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In today's episode, we talk with Pastor John Cherne, who is over young adults at Grace (18-35 year olds).  We talk about students going to both Christian university and secular university, and the unique challenges to each, as well as opportunities that parents and students can take even now before students leave.

We hope this episode has some great insights and reminders for you as parents even if you don't have a senior yet!  

Resources:
Surviving Religion 101, Michael Kruger

For the upcoming summer calendar (filled with lots of opportunities!) for graduating seniors, please e-mail John at [email protected] 

In this episode, we interview Dan and Ben Learned, asking them to reflect on Ben's teen years and lessons learned both by Ben and by Dan.  This is a great reflection and encouragement to parents who need some empathy as they work through the "growing pains" of raising teens.  We hope you enjoy!

www.gracepres.org/student

If you haven't read this book yet, you need to!

We catch up with Aaron Walters, our new Pastor of Middle Adults (35-50), as he reflects on student ministry, wins for parents, and insights into ministry.  This is a good listen for all parents as they get to know Aaron and his heart for the Lord and for others!

In this episode, we're talking with Brenda Garrison, our Director of Women's Ministry at Grace.  Brenda is the mom of three adult daughters and is a speaker and author too.  The focus in our conversation is how to love our kids when they rebel.  Brenda has not just studied this but has experienced it first-hand.  We hope this episode encourages you as you may navigate tough seasons with your kids.  Don't forget to check out the resources below!

RESOURCES:
Check out Brenda's "Love No Matter What" book HERE

E-mail Brenda:  [email protected]

Grace Women's Ministry:  https://www.gracepres.org/women

Parenting: 14 Gospel Principles That Can Radically Change Your Family, by Paul Tripp

According to the National Center for Education Statistics, for the 1970-71 academic year, the average in-state tuition and fees for one year at a public non-profit university was $394. By the 2020-21 academic year, that amount jumped to $10,560, an increase of 2,580%.  This is a cumulative price increase of about 567% during the last 50 years.

What are parents and students supposed to do?  The world says "take on as many student loans as you need!  Everyone is doing it and you'll pay it off eventually..."

Greg Gipp joins us today to both offer help and hope that we don't need to go into a mountain of debt to achieve the goals and dreams God has laid on our hearts.  We have options!  And, we can avoid becoming a slave to the lender, which impacts every part of our lives.  This is a must-listen for parents and students who are in their upper high school years.

To get a hold of Greg Gipp, please e-mail John at [email protected]

Additional resource we recommend parents and students watch:
Borrowed Future:  How Student Loans are Killing the American Dream

Stats:

• https://www.statista.com/topics/1249/homosexuality/#topicHeader__wrapper
•  https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2013/06/13/chapter-3-the-coming-out-experience/

Books:

• Love Thy Body:  Nancy Pearcey
• Space at the Table: Brad and Drew Harper
• Embodied:  Transgender Identities, the Church, and What the Bible Has to Say:  Preston Sprinkle
• Homosexuality and the Church:  Mark Yarhouse
• Understanding Gender Dysphoria:  Mark Yarhouse
• Emerging Gender Identities:  Mark Yarhouse
• Gay Girl, Good God:  Jackie Hill Perry
• What Does the Bible Really Teach About Homosexuality?:  Kevin Deyoung
• Born this way?:  J. Alan Branch
• Is God anti-gay?:  Sam Alberry

Resources:

1.  The Center for Faith, Sexuality, and Gender:  Parenting LGBTQ Kids

2.  Christian sexuality video guide for parents and teens (e-mail [email protected] for a license to view this)

3.   Axis Parent's Guide to LGBTQ+

4.  Rooted Ministries Podcast Episode:  Understanding and Caring for Same-Sex attracted Teenagers

Stats:

• https://www.statista.com/topics/1249/homosexuality/#topicHeader__wrapper
•  https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2013/06/13/chapter-3-the-coming-out-experience/

Books:

• Love Thy Body:  Nancy Pearcey
• Space at the Table: Brad and Drew Harper
• Embodied:  Transgender Identities, the Church, and What the Bible Has to Say:  Preston Sprinkle
• Homosexuality and the Church:  Mark Yarhouse
• Understanding Gender Dysphoria:  Mark Yarhouse
• Emerging Gender Identities:  Mark Yarhouse
• Gay Girl, Good God:  Jackie Hill Perry
• What Does the Bible Really Teach About Homosexuality?:  Kevin Deyoung
• Born this way?:  J. Alan Branch
• Is God anti-gay?:  Sam Alberry

Resources:

1.  The Center for Faith, Sexuality, and Gender:  Parenting LGBTQ Kids

2.  Christian sexuality video guide for parents and teens (e-mail [email protected] for a license to view this)

3.   Axis Parent's Guide to LGBTQ+

4.  Rooted Ministries Podcast Episode:  Understanding and Caring for Same-Sex attracted Teenagers

Hey everyone, this is part 2 of our conversation on "The Talk", in which we cover many of the distortions of sex in our culture.  This is such an important conversation so we hope this episode helps you along with all the resources below to engage your teens well!

• www.gracepres.org

Research, Resources, and Data on Sexuality and Teens

Porn, Lust, and Masturbation:

• https://www.defendyoungminds.com (for younger kids)
• https://protectyoungeyes.com/resources/
• https://fightthenewdrug.org/resources/
• https://exoduscry.com/pcnp/resources/
• Barna statistics on porn
• Barna additional statistics on porn 

Sexual activity before marriage and healthy boundaries:

• Pew research stats on Christian views of premarital sex
• Desiring God article on healthy sexual boundaries
• Article on healthy dating boundaries

Sexual Assault/Abuse statistics:

• Definitions and stats on sexual harrassment 
• Rainn stats on sexual violence
• Safe Horizon definitions and stats on rape and sexual violence

Important Interviews/Documentaries/Movies to Watch (we recommend parents preview them first):

• Brain, Heart, World (free, but need to sign up first)
• Social Media Dangers Documentary—Childhood 2.0
• Raised on Porn Documentary
• Should Christian parents ever give their kids a smartphone? (Gospel Coalition)
• Teens share what age they think they will give their kids a smartphone 
• The Heart of Man Movie (You can purchase or rent it)

Monitoring software that could be helpful in setting boundaries:

• Bark
• Apple Screen Time
• Covenant Eyes

In this episode, we work through  part 1 of a 2 part series on how to have "The Talk" with your kids (btw, it's actually an ongoing conversation!). In this episode, we discuss ways of being proactive in sharing God's design of sexuality and things to keep in mind as you begin to engage your kids in a healthy way. Check out Part 2, where we go further into discussing awareness of the distortions and sexual cultural moment we find ourselves in today.

Resources and Links:

• GracePres.org/Students
• Sex Education Curriculum for Families and Parent Conversation Guide - Rooted 
• Talking to Your Kids About Sex: A Parent-Child Bible Study - Covenant Eyes
• Axis Ministry Parent's Guide to the Sex Talk with kids

Hey, Teleios listeners!

As our world returns more and more to "normal"  we recognize that it can mean we are susceptible to quickly return to a kind of over-busyness that grabs ahold of our lives and our kid's lives and defines our priorities and values without our permission. What can be done?? What wisdom does scripture have to offer us? Tune in to hear more!

GracePres.org/Students
Scripture References: Deut 6:4-9, Col 3:23, Heb 10:25, Mark 2:27
Resources:
- "The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry" - John Mark Comer
- "Estimated probability of competing in professional sports"
- "Part Two: Sports and the Busyness Epidemic"
- "The Remedy for an Addiction to Busyness"