Can you believe that Bonnie and Adam have created 150 episodes of “Tell Me About Your Kids” over the last 3 years?! In this episode, they reflect on the experience, as well as what they’ve both come to understand about Connective Parenting and the universal struggles of parenthood. 

From punishment to being friends with your kids, to loving but sometimes not liking them, to wondering how life would be if we’d never had them, to the effects of generational trauma, Bonnie and Adam touch on many of life’s quandaries. And of course, the conversation wouldn’t be complete without a BIG thank you to the MANY generous parents who have been guests on the show. 

 An Important Note: This summer, Bonnie and Adam are taking a well-deserved hiatus. But don’t worry, you can catch up on popular episodes, ones you missed, or any you feel like it’s time to revisit. Stay tuned for details about the next chapter of Tell Me About Your Kids coming later this year! 

Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

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When little kids fight and hurt each other, it’s all a parent can do not to grab, yell, blame and ultimately shame the hitter. Lee and Andre are learning how to hold their 3-year-old hitter accountable without all that. Instead, Celine learns the natural consequences of her behavior (a lost opportunity with blame) and how to develop her brain to think ahead—as long as Lee and Andre can alter their mindset and therefore their automatic reactions. The key to raising responsible, respectful people is modeling that ourselves. Lee and Andre need to reprogram old tapes that quickly assume malice and tell them yelling at Celine is the way to teach her not to do it again. Tune in to learn the No-Blame Solution to sibling fights—no matter what age your kids.

Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

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There is nothing more urgent for parents today than what their children are or will be doing on social media. Fears run rampant and get in the way of effective communication with children. Devorah Heitner, Ph.D. author of the best seller “Screenwise”, talks with me about our children’s public lives online that she explores extensively in her upcoming book, “Growing Up in Public: Coming of Age in a Digital World”. We cover everything from “sharenting” to sexting to surveillance apps at home and at school. Listen in to get Devorah’s strategies for developing your kids’ online character, teaching consent and safety as opposed to policing and forbidding.

Listen to Chapter 1 of Growing Up in Public on her website Devorahheitner.com

Preorder Growing Up in Public now wherever you get books for September release

Follow her on Instagram @devorahheitnerphd

Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

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Hannah grew as a person and a parent when she learned the hard way to pay
attention to her daughter’s experience and not compare it to her own. What 13 year
old Josie has learned to be comfortable with is all new territory for Hannah. In her
eager attempt to prove her support for her daughter, she was actually taking care of
herself instead. Listen in for first-hand evidence of the power of mutual respect and
strong boundaries from the early years on so that the inevitable hard stuff is not so
hard to get through and learn from.

Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

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Even when connection is strong with her two boys, 14 and 6, screens pose problems for Anne. Her intentions are on track to support the boys’ self-regulation skills but when agreements are broken and sleep is lost, worries take over and tempers rise. Two entirely different temperaments require different expectations. The expectations for her Harmony Child can easily rise and create more pressure than Anne realizes. Choices and boundaries—understanding whose problem is whose—will help the self-regulation Anne hopes for and ensure that her harmony son never silences his voice.

Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

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When past learned behaviors pop up and derail connection with her two children, Ellie’s default is to blame herself. She feels so discouraged when they won’t do as she asks. Why can’t I get this right is what echoes in her head until she starts stressing and yelling to get them to do it right. Just by understanding where her thinking comes from is the beginning of de-fusing that button that gets pushed so she can have the connection she wants. She is so close.

 Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

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Harry, 9, is an impulsive, Integrity kid* reacting, as kids do, to how he has come to view himself—not good enough, not as loved as his sister, a problem, bad. His parents have raised him by the common myth that ordering and criticizing a child for bad behavior will cause that child to change that behavior—and that one should never give positive attention to negative behavior. Harry has developed a strong defense of clownish yet aggressive and hurtful “silliness”—a defense that protects his belief in himself. Tune in to learn where Harry’s resentment and anger comes from and how his mother must first see Harry differently before he can see himself differently.

Other podcasts about Integrity and Harmony kids:

Episode 12 – Oct. 6, ’20 The Orchid Child and the Dandelion Child Pt. 2

Episode 13 - Oct. 13, ’20 Stubborn Kid, Frustrated Parents

Episode 34 – March 18, 21 The Squeaky Wheel Gets the Most but Wrong Kind of Attention

Episode 40 – April 29, 21 Controlling the Fight

Episode 49 – July 1, ’21 “Parenting him is like a full-time job”

Episode 73 – Dec. 16, ’21 “This behavior has got to stop!”

Episode 89 – April 7, 22 Dealing with Emotion Explosions

Episode 99 – June 16, ’22 “Why don’t I ever get to decide?” Helping an Integrity Kid Feel Heard

Episode 124 – Dec. 15, ’23 When It Feels Like You’ve Lost Control without Punishment

Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

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Website: bonnieharris.com 

Email: [email protected]

Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch

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Hallie and her now ex-husband adopted their first child, Kyle. Subsequently she got pregnant with her second son, Kayden, the subject of much resentment for Kyle. In this episode we dig into the many causes of Kyle’s anger as well as his “I don’t care” attitude. Adoption is complicated for a child, and in this case, Kyle feels the rejection twice over. Traditional parenting with punitive consequences has made things worse for him. Now is the time for healing deep-set wounds. Listen in for tips on how effective communication can help Kyle express his anger more productively and trust his mother so he can find his way back.

 Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

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Blame is what turns sibling fights into sibling rivalry. Rivalry brings with it pretty constant anger and resentment at least from one child toward another. But it’s hard not to blame the child who hits or deeply hurts another. The parents job is to help children thru their own tough times—not do it for them and not put them down for doing it wrong. Blame never teaches what you want. Learn how to use the No-Blame Solution to teach your children not only to stop resenting each other but to care for each other and be accountable for their actions.

Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

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Siblings are going to fight. They are too close to each other not to. It’s tricky to allow their fights without turning them into sibling rivalry. Rivalry is the key word here. Your kids become rivals for your approval. That is unless you are always able to keep your approval neutral and stay out of their fights. That’s the hard part when you see one of them treating the other unfairly. Get on board with these tools so you can keep their arguing and bickering far away from any rivalry.

Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

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Website: bonnieharris.com 

Email: [email protected]

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