TalkwithMiMaH

I said, “I don’t know where this is going,” and this episode really said, “Hold my cup.” 😭😂

This episode is a recent reminder of why I love conversations so much. It challenged me in ways I didn’t expect, and honestly, I don’t even know how we got there.Some of the things BarnaBas said were truths that hit a little too close to home, truths I wasn’t necessarily ready to hear. And , I let the all conversation, my reactions, and even my defensiveness make it into the final cut.Because, above all else, this podcast is about impact. It’s about reminding people that none of us really has it all figured out, regardless of how it might look from the outside.

WDWBA is one of the most authentic and raw conversations I’ve had on this pod, and I genuinely hope you listen to it and feel some of what I felt. I hope you hear the things that were said, but also pick up on the unspoken, the implied, and everything in between.

The wisdom isn’t in this description. It’s in the conversation itself. And honestly, my writing can’t do justice to everything I felt during and after this recording.

I just hope you listen. 🤎🎙️

We’re often taught that the path is simple: go to school, get good grades, graduate, and figure out the rest along the way.But what happens when you actually graduate and realise that the world waiting for you doesn’t quite work the way you were prepared for?

In this episode, we sit down with Jessica Ohaka to talk about her journey from getting involved in NGO work at just 16 to building R-WEF—and the experiences that made her realise there were bigger problems worth solving.We talk about the realities behind building something from the ground up: the exciting moments, the pressure, the difficult days, and what it meant to see the first cohort of R-WEF through to graduation.But beyond Jessica’s story, this conversation opens up a much bigger discussion about young Nigerians and the transition from education into adulthood.

Are the systems we’ve been taught to follow still serving us? What happens when the traditional definitions of success no longer reflect the realities young people are facing? And what do we actually need to thrive after the classroomFrom purpose and pressure to outdated systems and the realities of becoming an adult in Nigeria, this episode is a conversation about what happens after the grades stop counting.Because education may prepare you to pass the test.But life asks a very different set of questions

There’s is a whole world of growth that happens beyond the grades..

“How’s your New Year’s resolution going!?”

That was the thought in my head when I started the thought process for this episode. Questions like, “What did you do with your year?”, “What have you done with your life?” and the likes of it.During the course of the conversation, I realized that asking questions like this is what has made us all measure our value, our worth and whatnot by what we can do, our LinkedIn profiles and our connections.

This conversation taught me that we could be better and be kinder to ourselves regardless of what we’re currently doing. What’s most important is that we are constantly trying to be better every day.Also, like Fattah said, as creatives, we need to learn to fall in love with what we do so the world doesn’t take away the joy in it. We also need to learn to create with the knowledge that not everyone is viewing from our lens.

I hope you listen to this episode and get all of the things we were trying to say.

Remember, I’m the Tomato Adult. I dropped out of this journey of “adulting” already, but who says I still can’t drop my two cents? 😌

Money can rob you of the opportunity to be a great friend, but it doesn’t have to rob you of the ability to be a good one.We’ve always tied showing up and being present to grand gestures and monetary value, but sometimes we forget how heavy the little things can feel when they’re done at the right time.

In regular TalkWithMiMaH style, we diversified and talked about a whole bunch of other things, but just like Gibbi said in the episode, knowing yourself and being an independent thinker is a step in the right direction to being a good friend, partner, sibling, son or daughter.We’ve got to learn these things for ourselves. Learn to separate our experiences and relationship dynamics from what we see online. That way, we make the load of being a good friend—and all the other roles we carry—a little lighter.

All I’m saying, in essence, is that I hope you listen to this episode and understand exactly what we were trying to say. And if you’re already good in one of the aspects we talked about, it doesn’t hurt to be better in another.

Regardless, listen and share! ❤️

Behind the humor and all the branched conversations, I hope you truly listen to this episode and hear the message Annie and I were trying to pass across. I hope this conversation reminds you to extend grace to people, to choose empathy, and to learn to be a person again. I also hope it encourages you not to take advantage of the grace people extend to you.

Empathy, grace, and compromise are essential parts of every relationship,including family. We need to learn to give them freely, but also to respect them when they’re given to us.

I genuinely hope you leave this episode with a different perspective on the people around you and the relationships you hold dear.

We’d love to hear from you: How far do you think an extension of grace should go? Where do you draw the line?

This conversation is one that hits close to home because I’ve lost a parent. I know the struggles. I know the grief. Having Bolaji on this episode was an intentional decision. We’ve both lost parents, but from different sides of the family and at different ages. That allowed us to have a conversation about our grieve,how it shaped us, the aftermath of the loss, and the role our surviving parents played in helping us navigate life afterward.

I’m so grateful for this episode, which is why this description can’t do it justice.

I just hope someone is able to listen to this and know that they’ve got a community and, of course, as the name implies, a sibling. ❤️

A girl in progress isn’t just about reflection or measuring how far I’ve come. It’s about wanting people to learn - actually, scratch that ,I don’t have anything to teach. It’s simply about hoping people can pick what they can from a clueless girl’s journey.

This episode made me realize how far I’ve come and how much I’ve been carried by people along the way. So maybe it’s also about gratitude… and an apology to myself for falling off my deep belief in me.

This episode is for me as much as it is for everyone who listens. I just hope I’m able to impact, serve as a lesson, or even a cautionary tale. More than anything, I hope you get something from it.

In this episode, we used the phrase "I feel like" frequently, not because we were uncertain about our points, but because the topics we discussed resonate with so many people. Annie and I wanted our listeners to know that, no matter what challenges you face;whether it's milestones, new beginnings, or feelings like imposter syndrome or birthday blues,you are not alone.

There may not be definitive solutions or answers in this episode, but there is a sense of community, encouragement, and camaraderie. We hope that everyone listening can truly connect with what we're saying and feel the support, even amidst our yapping .Hang in there!

We’re starting the year by getting ahead of our games to stay financially stable all year. We brought in the money men and launched the most insightful conversations about risk management and rewards gained.

After this episode, pick a side and stick to it—whether you’re choosing sporty or forex. You’ll learn a few tips to further encourage your decision; just ensure that your choice isn’t going to send you back to the village.

And Heyy you’re welcome 🤭