You can’t fix other people. People need to fix themselves. In reality, that phrasing is off. There is no “fixing,” what it’s really about is growth. As a coach, as a leader, as a parent, there is one thing you need to know:

You can’t force other people to grow.

Instead as a leader, your role is to model behaviour, to help them see possibilities, and to take that first step.

As a coach, I get to help people create a growth plan that suits them. It’s not about my 10-step plan, it’s about listening to my clients, and nurturing that spark in them that wants to change and grow. The point at which they’re ready to take action is when the magic begins.

Whether you're ready to take that step, or are feeling stuck and uncertain, having someone listen to you can help spark your own desire for change. Take advantage of an offer for one-hour of free coaching with Ashlee (as available).

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Fareen “Far” Samji is a 5-time Canadian Women’s Long Drive Champion, and former golf touring professional. After leaving her professional golf career behind, she began to focus on using golf to mentor professional women to increase their confidence on the links, and in life. She wrote a book called “Smashing the Grass Ceiling,” a golfing guide that teaches you how to use golf to develop meaningful relationships in the workplace.

Far believes you don’t have to come to golf with natural skill. Learning the game simply takes time and confidence. And you don’t have to be perfect to play. It’s more about how you present yourself on the links and with your group than whether you can drive a long ball down the fairway.

Whether you shy away from because of lack of time, performance anxiety, or you don’t know the rules, Far stresses that it’s important you know how to leverage golf as a social and business networking tool. Spending time on the course is a smart way to invest focused, uninterrupted time with the people who can make a difference in your career. She runs a Smashing Nines program to help women develop golf basics in a safe and supportive environment.

You can find out more about the Smashing Nines program, order Far’s book, or learn more about mentoring teens through golf at Far’s website farsamji.com.

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Have you ever witnessed someone honking their horn angrily in traffic? Seen someone who takes to social media in rage to complain about poor customer service or a sports parent yelling angrily at an umpire for a small offense? They are showing signs of poor emotional intelligence.

This is me sometimes. You may see yourself in this as well. It happens, we are human. Too often we’re living in the “red” and “orange” zones where we are prone to stress and anger. But if you work at your skills of emotional intelligence, if you truly practice at it with an intent to get better, you CAN improve your EI. You can slip more easily into a zone of calm and creativity – the green zone where you feel safe, you learn, and grow.

Take a deep breath, find your safe space, and listen in and learn some practical tips on developing your emotional intelligence.

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Kimberly Roy describes herself as a recovering perfectionist. In her self-development journey, she has been working on how her perfectionism correlates to her self-confidence. She works on her mindset every day, reminding herself that it doesn’t have to be all or nothing, and that opening yourself up to “good” helps you become unstuck and move forward.

With a lot of work, Kimberly has learned to focus on her energy levels, and cycles of feeling good and anxious, allowing herself to take advantage of times of energy, and give herself a break when she’s feeling low.

In this intimate conversation with Ashlee, Kimberly reveals how perfectionism blinded her to joy, and how letting go has allowed her to love herself with grace and compassion. Through her self-development, she feels a renewed sense of joy and accomplishment, and has more space to deeply love others in her life.

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In this age of same-day delivery, texting, social media likes, and binge-watching, we have gratification delivered up daily on a platter. We’re used to it. We expect it.

It’s easy to fall into the trap of getting disappointed that you haven’t already reached the finish line. It’s easy to get stuck on the reward of the big goal and want that instant gratification. But big things take time. The finish line is always moving.

Learn more about the joy – and value – of celebrating wins. And get inspired to make celebrating wins your new habit.

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Before COVID, Renee France Boudreau was a salon owner in Burlington Ontario. When COVID hit, Renee pivoted with her team as much as possible and survived the series of lock downs. During this time Renee found clarity in her business – feeling into what was bringing her joy and felt aligned and what didn’t. After a long journey, Renee and her husband completely upended their lives, quitting their jobs, selling her business and moving the family to Nova Scotia. The move, and the change in life was not easy, or comfortable. But more than a year later, Renee reflects on the energy the change sparked within her, and how her life has changed in many positive ways.

In this episode, Renee and Ashlee talk about how confidence is created when you give yourself capacity to grow, and how focusing on yourself helps you better serve others. It takes enormous bravery to make change in your life. And in the end, Renee reflects that bravery is a habit that you can practice and hone.

Listen in and find the courage to make change in your own life.

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Most of us have participated in work training of some sort. Learning new software, attending conferences, learning new processes. This is generally considered “professional development,” and most companies invest money in keeping employee skills up to snuff.

Personal development is working on yourself. And while we may prioritize professional development to get ahead at work, or please our bosses, we often set personal development aside because we don’t have time, or we’re too busy.

I have focused a lot on personal development, and I’ll tell you one thing I’m completely sure about: I have gained more from my investment in personal development than in any skills training. It has helped me get unstuck and move forward, uncover my blind spots, learn to work in a new way, and become a better leader.

Retraining your brain IS possible, and you will find the effort brings you more ease and harmony in your work.

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Gone are the days of “do what I say not what I do”.  

As a leader, you may want to move up the corporate ladder, coach your team through a challenge, find more ease at work…or even be a more engaged leader at home.

But none of this is possible without self-leadership. Before you can truly pick up your team or coach them through a challenge you need to know how to pick yourself up, show yourself compassion, love, and trust.

When you show up authentically and BE the leader you want to be, your team will take note, and follow your lead. That’s what it means to be a leader, right? It’s not impossible – it just takes work. Put the tools in place to be the leader you want to be.

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When you’re training for a marathon, you don’t just listen to podcasts on how to train – you show up to do the work to strengthen your body, and build the muscles you need to run the race.

When we’re trying to be better leaders, to make positive change in our behaviour, we often fall back on passive activities like listening to podcasts or reading leadership books. And hey, we’re certainly not telling you NOT to do these things. They do help.

But we need to actually do the work as well. We may hire a personal trainer to improve our body. Why not invest in coaching / training for the mind and spirit? To train and build our mental muscles?

Erin Baute is an enneagram expert and behaviorist who has worked in leadership development and behaviour change for the past 20 years. She uses the enneagram tool to help her clients fast forward their self-awareness and guide their efforts to make positive change in their lives.

Want to learn more about what an enneagram is and how it can help? Listen in to the podcast, and check out Erin’s free digital typing guide to learn more:

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We talk a lot on this podcast about building loyalty. But what happens when you are a loyal employee who is let go? This happened to Robin Merle, who was fired from her company after more than 10 years of employment.

Working through her period of “disorientation,” Robin learned a lot about herself and connected with many others on the same journey. Grieving the loss of a job is not a linear journey, and it’s okay not to be okay. Ultimately, she learned to see the experience for what it was: an opportunity for change and growth. She now mentors others through the same journey.

Robin sees that there is strength in both loyalty and a “caring indifference” to work. She feels there can be “too much loyalty,” so she guides others to build a strong sense of self both inside and outside the workplace, making it easier to adapt to change and move on.

Robin Merle, CFRE has been a senior executive for billion-dollar nonprofit organizations and a veteran of the power, value, and identity wars at the top ranks. She is the author of Involuntary Exit, A Woman’s Guide to Thriving After Being Fired (She Writes Press) which received the 2021 Gold Medal Award from the Non-Fiction Authors Association and a 5-star review from Foreward.

Get your copy of Robin’s book on Amazon or via her website:

https://theprofessionalguide.com

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