Have you ever given a 4 a chance and they started acting like a 10? Or found yourself gushing over a funny guy who definitely isn’t your type but the vibe is amazing? 

It’s 2022 and social media and dating shows have weighed us down with unrealistic expectations of the perfect partner but every coffee has its cream and sometimes we find people we just genuinely like. 

Annnnnd if none of that works out, you can go on a dating show and get married so… YOLO? But could you hold it down if they don’t look like you imagined or if they had a disability? What about if they looked dreamy but you’ve met a makeup wipe with more personality? 

This week we talk about our experiences being blinded by love and discuss the results of our polls about if you guys would ever be on a dating show.

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Was era 2006 Justin Timberlake right when he said "What goes around comes back around?" Lol, kinda hope not. I mean who really lives a guilt free life? But whether it be karma, reincarnation or religion keeping you grounded, most of us have the moral compass to do well by others.

Speaking about doing well, Jaelle is back in Barbados and our fingers, toes and maybe even eyes are crossed that she will get that call saying that she is in  remission. This week gets a bit deep and a few tears are shed as we reflect on how far we've come as a trio and if we have someone on the other side looking out for us.

**we apologise for any technical difficulties we are adjusting to the remote podcast set up**

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Long fingernails and wet kisses might not be red flags but they sure as hell ain’t green! So what do you call that middle ground that just can’t sit right with your soul? That’s right, baby, we are talking about icks! Ever thought you’d only break up over “real issues” but find yourself pissed off whenever he chews? You got yourself an ick, but can these innocent annoyances turn to something toxic? What happens when these fun little flags turn crimson? Everyone has their own level that shows when it’s time to dip but some of us are more tolerant than others. All in all there is a fine line between ick and hate. Let’s talk about it!

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Welcome to part 2 of our podcast with the @shootersshootp podcast

 Every week you hear us ladies rant but it’s time to take the men to therapy! Can the church give us an amen? I mean as women how can we ever understand tactful wanking, skillfully based on the hope of taking someone home? Bet you’ve never considered that Wednesday is too close to Friday night. Or what they’re really looking for when they’re on page 24 of pornhub? Maybe we all just want something we won’t regret with that post-cum clarity. But they say men are from Mars and women are from Venus, right? So hop in the space ship with us this episode and explore what really goes on in a man’s head. 

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Dirty little secrets, we’ve all got them. Are they hidden away or are you letting your freak flag fly?

These days things have changed so drastically in the dating world. Your new boo could be a swipe away, getting ghosted isn’t paranormal activity and the talking stage is way different to dating which still isn’t a relationship. How is it our parents were settled with kids by 25?

This week we’ll be airing out all our laundry as well as talking about the dangers of the modern dating world; date rape, blackmailing nudes and stalkers. It really is hard out here to know who you’re getting into bed with. I mean what would you do if your partner asked you to take a dump on them?

Every year we say new year, new me, but let’s be honest do you really get past January 15? Or is it just new year same shit.

New workout routines, New diet, new hairstyles we do it all but changes can be made at any time, not just January 1st. Come with us as we vow to leave our shit in 2021 and manifest all the good chi. 2022 you better watch out!

‘‘Twas the night before Blackmas and all the house, all the gifts were by black businesses, even the sprouts..."

Lol sorry that’s all that rhymed. 

In this crazy world where love don’t cost a thing, Christmas sure can take a toll on our bank accounts, right? Do you mind the slightly higher price tags on black owned businesses? Do you feel extra pressure to impress when dating outside your race? Or is Christmas shopping just a tactic forced on us by capitalism? Things to think about.. Maybe all your family do want for Christmas is you.

Join us as we discuss what the holidays mean for us, for black love and budding black families.

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How guilty are you really? This is a safe space, we won’t judge you babes. Whether it be smoking in the bath, pulling hairs out your butt or eating tubs of Nutella we promise you someone somewhere in the world loves that shit too. This week we spill the weird guilty pleasures we have that lead us to be our truest selves and really find our tribes that suit our vibes.