James Barr wakes the country up on Hits Radio every weekday. He has also performed a comedy show about his own abusive relationship more than 130 times. And once, in a bathroom in Montreal, something made him walk straight back out.
In this episode of Talking to the Living, Stuart Michael sits down with James Barr to find out how a comedian known for quick jokes ended up writing an hour about the years he spent with someone violent. They cover the panic attack that made him say the word abuse out loud and the sentence his ex said that proved the violence was a choice. He also explains why he thinks the queer community stays quiet about the harm it does to itself. Then Stuart reads for him, and tells him he may have a gift of his own.
CHAPTERS
(00:00:00) Cold open: a bathroom in Montreal and the lights that would not stop flickering
(00:02:13) Straight off the plane from Australia, and the worst question ever asked in the sea
(00:05:33) Why write a comedy show about domestic abuse, and why sensitivity keeps us silent
(00:09:08) Everyone told him not to do it, including an AI
(00:10:24) Giving the shame back, and the moment he decided to write it
(00:13:08) "I've performed it over 130 times now around the world, and that healed me"
(00:15:18) "I thought I'd get gay bashed in the street, not in my own house by another gay person"
(00:20:14) The panic attack at a Botox appointment, and the stranger who changed everything
(00:22:13) "Oh, I haven't been violent for a while"
(00:24:57) His favourite joke, and the two people at brunch
(00:27:12) Why the queer community stays quiet about the harm it does to itself
(00:38:18) James's own gift, and the night his friends ran out of a restaurant
(00:40:19) How Stuart switches it off, and what the zip actually means
(00:44:53) The Pride deck reading: someone is already in your perimeter
(00:54:10) "I believe that there may well be a mediumship ability with you too"
(00:59:59) The wasp in the duvet, and what a five year recurring dream was saying
(01:01:37) Croydon, Eastbourne and knowing at eight
(01:03:40) "My mum said it was like her son had died and she had a new one"
(01:04:24) "I'm definitely editing something out there"
(01:09:01) "It's always the ugly people that are mean to you"
(01:16:26) Deflection, burnout and the sadness he hasn't reached yet
(01:20:52) The UK tour, Cardiff and a new Edinburgh show
GUEST
James Barr, Comedian and Radio Presenter
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