Talking Smack

Lexi gets a 16-swat paddling live on the air! Nameless makes a sushi metaphor, because of course he does. If BDSM parties are a buffet, spanking parties are a fancy omakase. Lexi explains that people at BDSM parties in Austin might not actually know what they're doing, at least relative to people in bigger cities who have had real mentorship. And why do dudes show up to BDSM parties looking like they're about to clean the server racks? Put in some goddamn effort, man! Evy likes the spanking -shirts (and Hawaiian shirts!), and Lexi identifies a business opportunity for designing spanking shirts. Has the Austin kink scene found its voice yet? Lexi just wants to get spanked, she doesn't want to make friends. Nameless is fucking old and remembers when the Internet wasn't a thing. If your profile is just a dic pic (with a remote control for  scale), Evy will swipe way, way left. Nameless has a Vibram toe shoe vendetta.

How do spankos meet each other? And why is it so hard to come out as a spanko, either to your family or your co-workers? We talk about the overlap between open relationships, poly, and the spanking scenes. What exactly do you call a relationship where you aren't really *dating* other people, but you are playing with multiple play partners?  We also talk about how some people in the scene aren't necessarily spankos, and generally get into a lot of topics that maybe we shouldn't.

Spanking is funny. Or is it? Lexi, Evy, Nameless, and special guest Kam discuss the inherent light-heartedness of the spanking scene -- especially compared to the broader BDSM scene -- and how it interplays with serious discipline. Is the light-heartedness really a defense against being mistaken for abuse? Or is it that the media portrays spanking as a punchline, rather than a sexuality to be taken seriously? All this, plus some insight into how your hosts came into the scene and the things they have to do to protect themselves from creeps online.

Social dynamics at spanking parties can be fraught, especially for newcomers, and even more so for shy or awkward people. And let's be honest, the spanking scene has plenty of both. Lexi, Evy, and Nameless discuss their experiences at the 2021 Lone Star Spanking Party, some uncomfortable truths the de-facto caste system that arises at kink parties, and how to manage or avoid those difficult dynamics. Also, some philosophizing about top and bottom psychology, whether spankos tend to be nerds, and... Shrek-themed spankings?