Tea in the Garden

In Part 2 of our ADHD productivity series, we explore why the ADHD brain runs on interest instead of importance, and how to tap into the four fuels that get you started: novelty, challenge, urgency, and passion. We break down how to build a Dopamine Menu, how body doubling can help you start the tasks you've been dreading, and how to name the bricks in your Wall of Awful so a five-minute task stops feeling impossible.

We also cover making time and tasks visible with analog clocks and visual timers, manufacturing low-stakes urgency with "beat the kettle" challenges and song sprints, and planning your week by energy, spoons, menstrual cycles, and moon phases instead of hours. Finally, we share two lists that can change your day: the Done List, which proves you did things, and the Parking Lot, which catches the ideas that would otherwise hijack your focus.

Come for the practical ADHD hacks, stay for the witchy twists. Pour a cup of tea and settle in.

Somewhere along the way, most of us learned to build our lives around men without ever deciding to. This episode is about why that happens and how to unlearn it.

We get into the roots of patriarchy, and how male approval got tied to survival itself. Then we name the ways male centering actually shows up, the loud ones and the sneaky ones, from career choices to how you get ready when you know he'll be there. We talk pick me culture, why it's a trauma adaptation instead of a character flaw, and what it really costs us. And we get honest about the damage: the self-abandonment, the dulled intuition, the identity that collapses the second the relationship does.

Then we turn toward the way back. How to decenter men, the practices that put you at your own center instead, and why matriarchy is the way forward.

In this episode, we pick up where the trauma bonding series left off and answer the question listeners keep asking: how do you actually rebuild self-trust after narcissistic abuse?

We talk about why the self-trust break happens first, how to reconnect with your body's "no" before the story catches up, and how to re-learn discernment with others without armoring up completely.

This one's about coming back home to yourself — your preferences, your pleasure, your identity — and choosing safety as your new normal instead of adrenaline.

Pour your tea. Let's get into it.

In this episode, we're naming what so many of us spent years trying to explain away. We walk through the 7 stages of trauma bonding and the 7 signs that what felt like love was actually control. If you've ever lost yourself in someone and called it love, this one is for you. Take care of yourself with this one, this is a safe space, and we'll always be here when you're ready.

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We are not saying all autistic people are queer. We are not saying all neurodivergents are sexually explorative. We ARE saying the overlap is statistically suspicious and spiritually significant.

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Citations:

• Warrier et al. (2020) — Nature Communications. Large-scale study (n=641,860) on overlap between autistic traits and gender diversity.

• Van der Miesen et al. (2018) — Elevated rates of autism in gender identity clinic patients, and vice versa.

• George & Stokes (2018) — Archives of Sexual Behavior. Autistic adults significantly more likely to identify as non-heterosexual.

• Barnett & Maticka-Tyndale (2015) — Qualitative research on autistic sexual identity and community belonging.

• Cascalheira et al. (2021) — Psychological benefits of BDSM including stress reduction and altered states.

• Connolly (2006) — Journal of Psychology & Human Sexuality. BDSM practitioners show lower psychological distress than general population.

• Williams & Prior (2015) — Explicit negotiation and consent culture in BDSM communities.

• Turner (2016) — Qualitative interviews describing kink as nervous system regulation and healing.

• Mahler (2019) — Interoception research; internal body sense in autistic people.

• Marco et al. (2011) — Sensory hyper- and hypo-reactivity in autism, including sensory seeking.

• Green et al. (2019) — How sensory profiles shape sexual preferences in autistic adults.

• Ducheny et al. (2018) — Found family structures in LGBTQ+ communities.

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In the beginning of spiritual awakening, you change how you dress, how you eat, how you speak, what words you use, what words you won’t use. You stop drinking, stop swearing, stop wearing black, start saying “aligned” every six minutes, and suddenly your entire personality is “I no longer resonate.”

And then, years later, if the path is real, you end up in a kitchen at 7:14 a.m. with a coffee and some tobacco realizing this might be closer to God than half the "conscious community".

Come learn the radical truth about Yeshua/Issa and how badly Churchianity got it wrong. In this episode we talk about Jesus's real words and teachings, who Mary Magdalene really was, and what Jesus would think about Christianity today.

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In our first episode of Season 2, we are deep diving into something never talked about: the shadow side of empaths. Under the guise of sensitivity, empaths often have a savior complex that rears its head. Let's talk about why consent and honoring soul expression is so essential as healers, and how to get out of the way of our own egos.

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Neurodivergents are what we used to call Psychics, "the witch on the hill", the village seer. Here's our 5 evidences:

1. Sensory issues = energetic sensitivity = psychic “extra sensory” sensing
2. High pattern intelligence = precognition
3. Hyper connected brain = more holistic thinking = natural healer philosophy 
4. High empathy = natural healers and humanitarians
5. Feel different = here to bring different things = new paradigms.

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