalemate, or simply wondering “Is this normal?”, this episode offers reassurance, perspective, and a reminder that there’s no one right way to want, or to love.

In this episode of Talking Kinky, Tom and Isabelle dive head-first into one of the most talked-about (and misunderstood) sexual fantasies: the threesome. From curious first conversations to real-world experiences, they unpack why threesomes are so appealing, what people think will happen… and what often actually does.

They explore the different dynamics of MMF, FMF, and same-sex threesomes, the emotional undercurrents that can surface, and why communication, boundaries, and aftercare matter far more than most people realise. Is jealousy inevitable? Can a threesome strengthen a relationship, or expose cracks that were already there?

This is a laugh out loud episode as our hosts navigate the topic with their trademark mix of humour, honesty, and grounded insight. Tom and Isabelle talk through expectations vs reality, common mistakes, power imbalances, and how to decide whether a threesome is genuinely right for you , not just hot in theory.

Whether threesomes are a firm yes, a cautious maybe, or a definite no, this episode offers a refreshingly real, shame-free look at what it actually means when two people consider adding a third.

Curious, cautious, or already experienced, this one’s for you.